People keep children and grass roots. This has a heavy weight in the future. No matter how many children there are in every family, there must be a boy, because the concept of raising children is deeply rooted in society. Up to now, when he gets old, how much can his son be reliable?
Let us not mention some unfilial children, even if they are filial in every way, they also have their own family to take care of, so they can't always accompany them. In addition, the population moves like cities, leaving only the old people in the countryside.
My hometown is a small village on the Loess Plateau in northern Shaanxi. From the beginning to the end, it still maintains a labor pattern facing the loess and back to the sky. This kind of land has supported the ancestors for generations. Before the reform and opening up, most of the villagers here never left. Even one step in this hot land.
The male college is in charge, and the female college is married. This is the concept of marriage. Before the process of urbanization, the son who got married was basically in the village, and the daughter was almost in the nearby village. Life was very simple at that time, but the parents could take care of things at any time, because the family was right in front of the parents. When we get old, the children are all around, and the parents are at least not alone in spirit.
With the progress of reform and opening up, people’s various concepts have also been greatly changed. In the 21st century, urbanization has accelerated throughout the country. For better development, Xu Many young people began to leave their hometowns and enter the cities to start living.
Nowadays, the countryside has long lost its former scene, deserted land, empty cave dwellings, and only elderly people are left. In everyone’s eyes, the 60-year-old parents are still the “young people” in the countryside. , A lot of things have to rely on them.
Compared with rural areas, cities have the advantage of vast differences, numerous employment opportunities, convenient transportation, advanced education,Perfect facilities are also an important reason for a large number of people to turn to the city. Let us not talk about the subsequent development of the city. Due to the departure of the main labor force, the rural area appears to be depressed a lot.
Because of many factors, many elderly people still choose to stay in the countryside and did not leave with their children. Even though the children’s living conditions are very good, they still don’t want to leave their hometown where they have lived for decades. In the memory of their lifetime, golden nest and silver nest are inferior to their own soil nest, which is a true portrayal of their nostalgia for family.
Due to the high pressure in life now, everyone is really busy. This is also an objective factor that prevents children from going home often. Many children cannot even go home for a year.
Although the conditions in the countryside have been greatly improved, the old people can basically be satisfied with money and material, But with the passage of time, inner loneliness has become the most difficult "difficulty" for them to overcome.
As long as there is a holiday, I always hope that my children can go home and have a look. They don’t ask you to bring anything back. As long as you go back, it’s the greatest relief.
My mother, six brothers and sisters, are not around except my uncle at home. Grandma is 79 years old this year. They went back together on the old man’s birthday this year and gave their mother a birthday that had never been reunited. From their photos, we can see that the elderly are happy, but there are really too few such days. Perhaps this kind of reunion can make the elderly grandmother happy for more than one day or two.
When I came home at the beginning of this year, I paid special attention to the villages passing by. I didn't see a few young people at all. The villages with a population of over a thousand are now just scattered households. I believe it is gone forever.
On the days when we can be with us,It's better to take a little more time to go home and have a look, sometimes it will last a lifetime if you miss it.
Nowadays, people only hurt down, saying that they only care for their own and their own, but this ratio is still seriously out of balance. If 20% of the ratio is used to care for their parents, old people The loneliness will definitely be much less.
Today's technology has completely changed people's lifestyles. A WeChat can be completed. Any video, voice, and text are all available. The festival has not yet arrived. Every filial son has already prepared filial lines, pictures, etc., part of it Netizens have also ridiculed that instead of "hushing cold and asking warmth" in WeChat, why not chop a few kilos of meat and go straight back?
We are not opposed to the use of various developed and convenient conditions to achieve the span of distance, but when we calm down and think about it, sometimes the companionship around us is really irreplaceable by other means, not bad, just because people are emotional Animals, the mentality of parents seeing their children, that kind of smile from the heart is really beautiful.
I hope everyone as children can accompany their parents as much as they can, without letting their loneliness become an eternal back.
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