Original article/Xiaofei
I am not a person who likes to be alone. Every time I see people who are quiet and leisurely, I will yearn for them and feel that they are what I want to be. This stems from a lot of disacceptance of myself in me. Friends who are closer to me will definitely find it a bit strange if they see it. I appear to be a positive, optimistic, self-confident person, how can I not accept myself?
Adler 's " inferiority and transcendence " said: Inferiority complex is not terrible, the key lies in how to recognize one's inferiority complex, overcome difficulties, and surpass oneself. In fact, everyone has low self-esteem, it just depends on how you face it. How to recognize your own low self-esteem and surpass yourself. In this, we must first have a full understanding of ourselves.
understands what you can and cannot do. Affirmatively recognize and actively play to what can be done, and let it become its own advantage. What can't be done, knowing that you can help yourself, will it be an improvement for yourself after doing it? Instead of getting lost because you want to compare with others and satisfy others' opinions.
When you have a comprehensive understanding, you can make a link with yourself according to what you want to do, and choose a way that suits you and can benefit and grow in the process. Instead of completely deviating from what you have already made, you will only get further and further away from what you want to be. Or the lost self will get lost in an unrealistic pursuit.
In learning and growing, being alone can be said to be the best environmental state. A person's time doesn't seem to be so sad. You can do something you like and engage in enlightenment. So, what this does is particularly important. If you want to improve, you must make solitude meaningful.
Of course, when it comes to being alone, everyone might think of " Walden " by Thoreau . Living alone by the lake, isolated from the outside world, spent more than two years reflecting on self and society,Comprehend the true meaning of life. In the end, his life of enlightenment brought to the world: not infinite hope for realizing self-worth, but infinite power to recover from injury.
This example of being alone and its meaning may not be reachable by everyone. But this mode of living alone and the transmission of the author's inner message have given countless people a state of mind that they can feel when they are alone.
Since being alone can be so mindful, then everyone can use their own way and find a suitable method according to their own environment. For example, some specific activities or forms can be used to fix a certain period of the day as a platform for solitude. It can be a fixed-time reading, a fixed-time meditation, a fixed-time morning exercise, or a fixed-time study.
When we make full use of the fragmentary time of the day to be alone, if we grow over time, we will give back to you in a rich and nourishing way.
Every day reading will let you settle down in the time and space of solitude. Perhaps you have forgotten what you have seen, but the artistic energy will flow from your speech, manners, thinking, and insights anytime, anywhere, fainting your temperament and grace.
Every day of meditation will allow you to listen to the inside in the time and space of solitude. Your suffering, your joy, the past you have experienced, the happiness and sorrow you have accumulated. When you feel yourself deeply, you will be more aware, more understanding, more calm, more determined, and see a more far-reaching known future.
The daily morning exercise will make you respond to the rhythm of the universe in the time and space of solitude. Move every part of your body, feel the pulse of heaven and earth, make the lines of your body more beautiful, make the blood in your body more jubilant, and let every inch of your skin stretch more freely because of your rhythm.
Daily learning will allow you to communicate with every soul you meet in the time and space of solitude, including your inner self. Write down every gratitude, write down every smile, pass every sadness, and meet every heartbeat. The interaction with each true self, the burst of passion and vitality is enough to lead you to the smooth path of life,The glory of adversity.
When you are alone, you don't have to expect anything, plan or plan, prepare, or lose, because all of this belongs to yourself and has nothing to do with others. Will not suffer from gains and losses for the evaluation of others, will not fluctuate due to the applause of others, will not be complacent about what has been gained, and will not be depressed because of what has been lost.
Learn to be friends with time, stay calm, settle yourself, and create your own appearance.
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