In real life, anything you want results to be done deliberately, especially if you want it to show the results you want.
The same is true of feelings. In fact, there are not so many stories of love at first sight, and then to the death of love; more are down-to-earth and accumulation of love step by step.
We can find that the number of singles is increasing, and there are even a large number of "older leftover men" and "older leftover women".
These people either do not meet someone who likes them, and it is difficult to pursue each other; or they have been hurt and feel that there is no true love. The so-called "love" is just a passing moment.
In fact, these thoughts and situations can be regarded as a kind of prejudice, or a kind of cognitive error. "When you meet your loved one, get true love" is never a coincidence, nor is it something that can be "waiting for nothing".
A good object, a good relationship, and a sincere love can actually be achieved by "doing" with your heart.
If you do nothing and wait foolishly for the arrival of love, it is impossible; and if you are in love, but are willing to the status quo and feel that love will only grow stronger, so is it not realistic.
To be honest, good feelings never fall from the sky. The love between men and women is "made". Whether you are a man or a woman, you have to understand this truth.
Express yourself and attract each other
Love between men and women first comes from attraction. Only if you have enough attractiveness can you have the opportunity to develop a story with the other party. Attraction is not innate, but you need to create it yourself.
At the same time, attractiveness also needs to "prescribe the right medicine". If the point where you are attractive is not what the other party wants, then you are naturally playing the piano.
Therefore, you need to start from both the perspective of yourself and the other.
first step,You need to understand the partner's mate selection criteria and favorite types, such as mature and sunny. The second step is to make an appropriate adjustment to yourself according to the other person's preferences.
Of course, a prerequisite is that your own hardware conditions must be sufficient, for example, you can look beautiful, but you must know how to make up.
And in the end, you have to learn to seize the opportunity to express yourself and let the other person see your shining points.
Pay attention to details and love for a long time
When two people are together, it must not be love at the beginning, but at most it is just like, even because of impulse. And love is gradually produced and deepened in the relationship between two people.
Of course, it is also possible to end here, there is no such thing as love or not.
If you are satisfied with the status quo and do nothing after you are with the other party, then love cannot be created out of thin air. Only when you work hard to "do" in your daily relationship, love will be produced.
The details are a key point. As the saying goes, "You can see the truth in the details". The details can make the other party feel your seriousness, as well as the quality and personality of your whole person.
The most important thing is that details are easy to move. Whether it is a man or a woman, it is actually impossible to resist the details.
For example, when walking, men will protect women on the safe side, and women learn to cook the dishes that men like to eat. When men and women get along, the details are in place, and love will naturally be there.
uses routines to maintain love
Love between men and women does not always exist when it is produced. It also needs some small routines and careful thinking to maintain.
Life is just plain, especially after entering the day-to-day work mode, at this time, in fact, feelings will also be affected.
When the freshness fades,All that is left is mutual flatness and dissatisfaction.
Therefore, you have to learn to use some routines to make the love between you last, or to find love again.
For example, taking a trip, revisiting meaningful places, and paying attention to the ritual sense of each festival. You have to implement your actions, not just saying nothing, so that you can get the results you want.
Concluding remarks:
There is such a story on Zhihu. Every day a boy can meet the same girl in the elevator or the convenience store downstairs, and he is surprised to find that the other person has something with him Many similarities, such as favorite foods.
Over time, the boys are attracted to this very fateful girl.
But in fact, all this is not a coincidence. Fate is also created by girls.
Every day at the time of commuting, she sits in the elevator one after another, and always stays in the convenience store to meet him...
Look, love is actually "made" .
Whether it is before, during, or after marriage, love is the foundation and key between two people, and "doing" is the best way to generate and continue love.
If you do nothing, even if you are still together, the kind of life and feelings must not be what you want.
Regardless of feelings or work, as long as it is something you want, you actually need to strive for it. After all, "pie in the sky" is almost impossible.
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