has posted so many articles, I found that little babies love to read some routine skills such as understanding men’s hearts and understanding subtexts, but after learning so many methods, when they are really in love, they don’t know how to do it at all. use.
Because there are no two people who are exactly the same in the world, there will never be two couples who are exactly the same. Every man thinks differently, and his emotions are naturally different.
Not much nonsense, just go to the case.
Spann In about two years, the relationship between the two gradually warmed up in stability, and her boyfriend proposed on Xiaoye's birthday, and then began their married life.
After marriage, her husband worked hard to have a better income, and soon he was appreciated by his boss, promoted and raised, and was independently responsible for the project. Xiaoye continued to enjoy her husband's love, and she was still the woman who relied on her husband, Xiaoniao Yiren, and was extremely docile. She listened to her husband's words in life and work.
After two years of marriage, the relationship between the two seems to be deeper. The husband still takes good care of Xiaoye.But the sensitive leaflet felt the difference.
For example, the husband used to be gentle and considerate, and he was not big or small, and worried that Xiaoye could not take care of himself. He would keep nagging, even if Xiaoye was annoyed by him, he would give various reminders.
But now, although my husband still cares about lobules, he is not as caring as before. One time during the lobular menstrual period, I asked my husband to bring delicious food to myself after get off work. Although my husband brought it back, he still complained:
I’ll buy you this and that, next time you order the takeaway by yourself and let the errand brother deliver it.
One day, when her husband took a shower, Xiaoye saw an ambiguous message popped up from her husband’s phone: Mr. He, come home later tomorrow, I invite you to have pasta.
The name of the person who sent the message is named Ye Dandan. Because my husband praised Dandan in front of her more than once, he was clever and smart, and because of Dandan's help, he managed so many achievements. Husband also joked, saying that Xiaoye is like his own daughter and should be pampered and loved, and Dandan is like a partner who is fighting shoulder to shoulder.
Xiaoye still felt very sweet at the time. He heard her husband say that she was like a daughter, and she laughed: You just want to spoil me!
Now, Xiaoye feels a strong crisis.
So, after several twists and turns, Xiaoye found me. I gave her an in-depth emotional analysis, sorted out the marriage line of the young couple, and formulated a targeted plan for her based on the results.
The first question of marriage is the origin of the original marriage: the origin of the original family _h5p7br1
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Xiaoye’s native family is not happy. Dad likes to gamble. If he wins, he likes to buy wine and drink. When he is drunk he beats his mother. If he loses the gambling, he still goes home to beat his mother. My mother is a traditional woman in the countryside who can tolerate humiliation. After so many beatings, she still doesn't get divorced. The family's livelihood depends on her mother working alone.
Xiaoye swears since he was a child: When he grows up, he will never find a man like his father.Find a man who treats yourself well, don't be beaten and scolded like a mother, and have to work hard for a lifetime.
And my husband, the native family is full of laughter. Dad is a knowledgeable and witty man. He takes care of his mother everywhere in his life. Mom is an elegant and virtuous woman who is considerate to father everywhere. Husband was educated to have a gentleman's demeanor since he was a child. He takes care of women and is also a gentle gentleman.
Seeing this, the babies who have studied with me should be clear. Xiaoye belongs to anxious personality , and her husband belongs to safe personality , these two attachment styles come together, strong203 is slowly cured by xiaoye , Either Xiaoye keeps asking for it but you are still not satisfied.
Obviously, Xiaoye’s marriage problem belongs to the latter. Keep asking for love, but still not satisfied.
The second question of marriage: the roots of the relationship between the two of them and the roots of the family _p5
p0Begin to lead Xiaoye to analyze the relationship between the two and make a model inference, if it continues, what will happen in the future.
Xiaoye also began to reflect. She began to understand that if she continues to be immersed in a love mode like "a father loves a daughter", there will be problems. Although this kind of love is very sweet, it is never long.
Because husband is looking for "wife", not "daughter", no man can always love you like a daughter, except your father. Husband is a husband, he can't give forever, can't always play the role of "father" in marriage, give her unconditional spoiling.
In any relationship, balance is important. Couples also need to be evenly matched. If the one being cared for does not give back and gratitude for a long time, the paying party will not have the motivation to continue to pay.
The third question in marriage: What is the real need of a man to engage in a woman _p1p brh0 p1 Women can't meet his needs and can't give him what he wants.
my husband is tired of being a little leaf like a daughter,Turning to pursue a more powerful and independent like-minded partner, just because he has worked for so many years, he will be tired and tired, he also needs the care and care of a woman, and looks forward to the return and dedication of his wife.
However, Xiaoye has not changed in her feelings at all. She is still like the little girl who was in love, so she can enjoy the care and care of men with peace of mind, and she has always asked for love like a baby. Xiaoye has never fulfilled the responsibilities and obligations of a wife.
Therefore, if you want to grasp the heart of your husband, if you want the marriage not to be broken, Xiaoye must wake up, and not be as willful as before.
The fourth question in marriage: how to do it in the heart of a small span, here is an effective solution pbrh0 Counted.
I am just a guide and reminder.
Almost all feelings are repetitive, and sometimes they do not accept intellectual control. In a relationship crisis, if you want your "remedial action" to be effective, you must have a smart brain and a sincere heart.
here,I also provide you with a few tips, you can try it, I hope it will help you.
1. To mobilize a man’s desire to conquer , make him feel that he has not fully obtained you, and stimulate his desire for protection, occasionally showing weakness; 2. Create a relaxed and pleasant chat atmosphere , make the chat fun, let him like to share with you;
, when men _strong203 _strong3span, learn to listen , There are comings and goings, ask timely questions, but don’t interrupt frequently;
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5. Establish a reward and punishment mechanism ,Let a man get a corresponding reward for every point he pays, so that he has a sense of accomplishment, and then has the motivation to continue to pay.
Two months of tutoring with her husband has ended. Before the female colleague took any further action, Xiaoye had already lifted the crisis ahead of time, and her husband's heart was tightly tied.
The relationship between the two is better, and the female colleague retreats.
Of course, Xiaoye’s marriage crisis is now resolved, but it does not mean that she can get it right once and for all. She also needs to walk side by side with her husband and truly become her husband's partner, so that she can continue to be happy.
Dear girls, when you encounter a relationship problem, you can also ask yourself why, analyze the root cause, find the problem and solve it, if you really don’t know how to do it, please drop me. .
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