Although in the eyes of many young people, marriage is a matter for both lovers and has nothing to do with others. By understanding some marriage stories, we can find that marriage is not the decision of both husband and wife, but the union of two families.
Since ancient times, getting along with your relatives has always been a major problem in marriage. Although the relationship between relatives is close, many relatives cannot reach friendly exchanges in the actual communication process.
Affected by this situation, many people will investigate each other's family before marriage. After marriage, keep a certain distance between relatives and families to avoid conflicts caused by too close communication and affect the happy life of young couples.
According to 65-year-old Aunt Xia, the stupidest decision in her life was to get too close to her daughter's in-laws. By understanding Aunt Xia’s family, we will find that her husband died of illness in her early years. In this case, she is solely responsible for raising her daughter. After her daughter grew up, she chose to study and work elsewhere. Since then, Aunt Xia has been living alone.
For Aunt Xia, she will not feel lonely because she lives alone. On the contrary, she is very happy that her daughter can live independently. But in an accident, Aunt Xia suddenly fell. At that time, because there was no one to take care of her, Aunt Xia had to ask neighbors for help. With the help of neighbors, Aunt Xia was taken to the hospital, but for the next few months, Aunt Xia could only stay at home alone, with no one to take care of her.
Aunt Xia's daughter decided to bring Aunt Xia to her. Although Aunt Xia was worried about her daughter's troubles at first, after repeated requests from her daughter, Aunt Xia also decided to live with her daughter and enjoy the happiness of the family.
Although many young couples do not want to live with their elders, Aunt Xia’s daughter and son-in-law welcome Aunt Xia’s arrival. In daily life, Aunt Xia not only helps the couple clean the housework, but also helps them take the children to and from school. In this case, the pressure of the couple's life has been relieved. After living for a few years, Aunt Xia likes this life more and more, but Aunt Xia did not expect that her happy life will change a lot in the days to come.
Like Aunt Xia, her mother-in-law Aunt Zhang also lost her husband in her early years. Aunt Zhang is a few years older than Aunt Xia, and her physical condition is naturally worse.After a stroke, Aunt Xia's son-in-law stopped letting his mother live alone, so he decided to take her home to take care of her.
When Aunt Xia heard her son-in-law's decision, she did not object. After all, she has lived in her daughter-in-law's house for many years. It is obviously unreasonable not to let her in-laws go home. At the same time, Aunt Xia also expressed the hope that the young couple can save money for hiring a nanny so that she can take care of her in-laws. Hearing Aunt Xia's suggestion, the couple was very moved. A few days later, Aunt Xia's son-in-law took his mother home.
Aunt Xia’s in-laws were ill in bed all day and almost lost mobility. In daily life, Aunt Xia almost constantly takes care of her in-laws, which makes her very tired. It is reasonable to say that Aunt Xia's in-laws should be moved by such efforts, but Aunt Xia's in-laws are not a considerate person.
Because Aunt Xia has no experience in caring for patients, she naturally cannot do everything well. In daily life, Aunt Zhang often scolds Aunt Xia, accusing her of being inferior to a nurse. Aunt Xia is strong throughout her life and has never been so wronged. When night falls, Aunt Xia will hide in the room and cry secretly.
Aunt Xia's daughter felt embarrassed when she learned of this situation. After all, one party is his mother and the other is his mother-in-law. The elderly on both sides will not be harmed.
In desperation, Aunt Xia's daughter can only hire a professional nurse to take care of her mother-in-law. At this time, Aunt Xia does not have to continue to take care of her in-laws, but she regrets her previous behavior.
If she did not take the initiative to take care of her in-laws, the relationship between the two families would not become so rigid. Although Aunt Xia regrets her previous decision, there is no regret medicine in the world. As the relationship between Aunt Xia and her in-laws broke down, it was difficult to have a chance to make up.
For Aunt Xia, she can feel this in the last regret. Later, she also realized her previous mistakes. Although Aunt Xia took care of her in-laws out of good intentions, this kindness eventually did bad things.
I believe that in the future Aunt Xia can also make corresponding corrections and keep a certain distance from her in-laws.So as not to affect family harmony.
It can be seen that if family ties are too close, there will be many conflicts, which will put young couples in a dilemma. If the in-laws can keep a certain distance and avoid close communication, the life of the couple will be more harmonious and happier.
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