Qian Zhongshu said in "The Besieged City": "Marriage is a besieged city. People in the city want to go out and people outside the city want to come in." It can be seen that marriage is not something with a permanent shelf life. After entering the marriage, everyone has a different degree of tolerance to the marriage. If there is really no way for two people in a marriage to reach the end, then there is no need to force it.
Some couples have been together for a long time, only to find that the three views cannot be run-in, and many contradictions have arisen. In the end, the family relationship cannot be coordinated, and the life of the two people is really difficult. Individuals are suffering, and divorce may also be a relief.
When watching the TV series "Everything is Good", the marriage between Su Daqiang and Su Mu seems to be no problem on the surface, but in fact the two are not like husbands and wives, especially Su Daqiang, who did not find half of Su Mu's dignity as a husband , Which is why he fell in love with Cai Genhua in the later period.
Su Daqiang received too much anger in his marriage with Su Mu, and he couldn't control the big and small things at home. However, when he was with Cai Genhua, Cai Genhua cared about him and accommodated him, no matter what the care was. Purpose, compared to the powerful Su Mu, what Su Daqiang likes is Cai Genhua's good-looking and obedient.
So, having said that, at this age, when two people get together, will there really be love?
Take the TV series as an example. It is said that halfway couples are thieves. Cai Genhua calculates that Su Daqiang remembers clearly. At this age, it is not easy to find someone who just wants to spend the rest of his life with himself. First of all, people who have experienced emotional and marriage failures will not easily trust each other. Secondly, when two people are old, if they marry their children again, there will inevitably be many hidden dangers from family relationships.
Feelings and marriage are a very unpredictable thing. At the first marriage, it can be said to be single-minded, but when it comes to the second marriage, the situation seems to be too complicated.
46-year-old Xu Chang wants to remarry.
It has been more than six years since he divorced his ex-wife. In the previous marriage, Xu Chang and his ex-wife had two daughters, and the younger daughter was raised by him. Xu Chang’s economic conditions are good, he has a house, a car and a stable income.It's okay to find another one, but because of fear of losing her little daughter, Xu Chang has always remained single. Now it's hard to send her daughter to college, and her daughter also hopes that her father will find a wife for herself as soon as possible, so that she can accompany him to the old age, so Xu Chang plans to go on a blind date.
I didn't have a blind date twice, either because I didn't feel the other person, or I was afraid that the other person would have different plans for himself. At this age, Xu Chang naturally had a certain consideration for his second marriage. First of all, if he wants to find it, he definitely hopes that the woman can take good care of him in the future, but he is afraid that the woman feels that he just wants to find a babysitter, and it will not be easy for him to get married.
Later, Fang Wen and Xu Chang met. Fang Wen was more than five years younger than him. Xu Chang felt that something was wrong at first. She was afraid that Fang Wen would dislike the two of them at an inappropriate age, but Fang Wen treated him very much. Being proactive and considerate, Fang Wen did not dislike his age. Fang Wen also said: "Now that he is five years older, how old is it? Also, five years older will hurt people."
After hearing Fang Wen's words, Xu Chang also Rest assured, but he didn't dare to enter the second marriage easily, so he spent a long time with Fang Wen. Fang Wen's divorce was due to the domestic violence of her ex-husband, so she took her son out. Fang Wen's son was well-behaved, well-behaved and obedient, and Xu Chang liked him very much.
After confirming the relationship, Fang Wen is indeed very considerate, taking care of him everywhere, her cooking skills are also very good, Xu Chang likes her food very much, and Fang Wen is also very good to his daughter, the family gets along very well Harmony, so Xu Chang wanted to put the marriage of the two on the agenda, but in the end it was delayed because of some financial matters.
First of all, as far as personal conditions are concerned, Xu Chang is indeed good. He has two houses under his name, one large and one small. He originally thought that this was his pre-marital property, which he wanted to leave to his daughter. Now he and Fang Wen are married, and they live in this house together. Fang Wen didn’t plan to do so. Fang Wen took his son and used to rent a house. Now that she has a house, she asked for a set after getting married. House as a bride price.
Fang Wen said: "Anyway, if we get married, we are also a legal couple. My son is also your son. Your daughter will marry sooner or later. My son will grow up and get married. You will definitely have to bear it. A house is not too much. Moreover, you may not be able to count on your daughter to provide for the elderly at that time. In the end, you are not counting on my son. The house is very worthwhile."_P1p
Listening to Fang Wen’s wishful thinking, Xu Chang refused directly: "That’s something for the future. The problem now is that this house is my pre-marital property. Why should I transfer the property to your son? What? In the future, when we live together, the money will definitely be put together. I will not give it to my daughter in the future. It is a bit too much to talk about the house, right? "_P1p
Fang Wen also gave an ultimatum, saying: "If you don't give the house to my son, I will not be at ease in my heart. Are you looking for a nanny? I don't want to be your babysitter for nothing, you must show some sincerity. "_P1p
Xu Chang naturally knows the truth of comparing the heart to the heart, but a house is indeed too much, and Fang Wen's words really made Xu Chang chill. Because of the suspicion of each other, the two eventually failed to come together, Xu Chang does not dare to find a second marriage.
Xu Chang is not unreasonably worried, he is just hesitating, if the two people get along in harmony in the future, life will also be fun, Fang Wen's son is sincere to himself, Xu Naturally, Chang wouldn’t let him suffer. But Fang Wen planned all this in advance, and felt that she had dug a hole for herself. Xu Chang felt that it was too utilitarian. Fang Wen didn’t want this marriage because of the house. , Xu Chang also planned to give up.
Before the second marriage, two people should really show their sincerity. If the pros and cons are not well balanced, naturally there is no way to live together securely. But at the beginning It’s really a bit unreasonable to talk about the house, especially if you don’t know everything about the other party, rejection is also reasonable.
In my opinion, the relationship between two people is good, and the only thing that is happiness in life is Only after marriage did I know that we should not make a hasty decision before marriage. Take Xu Chang’s case, it is natural that he has such concerns. Of course Fang Wen is also the second married mother, she has her own children It is also reasonable to consider her, but before marriage, she paid too much attention to the stability of the economic conditions. She wanted to give her son a steadfast protection, eager for quick success and quick gain, but lost her sincerity. A kind of "symbiotic relationship" was heard. Attachment and surround, need each other. Once missing each other, life will be greatly affected, and even death. Life is sometimes full of holes,Troubles followed. But there will always be someone showing up to save you. "_P1p
In the second marriage, the prerequisite for two people to be able to live in harmony is sincere, empathy, and heart-to-heart. Only when two people can reach an agreement before marriage can they enter the marriage smoothly, laying the foundation for two people to live a good life. Marriage is two The semicircle that needs to be integrated, and only when it is suitable can it be formed into a circle to create a satisfactory and happy ending.
Whether it is a first marriage or a second marriage, there is a symbiotic relationship in the marriage, and a long-term life can only be achieved with common interests. , What is most needed is to compare the heart to the heart, and to consider more for each other’s interests. Only with sincerity can we have a solid foundation for marriage, and the other party is more willing to have the courage to face the future with you.
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