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The preference engraved in female genes is "sense of security" and "sense of admiration".
In other words, boys who can make girls feel "secure" and "admired" through various means in a relationship will be more likely to be favored by girls.
This is not only derived from emotional feelings, but has practical scientific basis.
1. Why are girls obsessed with boys who can provide them with a "sense of security" and "a sense of admiration"?
This is a predisposition engraved in female genes, a necessity for human reproduction to continue to this day.
Talking about from the perspective of social psychology, from the ancient times of birds and beasts, to the time of war, and even to today's civilized society, the genes in the human body tend to protect themselves.
Going back thousands of years, women, as the frail and infirm, could not compete with beasts or wars. If they wanted to live a peaceful life, relying on their own physical strength was far from enough.
Therefore, they must choose a man worthy of trust and trust, and let him fight against the dangers and difficulties of the outside world, plunder the resources for both sides to live, and do some work in the vicinity of the tribe, such as picking wild fruits.
If you choose the wrong male, you and your children will be unable to be protected and will most likely starve to death.
It is passed down from generation to generation. Even though society has already developed into a highly civilized society and women are already strong, there are still many people who naturally follow the tradition of "men lead outside and women lead inside".
From a genetic point of view, women can only release 400 to 500 eggs in their lifetime, while men can release at least 300 million sperm at a time. Compared with
, when men choose a mate, they are more inclined to "mating"; when women choose a mate, is more inclined to "excellent" .
Your eggs and offspring are valuable only if your genes are excellent.
Therefore, women are always mistakenly labeled as "worshiping money" and "reality" by the secular world. In fact, the essence is that they have high requirements for the other half.
They must be strong, they must be selected, and they must be cautious, because they cost more.
Second, what behaviors of boys make girls feel "safe" and "admired"?
The sense of security is a feeling of trust that girls have in you.
She will stay safe by your side, she will not be anxious, she will not worry about gains and losses, she will not make her mood up and down because of what you do, she will be more confident than when she is single;
Admiration, in short The four words: You have to be excellent.
Specifically, the sense of security that girls want from boys is highlighted in the following aspects:
1, honesty and reliability .
If you really think about choosing a mate, girls will observe your reliability from the details and your words and deeds.
They don't require you to be perfect in everything, but they require that your character is flawless.
So, don’t be afraid of the ugly truth, because for girls, they are even more disdainful to listen to your fake sweet words;
On the contrary, if you dare to be honest, even if you make a mistake, you may still be admired by girls, and it may make her Appreciate you more.
2, the promise of fulfilling
promises are gratifying, but unfulfilled promises are worse than never appearing. The more
promises, the more girls will feel that you are a person who is full of mouth and can do anything for a short while.
On the contrary, when you make a promise casually, maybe the girl doesn't take it seriously, but you take the initiative to find an opportunity to fulfill it. This process is very accumulating goodwill.
3, will not deliberately show your own advantages
What you have to consider is not to try your best to show your own strengths, but to try your best to show your reliability.
is too deliberately displayed, but it will make girls feel that you have other goals, so they will be wary of you;
, on the other hand, when you keep a low profile on many obvious advantages, will you really let girls I think you are quite mature and reliable.
4, with life goals and motivation
Girls seek a sense of security, which also includes a sense of stability.
If you have nothing to do every day, like to be lazy, not motivated, sit in the air, and have no plan or blueprint for the future of the two, even if you say love again, girls still feel insecure.
5、Strong empathy
Boys with strong empathy can truly resonate with girls and make them feel a sense of "understood" belonging.
This sense of belonging is the key to whether girls are willing to stay by your side for a long time.
Otherwise, they will easily regard you as a "tool person", a partner who accompanies them in their lives; or they often use your "incomprehension" to make a big fuss and quarrel.
In other words, the more you understand her, the more she will treat you as the same kind, and will be truly willing to hide behind you carefully and feel the sense of security you bring.
The above five aspects are the five directions in which the two people are most likely to make judgments about security girls in the early days of their relationship.
Profound, national second-level psychological counselor, translator of the book "Non-violent Communication · Gender", member of Dalian Psychological Association, 34 years old, married with children, willing to share my attitude.
