is 26 years old and has just graduated from work for two years. The family began to anxiously arrange a blind date to find a partner to get married. However, my cousin always said: "Men should work hard first. Only when they have the ability, they can find someone better, and the older the man is, the more popular it is. Now is the golden age of hard work. I don't worry about getting married."
Many relatives around, sneered at his cousin's remarks and laughed at him as too young.
My aunt often finds me too, and asks me to brainwash my cousin and let him get a little better. Obviously I am single at the age of 34, and I have become a negative textbook.
As an older leftover man, my advice to my cousin is: "If you have a little yearning for marriage and do not plan to be single for a lifetime, then you should hurry up and find a suitable partner while you are young. Don’t be like me, in my 30s. Now I want to get married, but I can’t find a partner. When I was young, I wanted to do big things. Finally, I realized that I was just an ordinary person and it was not so easy to succeed. Looking at me now, I can’t achieve anything, no house, no car, I don’t have a stable job, I’m old, and it’s very difficult to get married.”
Older leftover men’s biggest perception: For ordinary men, being young is the greatest capital. Getting married early is nothing wrong with . The older you get, and you have nothing, it is really difficult to get married. I am a typical failure case.
1. What kind of capital is young?
Why do you say that young is the greatest capital?
First of all, when was young, everyone can forgive you for nothing. There is no house or car, everyone is the same. There will still be people who believe that you are a potential stock. Willing to invest in you and struggle with you.
If you are in your 30s and have nothing, there is basically no advantage. No one wants to believe that you will be a late bloomer, and no one wants to take risks to invest in a junk stock with a high failure rate.
Secondly, young girls still believe in love, is willing to marry for love, and believe that as long as two people are together, there will be a bright future. Moreover, the unmarried girls around me have a lot of resources, a wide range of choices, and many opportunities for success.
And older blind dates mostly encounter leftover women who are difficult to follow. These leftover women were not easy to chase before, and it will be even harder to chase after . At this time, you have to find a girl who is willing to marry, and the difficulty will increase several times.
not only needs to have strong financial resources, can buy a house, buy a car, and can afford a gift. It is also necessary to satisfy the various beautiful fantasies of these wonderful leftover women, who are required to be handsome, burly, single-minded, stable in work, high-income, responsible, and responsible.
When young, there are girls who are willing to believe in love and are willing to grow up with you. Work hard together. But the older leftover women will not choose a boy who has nothing. The older you are, the more difficult it is to find someone. Unless you are rich.
2. What are the natural advantages of young people?
The appearance of young people must be higher than when they are old . When you are young and handsome, it is easier to attract the attention of girls. By middle age, you will become a greasy wretched uncle. Not only the appearance is aging, but the figure is also out of shape. No one wants to know you through your sloppy appearance, even if you have an interesting soul. But the beauty is not enough, and there is no chance to get along.
Secondly, when was young, he had a lot of time to squander. If you are full and your family is not hungry, you can spend all you earn, and you can spend your entire salary to buy flowers and gifts. You can take girls to travel everywhere and eat delicious food. With a lot of time to be together, the feelings naturally heat up very quickly.
When you are older, you will calculate whether your investment is worthwhile, and you will start to become stingy for buying a house, saving gifts and so on.You will start to work overtime and part-time in order to make money. At this time, you don't have the time and energy to fall in love at all, and you just want to make money.
I have always believed that men have become rich since they had women . Because you have a family, you begin to have a sense of responsibility, and you will not squander freely and abandon meaningless meals and card games. Have more plans and goals for the future. At the same time, if someone helps you manage your money and your family, you will have more time and energy to invest in your work and career. At this time, your wealth begins to accumulate slowly, and your life will develop in a good direction.
Finally:
In fact, marriage and career do not conflict. If you meet the right person, get married first. Don't always think about starting a business first and then getting a family. Not everyone has the potential to succeed. Most of them fail in the end and have nothing.
Don't believe the nonsense that " waits for me to get rich, and I am afraid I can't find my daughter-in-law ". Those who are successful have never lacked girlfriends around them before they failed. What's more, there is a high probability that you will not succeed.
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