Article lead:
It is said that marriage is the tomb of love, but I think it is more like a wall. People outside want to go in, people inside want to come out.
Some people get married because they are happy. But some people get married just to pass on the family line. Even in their eyes, marriage is just an experience in life. In their hearts, marriage is not taken seriously. Even if they have married a wife and have children, they still only care about themselves in their hearts.
Today’s story comes from a 35-year-old woman: Ms. Lin. She has been married to her husband for 10 years, and gave birth to a son and a daughter for her husband. A family that should have been happy, but because of her husband's always selfish lifestyle, lives in dire straits every day.
Ms. Lin’s private prosecution:
My husband and I were introduced to me by a matchmaker. When the matchmaker introduced me, he said: This boy is very practical, smart and capable, motivated, and has friends around him. Word of mouth is also good in our eyes.
When I was with the old bus, his performance was indeed consistent with the description in the media. He was a smart, capable, self-motivated, and practical man.
decided to be with him at the beginning, and it was precisely these qualities that he fancyed. But what I didn't expect was that after getting married, all of his qualities were gone.
can't be said to be invisible, I can only say that he is still the same as before, but he has shown these excellent qualities to outsiders, but the opposite is true for his family.
After marrying my husband, his original image in my heart instantly became inversely proportional.
My confinement husband didn’t care about me, and even stayed away.
When my husband and I got married, because of limited financial conditions,We did not buy a wedding house when we got married, and we have been living with in-laws since we got married.
From the beginning, I have always been doing what my status daughter-in-law should do. I will take care of my in-laws’ daily life without saying anything.
Only slowly, I discovered that my in-laws were biased towards me. Although they didn't say anything on the surface, I could clearly feel that they disliked me.
The main reason, I think it is because my first birth was a girl. Because before I gave birth to my baby, although my in-laws and my in-laws couldn't say how harmonious they were, they were still respectful.
But when I gave birth to my daughters, their attitude towards me changed significantly. Although they said that boys and girls are the same, they told others in private that I gave birth to a loser.
I was very sad when I heard the news, but after all, they are my in-laws, and my daughter-in-law must not be awkward with them, so I had to complain to my husband.
But my husband has never cared about me since I gave birth. Even socializing with some wine and meat friends outside every day, sometimes staying out at night.
After living apart from his in-laws, he was even more exaggerated than before.
Because of some of the ways in-laws in bringing up children, I can’t get used to it, so I often quarrel with in-laws because of some children’s training issues. .
But every time I quarrel with my in-laws, my husband chooses not to help each other. Outsiders may think that this is a wise choice for him, but in my heart, he just doesn't want to take responsibility and find it troublesome.
Later, my husband’s unit was given a small apartment of 80 square meters, and my husband and I finally moved out from the house of in-laws.
I thought that after moving to a new home, I could have a new start and run the family well with my husband. What I didn't expect was that after my husband left his in-laws, all his shortcomings were exposed.
When with in-laws,Somehow he will pay attention to personal hygiene. But when we moved to our new home, my husband was messy all day long.
If it was a normal working day, he would go out to wash his face somehow and make himself more clean. But if he was resting at home during the holidays, he would not even wash his face when he got up every day, and he never knew how to clean up the house at home.
When the two of us were eating together, he was always reluctant to eat. If I wanted to improve the food and buy some meat, he would accuse me of spending money.
But as soon as the weekend comes, he will bring a group of friends, friends, and friends back home as guests, and then he will tell me to go to the kitchen to cook and entertain them. Every time he brings people back, I will be busy for a long time. After they had finished eating, my husband followed them out to play cards, or went to other places to play.
doesn't care about the family at all, and never knows how to feel sorry for me. I haven't thought about divorce, but after all, I am a mother, and I don't want my child to lose his father or mother at such a young age.
My husband tempered me into a strong woman
Later, after a few quarrels with my husband, my husband was relieved. But at this time, under the urging of in-laws, we had another second child. I didn't want to have any more children. But at this time, my parents also persuaded me to have a second child, saying that when I get old, I can have multiple guarantees.
So I followed the advice of my parents and had a second child with my husband. This time I succeeded in adding a boy to my husband’s family. My in-laws were very happy and rewarded me with RMB 10,000.
But I am not happy, because after the second birth, my in-laws moved into our house. It's not that I don't welcome my in-laws to come to live in our house, but because my husband is coming to help with the children, he just became the same as before, hanging out with friends, friends and foxes every day.
I spent three years on days like this, and when Xiaobao started to go to kindergarten, my in-laws moved out. My husband also gradually stopped his temper. I thought he was finally relieved, but at this time, he was addicted to playing online games.
and he is really too addicted to playing games, he sits motionless in front of the computer when he comes home from get off work,Even if I have to eat, I have to bring it in front of him before I know how to eat.
If he is resting, let alone, he will be lying in front of the computer when he wakes up. I want to call him for a long time.
At first I would argue with him a few words, but gradually I got used to it. If he likes to play games, just play games, it's better than going out and messing with those friends.
During the 10 years of marriage with my husband, he successfully tempered me as a weak woman into a strong woman. I am busy at home, not to mention, but also to take care of the daily life of the whole family.
In the eyes of others, my husband is always shining
My husband has always been synonymous with lazy and sloppy at home. But in the eyes of outsiders, my husband's phenomenon has always been a brilliant and omnipotent image.
Some time ago, a woman moved to the door of our house. She has an enchanting figure, fair skin and delicate features. My age is about the same as me. I am a single mother, living with a daughter by herself.
Listening to her own introduction to us, she divorced her husband because of emotional incompatibility. Originally there was no story between us, but when she first moved in, my husband took the initiative to help others carry their luggage.
I asked a little puzzledly: Do you know? My husband gave me a blank look and said: How can I know someone who just moved here? This isn't about being a neighbor in the future, so let the neighbors get familiar with it.
Although I didn't say much, but I felt very uncomfortable. If you don’t know anyone, what can you do for you?
Later, I didn't take it seriously, but one time when I came back from get off work, I saw the two of them talking and laughing downstairs. When I passed by them, they smiled at me, and then they continued to chat on the sidelines.
I was awkward with them, so I went upstairs first. After my husband came home, I asked them what they were talking about. My husband actually told me: Oh, her daughter has caught a cold recently, I found a remedy online and shared with her.
I am not happy when I hear it,When my child caught a cold, why didn't he see him being so active?
Then I went back to the bedroom angrily, but he didn't even notice that I was angry, so he went back to the computer and played the game.
I have been used to it for so many years, but I feel a little uncomfortable in my heart. I suddenly felt a little wronged in my heart. He never cared about me and my child, but he was very enthusiastic about others.
His image at home is that he is lazy and eats himself and the family is not hungry. But in the eyes of outsiders, he is a practical and capable man who runs home after work, especially a good man who takes care of his family.
I haven't thought about divorcing him, but every time I look at my child calling him father, my heart suddenly softens again. During the years of marriage with him, I have been living in dire straits every day. Should I persist in such a marriage?
Concluding remarks:
There are so many stories about Ms. Lin, and I don’t know how to evaluate it after reading it. It can only be said that the story she described is too one-sided, although the image of her husband in the story she told is really bad.
But since Ms. Lin can be patient and live with each other for 10 years, I think Ms. Lin's husband must also have something worthy of Ms. Lin's insistence.
Although Ms. Lin has been using her child as an excuse, she said she wanted to divorce but she was a little bit reluctant. But I think Ms. Lin still loves her husband in her heart.
So I hope that Ms. Lin will consider it carefully before making a decision. If you really feel that you can't make it, then go according to your own feelings. I only hope that the affairs of Ms. Lin and her husband will not affect the children.
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