According to unofficial statistics, There are currently about 38 million single women in China, and single women are getting older. What is the reason behind this?
The seventh census showed that there are 35 million more Chinese men than women. This is an indisputable fact, but the number of single women is surprising.
Theoretically speaking, because there are more men and fewer women, men are at a disadvantage when they get married. However, as women, it is incredible to say that they can't find a target. In the vast rural areas and small and medium-sized cities in China, male bachelors desire to get married. Looking forward to seeing you, there are some single men who don't have any requirements for their spouses at all, even if the women don't know anything, but they can live their lives and get married. This is a family. There is another saying that in some rural areas, if a person died of old age, he would not be able to enter the ancestral grave.
In rural China, there are relatively few older single women. First, it is the traditional cultural concept in rural areas. Girls over 30 years old do not get married and are often pointed out. Even if they don’t care, their parents do To withstand the pressure from relatives and friends around. Although the freedom of marriage in today's society is no longer the order of the matchmaker's parents, the influence of traditional culture cannot be underestimated.
However, in recent years, single rural older women have been on the rise, and the influence of traditional culture has become weaker and weaker, and many families have older women, so no one can laugh at anyone.
There are more older single women in cities. A Mr. Pan from Donghai County, Lianyungang, Jiangsu, who is engaged in the matchmaking industry said: "In their matchmaking company, the female members who sign up for marriage are almost similar to the male members, but there are A very prominent phenomenon is that the age of female members is generally high, and those over 30 account for half."
About 20 years ago, the phenomenon of urban older single women caused a discussion in the whole society, and was gradually accepted by the society. , Think this is the liberation of feminism,The liberation of women's minds.
But nowadays, there are more and more older single women in cities, which has to make people think deeply.
At present, China’s population has become aging. The country has also lifted the restriction on a couple to have three children, and has also introduced related supporting measures. However, the delay of women’s marriage age will undoubtedly cause fertility. Great influence.
From an authoritative report: Women's body development is fully mature during the period of 23 to 30 years of age, and the egg quality is high. If you are pregnant, the risk of childbirth is small, the fetus growth and development are good, and the incidence of premature birth, children with memory and dementia is the lowest. The latest childbearing age is best not to exceed 35 years old. After 35 years old, women are of advanced age.
Previously, the state advocated late marriage and late childbirth, but time has passed. Due to the needs of social development, late marriage and late childbirth are no longer mentioned. Without the supplement of new forces, the country’s economic development is a huge problem.
So, what are the reasons for the increasing number of older single women?
(1) Economically independent
I have to say that women’s economic independence makes women no longer attached to men, and even surpasses men’s ability in certain tasks. The feudal culture of China for thousands of years is that men are superior to women, women are dependent on men's life, and men dominate outside and women dominate inside have always been the mainstream of society.
After the liberation of the country in 1949, the status of women was completely changed. Men and women equal pay for equal work . At that time, the roadside slogan "Women can hold half the sky" was everywhere. After 70 years of economic development, China has undergone earth-shaking changes. The economic and social status of women has been greatly improved.Hospitals, schools, and institutions related to the country’s people’s livelihood account for almost half of women, and women’s voice is becoming more and more important.
The most famous philosophical theory of the great philosopher Marx: "Economy is the foundation, which determines the superstructure." Economic independence means that women can survive without relying on men and get pensions when they are old. So women can choose to be single or have more time to find a good son-in-law, instead of marrying someone in a hurry and regretting for life.
(2) Ideological liberation
Women's economic independence means that they must be liberated ideologically. China was originally a very traditional farming country. Before liberation, the literacy rate of female was very low. Most of them are illiterate. After the liberation, education is universal for the whole people, and the improvement of women's cultural quality is an indispensable factor for women's ideological emancipation.
Especially in the current Internet society, the majority of women receive more information, and they are also affected by many thoughts from the Internet.
The liberation of women's mind also makes them realize their own importance. They have unique cognitions on work, family, marriage, mate selection, and making friends, instead of drifting along with the crowd.
Women's liberation of mind It shows that the improvement of women's human rights in China also makes women more cautious in choosing a spouse. They hope that the other half meets their inner requirements, and they all hope to find their own prince charming. It is the psychology of some women in the current society that it is better not to marry, not to marry by mistake.
(3) mate selection requirements are too high
I have to say that there are more men than women, women’s economic independence, and ideological liberation has led to more and more older single women, but among the many older women , But there are some women who are so lofty and unrealistic.
My circle of friends has seen such a marriage proposal: "A woman, 35 years old this year,Average appearance, low education level, no serious job, and divorced once. The man is required to be under 35 years old, taller than 180, handsome and handsome, not fat, have a house, a car, and have a stable job. The man can be divorced but not Bring children. "
According to friends, the number of divorced single women who have blind dates is not less than that of a strong company. Almost all the dating agencies in the county know her, and there is no dating agency to serve her. A dating agency manager said that this woman is too much. Picked up, the unmarried boy is 175 and she thinks that the other party is short. There is a man who is divorced and has a girl. The overall conditions are very good. She said that she does not want to be a stepmother. In short, the man she sees is not her favorite object.
Actually It is understandable that both men and women have their own set goals for choosing a spouse, but they are looking for partners to learn from each other's strengths and complement each other's strengths. Some single women not only want the man to look like Andy Lau, but humorously like Zhao Benshan, De Cairu Confucius, wealth is comparable to Li Ka-shing , how can it be possible?
Perfect people will not get married, because they are perfect, so they will not choose imperfection. Setting goals that are too high can only highlight the shallowness of the individual’s consciousness and the extremeness of the concept.
(4) The influence of divorce thoughts
In recent years, the divorce rate in China has been on the rise, and divorce registration in certain areas The rate reached 70%, and the numbers were shocking. Influenced by the divorce of the surrounding people, some women were also afraid of marriage. They were very cautious in choosing a spouse and gradually got older.
(5) Advocating individual freedom
Reform and opening up, the biggest ideological impact is advocating individualism and advocating individual freedom.Some women feel that family is a fetter and are unwilling to have children. They hope that individuals have more time to enjoy life before marriage.
In fact, for many older single women who are unwilling to enter the marriage hall, we cannot be too harsh. After all, the choice of marriage is a personal freedom and no one can force it.
But society is an organic whole, and it requires efforts from all aspects to maintain its operation. Most people must get married. In the process of choosing a spouse, one should be rational about choosing a spouse. Your own will do. Countless examples have proved that marriages between strong men and weak women or weak men and strong women are unstable.
What is the best marriage: "Appropriate material is the prerequisite, but the spiritual communication between men and women is particularly important, and it will also make the marriage go longer."
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