Share my original intention of renewing the original headline number , which stems from my own life experience.
My story, to put it simply-eight years of love, hurried marriage, postpartum depression, separation between the two places, husband cheating, wits against a junior, to save her husband, learn psychology to become a teacher and start sharing a home for couples Ways of relationship happiness.
Nowadays, the happiness of couples and couples has been declining year by year. With the rapid economic development of in recent years, people have begun to get rid of the traditional concepts of “make do” and “divorce shame”, and more and more Pay attention to the quality of your marriage and how you feel in the marriage. A further investigation revealed that 46.23% of netizens in love are satisfied with their partner relationship, and 42.14% of married netizens are satisfied with their partner relationship. In other words, more than half of the people are dissatisfied with their relationship!
Intimacy has always been the most important part that affects happiness. No matter how powerful you are, what achievements you have made in your career, intimacy may make you feel helpless.
This is the reality we are facing. In such a real life, if the husband and wife encounter work transfer, third party interference, elderly mother-in-law disputes, or children’s difficulties with all kinds of problems, couples What happiness is there in between.
But when we returned home, the first thing we faced was our partner. The partner helped us recharge and care, but at the same time it gave us the greatest pain and trauma...
My husband has always treated me very much since college. Beloved, the two are rarely separated. Later, because of a job transfer, he went abroad, and I also went abroad.We have all chosen jobs abroad.
During that time we were very happy, constantly expanding our knowledge and enjoying the food and scenery outside.
However...I was pregnant less than half a year after I went abroad. At that time, we had been married for more than a year. Now that I have a child, I will give birth.
I still remember my reaction at the time. I was so shocked that my menstruation was delayed for 16 days. I really thought it was a menstrual problem, which was rarely accurate.
8 or 9 months of pregnancy, I was abroad, but we are in Malaysia, and many things are not as good as in China. In addition, he works. Sometimes I get sick easily, have bad health, often catch colds, which is not good for pregnancy. , 5 months pregnant, I quit my job, I try to comfortably expect to give birth.
During pregnancy, the husband is also better, after all, two people are together. But I became sensitive... After 8 months, I found that many of the hospital’s practices were different from those in China, and I was very uncomfortable. Relatively speaking, he wanted to return to his country more and more. In addition, his career may be unstable. We decided that I would first When he returned to China, he settled his career problems and returned to China. I am a person who is about to give birth to a child and can't wait.
There is really no right or wrong in the memory of this incident, but we have all neglected. The separation of the two couples itself is a big blow to a pregnant woman. It is emotional separation and loneliness. This couple needs to care about it. When it was terrible for pregnant women, I was blindly optimistic that I could handle everything...
Until I gave birth in China, started confinement and stayed up all night, my mother was grumpy... …I don’t have a husband by my side. I can only contact him on his mobile phone and meet once every two months.
At that time, I had separation anxiety disorder, which was related to my native family. It would only be triggered after a long separation. Therefore, this incident caused my extreme instability.
My pain has been sent to him continuously through WeChat, and he suddenly fell into anxious mood. Our cracks began at this time. He was in the period of career upswing, and I was depressed after giving birth.
The husband and a female colleague of his company are going well,And I’m the one who bears the pain of staying up late to bring children, and often can’t contact him...
This thing... he concealed it from me for more than half a year, until, my good friend abroad couldn’t bear it, she couldn’t sleep all night. , Told me fearfully, and when she told me, I still didn't believe it.
After learning about this, my first reaction was—heartache and fainted...what can I get if I get divorced? I have been pregnant for more than a year and have no job temporarily, and I may not be able to get custody of the newly born child.
So I went through untold hardships, dragging my poor and weak body with a few months old child to go abroad, and return to him, first to find out who it is, why this is happening, and what happened...
When I saw that when I lost half my life and gave birth to a baby, he had already lived a two-person world with others... In my heart, you can imagine, this is What kind of state of mind.
In order to survive, I began to arrange myself to study psychology, hired a psychologist, and then took my parents abroad to bring me children, and I communicated with him on my own.
Regarding this paragraph, I spent half a year figuring out the ins and outs of my husband's change of heart and derailment, and then I took the initiative to propose that communicating with the junior is the process of tearing the junior, and then calmed my husband's emotions and reunited the family. Then I started to heal my own wounds slowly.
This paragraph is very painful, and I will share it with you in the next article. I just want to say that after this incident, I thoroughly understand what life is impermanent, and what is love is not eternal love. What you can rely on is yourself, not your body, but your inner wisdom!
Now my husband regrets everything that happened before, expressing compensation, and caring more about the child than I am... I can’t say how happy my family is. I just want to say that facing my husband’s derailment or wife’s derailment, this kind of huge Trauma, don't be angry, mess up your stitches, if you are in the same situation, you are welcome to pay attention to me.
Nothing is right or wrong,It can only be said that we all have to learn to face our own pain, and avoiding it can only make it more painful.
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