I am 67 years old and have retired for 12 years. During these 12 years, I could be free and happy, but I had a hard time. The middle-aged wife lost her husband and was pointed out by her in-laws for several years. I was forced to take my son to the city and live as a single parent. I did not remarry, but I was busy working to earn money just to give my son a better life. Later, my son got married and moved out, and I lived alone again.
In the first year after my retirement, my daughter-in-law was pregnant, and my son said that he would come back to live, save my living expenses, take good care of me, so that I am no longer alone.
When I heard my son say this, I was very moved. I thought that after raising my son for more than 20 years, I finally knew how to obey me. However, the return of my son made my life worse.
At first, my son and daughter-in-law were very filial. It's so sweet to call "Mom" every day. I provide them with three meals a day. Does it mean that I work hard, my son will help me with housework, and my family members often talk and laugh, which makes me very happy?
However, when the granddaughter was born, this happy life began to toss. Not only to serve the couple, but also to help with the children. Even they are a little tired of children. In the fourth month, the daughter-in-law weaned the baby and ran back to work at the company.
My son comes back from get off work every day. He doesn't help with the children, but lies on the sofa and plays with his mobile phone. I have to carry my grandson to cook and do housework, and I am very tired, so I planted the source of low back pain!
When I got back pain, my son would take care of me and take me to a Chinese massage, but after expressing my feelings, I became lazy. Every time I asked him to apply some ointment to me, I was disgusted and even accused me of going to the square dance every day and spraining my waist. I didn't know how to explain this, so I stopped the square dance and took care of the baby wholeheartedly.
After more than four years, I finally sent my granddaughter to kindergarten. I thought I could relax, but my daughter-in-law gave me a grandson again and kept me busy. I have to take care of two children and two adults at the same time. At that time, the little grandson was very noisy, and his hair burned for three days, which made me unable to sleep at night.
The daughter-in-law is better than the monkey. She put two children's beds in my room,Granddaughter sleeps, grandson sleeps. The couple will sleep with the door closed. At that time, I was extremely tired, and my back was getting more and more hunched, but these children did not take it seriously, but were slowly eating my pension money.
After giving birth to her second child, my daughter-in-law came for a big break. She rested at my house for half a year, and then went to her mother's house for three months. She had nothing to do. She ate and slept with Yego every day, or went shopping with friends. She often asks me for money when she has no money, saying that she will return it to me after work, but until now, she has no plans to return it to me.
My son's work is always stagnant. He has been an accountant for 10 years and he is still a small accountant. Although his salary can support a family, he cannot support two children.
From the grandchildren to the second child, their money for diapers, clothes and even milk powder comes from my pension. My son only gives me 2200 yuan to eat every month, and the rest is given to my wife. To tell the truth, 2,200 yuan is not enough for three adults and two children.
So, I have saved many years of pension money, and there is not much left.
Even if you run out of money, the pain will increase. Because of being taken care of by the child for a long time and bending over to take care of the child, my waist disease became more and more serious, and I couldn't stand up even after squatting several times. I told my son that I might not be able to do it, so I had to go to the hospital for a comprehensive examination. Another daughter-in-law said that she knew a bone orthopedic technician, gave me a screw, rubbed it with ointment, and it was all right!
However, being pressed by the master relieved a lot, but it became more painful the next day. In order not to worry my son and daughter-in-law, I secretly went to the hospital for an examination. It turns out that lumbar disc herniation needs surgery to recover better.
But I still want to endure. After all, the doctor also said that taking medicine can recover. So, I just want my son and daughter-in-law to go back to their home, but I really can't bring two children. If I continue like this, sooner or later I will be exhausted.
But my son and daughter-in-law do not understand me, especially daughter-in-law. She said to me like this: "Mom, we are just parents. How can you let go when you need help the most? Are you so cruel?"
I am a very softhearted woman. When I heard my daughter-in-law crying, she said to me, I really can’t stand it.Make them very tired. At that time, the little grandson was almost 2 years old, and it was not too late to let go after two years of kindergarten. In this way, I gave in to my son and daughter-in-law.
But last May Day broke my heart. It also made me realize that my son did not move back to accompany me, nor was he filial to me, but treated me as a "free nanny."
At that time, due to special reasons, I couldn't go out on May Day, but because I took my child to the park, I had to go home late, so I called my wife and asked her to prepare meals first, and I would go back late.
As soon as I got home, I thought I could wash my hands and eat. As a result, one daughter-in-law and son lay on the sofa and played mobile phones, while the other was playing games in the room. I asked my daughter-in-law about the dishes, and she said the dishes were not ready yet. I really wanted to get angry at the time. what time is it? I even want to play with my cell phone, but when I have two children by my side, I can hardly say anything about her. There was no feeling in my heart at that time.
Next Sunday, it happens to be Mother's Day, and the children of other people's families are preparing to give their mothers a holiday, giving gifts and big bags, or preparing drinks and food for guests. However, my family said nothing. What's more ridiculous is that my son suddenly called me that day and asked me to buy more good food and celebrate in the evening. I thought it was a celebration for me, and I was very happy all day.
Unexpectedly, it was my daughter-in-law who was happy that night. Everything my son asked me to do was for my daughter-in-law’s celebration. That night, my son gave her a large bouquet of flowers and bought her a necklace, which made me very sad. I am not jealous or jealous, but disappointed and sad.
I went back to Guangxi to visit relatives at the beginning of this year. I had to go there for three days. As a result, the middle lumbar spondylosis recurred, and I stayed at my mother's house for another three or four days. When my daughter-in-law heard that I would stay a few more days, she became restless. Every day, she calls me to hurry home. She doesn't care about my health at all. I said that my back pain cannot be recovered temporarily.
And my wife directly blamed me: I told you not to go back to your mother's house, but you have to go. The road is so long, it's okay to find guilt!
I whispered, if I don't come back, they will be exhausted. Every day, they bring two children and the food is not good. It is troublesome to go out to the dinner party. Even my son wants to send the two children there and let me take care of them at home for a while,But the reason is that they are going to travel!
It is really chilling to see my son and daughter-in-law like this. After retirement, I can take my pension and enjoy my old age alone. In the end, I brought them two sick children and gave them a free nanny, but I still couldn't understand them, which made me more and more disappointed.
After returning from my mother's house, I asked my son and daughter-in-law to move out. Seriously, I can't afford this kind of company. If I continue to live, I will not only be gnawed away from my pension funds, but even my body will be tortured!
Although my son and daughter-in-law begged to stay, I still insisted that they leave. In the end, my son and daughter-in-law had no choice but to go back to her hometown, but she was very angry with me, saying that I was selfish, that I was not worthy to be a mother-in-law, let alone the grandmother of two children, and that she was old and sick in the future, don't count on her Come back to take care of her, and so on.
There is no contact after separation, only two children will often call and greet them, their son and daughter-in-law are like strangers. Except for the New Year, many festivals do not hold meetings.
After calculation, my son has lived in my house for 10 years. I helped him bring up his two children, and I also posted money to serve the two couples. During the period, he bought a car for his son and gave his wife a large sum of money. However, all this selfless dedication did not bring me any grateful feedback, but made my life worse.
Therefore, my son has been filial for nearly ten years. In the eyes of outsiders, I am very happy and beautiful. My family is happy and happy, laughing and laughing. But the actual life has made me very tired and painful!
After reading the story of Aunt Lin, I wonder if it is reasonable for everyone to think that Aunt Lin finally kicked her son out of the house and turned her face with her daughter-in-law. Welcome to leave a message in the comment area to discuss!
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