Introduction
It is said that the times have progressed, and men and women are equal. I agree with this sentence, and I also support parents to treat their children equally and not to do things that favor sons and daughters.
However, the following old man's actions have aroused the indignation of his daughter-in-law. Let's take a look at the reasons.
He Lianxiang/female/44 years old
My father-in-law has two children. My husband and his sister have a good relationship. Recently, they have done something unfair because of their father-in-law’s , But it caused a contradiction. Specifically, I had a conflict with my father-in-law.
Since I got married to this home, my father-in-law has always emphasized that his children are the same, so his daughter is indispensable for any benefits. I have no opinion about this. Whatever the age is, a bowl of water is right.
Later, the small house in the old family was demolished and received a small amount of compensation. The father-in-law said that the palms of the palms and the backs of the hands were all meat, so your sister would also divide the money in half.
At that time, I discussed with my husband and said that when my father was old, he could keep this compensation for his own retirement, but my husband said that the father did the money, and the main points should be divided! In this way, my sister and our family share half of the compensation.
Because my brother-in-law is the main leader of a large company, he has a salary of tens of thousands of yuan every month. The conditions in their family are much better than ours. My husband is just an ordinary worker, and his salary is only seven or eight thousand a month. Block, the difference is obvious. But when I gave money to my sister, I didn’t feel upset at all. I still have the notion that children are equal. I still have it. I can’t say that I want to take all the money for myself because my family’s conditions are worse. I’m not like that. People.
Follow us when he is fair. He is old and we take good care of him. Who hasn’t been when he was old? So what we should do as juniors will do well, so that we will not feel ashamed, and we will not say that we will leave a bad example for our children.
This year's father-in-law was not in good health. He was admitted to the hospital once, and now dealing with the hospital, it is really high consumption. In addition to the reimbursement, he has to spend 40 to 50,000 yuan. The father-in-law has no money.My husband and I came up with this money.
After my father-in-law was discharged from the hospital, I saw that he didn't talk to my sister about the medical expenses. I couldn't bear it. I told my father-in-law that sister Qian should also pay part of it. People say raising children and adopting daughters is to prevent old age. Waiting for the elderly to get sick, the children will pay for it.
The father-in-law waved his hand. He said that the water thrown out by the married daughters, to raise children to prevent old age, this is an old saying, how can this money be used to be a daughter, and he is not afraid of other people's jokes.
I stopped doing it as soon as I heard it. Why did I say you changed your mind? Who said that the palms of the palms and the backs of the hands are the same as the flesh and children. If you have money, you will have a bowl of water. When you spend money, you will separate your sons and daughters. Are you too partial?
The father-in-law changed his face. He said that you were a wife like you, and he smashed me. She is a girl, and she shouldn't pay the money. If you want to despise me, just throw me out.
My husband is a good person on the sidelines, he pulls my arm and says don't say anything, or else he will get angry with the old man again. I really suffocated my stomach. Is there such an old man? At the beginning, he asked him to keep the money for the elderly and he would not do it. Now that he spends the money, he is relying on us. I still have two boys. There will be a lot of money to spend in the future. As an elderly person, why not do it? What shall we consider?
For the health of my father-in-law, I endured the anger and did not quarrel any more, but I felt very uncomfortable. You don’t fight or grab anything in your feelings. Others treat you as a fool. You are an old man, but you have to talk about it as an old man. Conscience, did you hurt your daughter-in-law too much by doing this?
Later, I called the aunt and said this. The older sister said that my old father said it is not false. If you elderly people still count on his daughters, others will indeed laugh! I hung up the phone with a snap. It's true that there is a father and a daughter. This is true.
Later, my husband repeatedly persuaded me that he should not be familiar with the elderly and sisters. It is just as if the parents only gave birth to a son, we can only support him in the old age. Because of this matter, you will feel bad about your health. It is not worth it. .
I also know the truth,But it’s not so easy to accept. Sometimes I wonder if my mother-in-law walks so early, is it because my father-in-law is so unreasonable and angry? Whatever he said was reasonable, and he didn't want to think that, as an old man, you said that in the hearts of juniors, whether there is any prestige.
The father-in-law does not forget his daughter when he is good, but he only sees his son when he spends money. Do you think he is a bit too partial?
Concluding remarks
Perhaps the most difficult thing about being a parent is to have a few children, but it's difficult to have a good balance. When his wife protested, he could only suppress it with the majesty of being an old man, without reflecting on his mistakes and correcting them.
It’s understandable that the elderly’s daughter-in-law is angry with her father-in-law’s eccentric sister-in-law. Maybe her father-in-law was confused and didn’t want to open up for a while. Regardless of the cost, it also echoes the father's statement. This is wrong. The old man is confused. How can the daughter follow the confusion?
If you can think about the situation in your brother's family, and the pressure in life is so great, she will share a little of the father's medical expenses, which can be regarded as filial piety to her father and love to her younger brother's family.
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