Last month, I learned that my mother is not in good health, so I wanted to take her to my house to take care of her, but my mother-in-law said: Let me rent a house outside for my mother to live in. When I heard it, I became angry. I yelled: "It's you who should go out to live!" Unexpectedly, my wife helped my mother-in-law blame me and asked me if I didn't want to live anymore, so I made a decision that I won't regret. .
I am 35 years old and work as a business executive in a listed company. My wife is 32 years old and an accountant in a company. We have been married for 8 years and have a 6-year-old son in kindergarten. My wife and I are both the only child in the family. There are no other brothers and sisters in the family. Both parents need to support. We took this into consideration when we bought the house, so we bought a large house with 4 bedrooms and 2 halls. The family living in one area is also spacious. My father and my husband are all doing odd jobs outside and are often away from home.
So I discussed with my wife and took my mother and mother-in-law to live in our house so that we can take care of each other. But in less than half a year, my mother moved back to her hometown. My mother has a very gentle personality and has never seen her blush with others.
The thing is like this. A year ago, my mother and mother-in-law came to our house. I planned that my son was only 5 years old. The two elderly people could help bring the children, transport them to and from school, and do the housework together. Taking into account that the two elderly people have relieved the burden for us, I gave them 1,000 yuan in pocket money each month. But my mother didn’t want to take her own grandson, she didn’t need to pay, and she was satisfied if she managed food and shelter with me. Even if she gave her money, there was nowhere to spend it, and she told me to save the money and use it in the future. There are many places for money, but my mother-in-law said nothing, and accepted the money with peace of mind.
At first, the atmosphere at home was quite harmonious. My wife and I went to work early in the morning, and returned home from work in the afternoon. Dinner was ready. My mother and mother-in-law got along pretty well, but later I found out that all this was just an illusion. One day, when I was at work, I suddenly felt unwell, so I asked the company for leave and went home. After I walked in, I saw my mother who was busy mopping the floor and cleaning.I asked casually: "Where is my mother-in-law?"
My mother wiped the sweat from her forehead and said, "She has something to do, go out!" At the time, I was a little dizzy and didn't ask much, so I walked straight in. Lie down in his bedroom to rest. At noon, I heard my mother-in-law arguing in the living room in a daze! She said: "What time is it, the food is not ready, the clothes are not washed, what are you busy with all morning?" My mother replied after hearing this: "In-law, I just finished cleaning the house, but I didn’t have time to cook. Wait a minute and I’ll do it right away.”
The mother-in-law said like a servant: “Okay, don’t be too long, go and cook now!” After I heard it in the room, that I was very angry. I hurriedly opened the door to ask what was going on. My mother immediately said to me: "My child, is your head still dizzy? Or go back and lie down for a while. When lunch is done, I will call you. Get up and eat."
When my mother-in-law saw me at home, she said awkwardly, "Hey, what's the matter? People are uncomfortable. Go to the hospital to have a look. Don't hold back!" After that, she went to wash the clothes. When I was about to talk, my mother gave me a wink and told me not to be troublesome! Only then did I understand that when my wife and I were not at home, all the housework was done by my mother alone, and the mother-in-law was just picking up the children to and from school. No wonder my mother looked so tired. She was tired. of!
After lunch, my mother talked to me. She said that she should do more things, all as exercises, so I don’t want to think about it. My mother acts as a servant, and my wife treats my mother in a sloppy way!
After my mother lived in my house for half a year, she proposed to go back to her hometown, saying that she was homesick and was not used to living in the city. In the end, no matter how I stayed, my mother insisted on going back. Before leaving, my mother explained Me, she said the mother-in-law was not bad-hearted, so I had to bear it a little bit more, and I only agreed.
But as soon as my mother left, my mother-in-law clamored that she was tired and she was too busy alone. She asked me to add money to her every month, up to 4,000 yuan a month. I was angry when I heard that, I My monthly salary is only 10,000. Excluding the mortgage, car loan, and family expenses, I have little left.
wife’s monthly salary of 5000 yuan,Basically, she was using it alone, so I didn't agree, but my wife admitted that she would give 3,000 a month, saying that she couldn't let her mother do it for nothing! I felt like I had hired a nanny back, and I had to listen to her everything.
A few days ago, I heard from my aunt that my mother had been in the hospital for a week due to high blood pressure a month ago. I did not expect such a big event, but my mother did not tell me. After listening to it, I felt very uncomfortable, so I decided to take my mother back, but my mother disagreed, saying that she was in good health, which made me feel relieved.
Yesterday, I planned to drive back to my hometown and pick up my mother. I didn't expect my mother-in-law to stand up and object, saying that I can’t get along with my mother. Hearing this, I became angry with my mother-in-law. When my wife saw this, my wife blamed me and said that she didn't respect her mother and asked if I didn't want to live anymore. He also said that if I had to take my mother over, then divorce.
After hearing this, I feel that my repeated tolerance will only make them gain an inch. I have seen them through. My mother is old now and needs my care. She is softhearted and swallows all grievances by herself. As a son, How can I make her feel wronged? Besides, even if I honor my mother, they have to stop them. How can I live with such a person for a lifetime? So I made a decision, and that was divorce.
Everyone tell me this decision is correct?
@城市打拼的啊森Talking emotional personal opinion:
Thanks for sharing with this friend, I agree with your point of view, your mother is a good mother, is a dedication, for Your family is willing to give, but your mother-in-law dare not flatter her, thinking about money and being lazy and slippery. Comparing the two mothers, one is in the sky and the other is underground.
It is better to consider divorce,I suggest not to be impulsive. For such a trivial matter, divorce is not worthwhile. You can sit down and talk slowly when you encounter things. You can communicate with each other. Your husband and wife are only children. Your parents need your care. You are divorced. You will still face these things. Question, why don't you calm down and talk about it.
Finally, I wish your family a happy and happy family!
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