What is the most important thing for people to get along with, I think it is sincere and respect for each other. If you don't like this person, or don't like it, just don't have any contact with the other person. If you have to get along with this person for some purpose, but you don’t like it from the bottom of your heart, why bother? When the other party discovers your disguise, your goal is still not what you want. Figure|Network
I was born in a patriarchal family. If it weren't for my mother to think I was a boy, there would be no me. After I was born, my parents were disappointed, and my grandparents were full of complaints. Although I was the first child in the family, I did not receive much attention from my family because I was a girl. When I was 4 years old, my mother, who had knocked out her child twice, finally gave birth to my brother.
As a result, my family finally had a smile on their faces, and the lack of care in my body disappeared. All their attention was on my brother, and I became a dispensable existence. This is really a big blow to me at a young age. It may also be because of this reason, so I particularly long for the warmth of home, and I am particularly touched by a little warmth, because I have never had a family member who loves me wholeheartedly.
When I was less than 20 years old, I went to work in a factory in the city, and my family would take half of my salary every month. At this point, I am relatively fortunate compared to most girls from patriarchal families, and I can save a little bit of my own savings. I know my ex-husband in this factory. He is several years older than me. He is a local and a technician in the factory. What he liked about me, in fact, I didn't know until the end, anyway, he started to pursue me later, and he treated me very well.
At least I think this is the case. He bought me breakfast and sent me back to the dormitory after the night shift. I felt the warmth in him, and soon we were in a relationship. When we reached the legal marriage age, we got married, but this marriage, which I thought could grow old, lasted only 5 years. I am divorced, and my ex-husband said that he has no feelings anymore, and it is not good for each other to barely be together. But I knew in my heart that my ex-husband, like my in-laws and my parents, are patriarchal.
I gave birth to a daughter, and I have been reluctant to have a second child. They can’t wait. This is the reason for my ex-husband’s divorce. If I was a little stupid before, I experienced this marriage,I have also matured a lot. I know no one can be trusted, my daughter and I can only rely on myself. After the divorce, my natal family would definitely not be able to go back. In addition to living expenses, my parents did not ask me for money from time to time. This is not bad for a patriarchal family.
You see, my requirements are really low. So I don’t expect that after the divorce, my natal family can take in our mother and daughter, or help us. I thought about it for a few days, but I can only set up a stall by myself and start a small business so that I can have time to take care of the children. If you go to work, no one will take care of your child. Because I am good at cooking, I set up a mobile fried rice and vegetable stall. Although hard work, but the income is good. I do business with kindness and the price is affordable. After 3 years, I bought a small store, which is stable.
I met Chen Kai in his own small restaurant. He worked at a nearby construction site and often came to the restaurant to eat. I met Chen Kai once and twice. Knowing that I was divorced with a child, sometimes it’s not safe to close the shop too late at night, and I would come to help every day. I am no longer a kid, and after a long time, I also know his thoughts. But at first I thought if we two were inappropriate, after all, I was divorced and brought a child.
So when he confessed to me, I told him this matter seriously, and I said that if you mind, then we just don't start. I know there are still many people around me who feel that divorced women are inferior to others, so they should lower their conditions and are not eligible to have any requirements for remarriage. I said this to Chen Kai, hoping that he knew that I didn't think I was different from other women. He recognized my logic at the time and said that love has never been related to the past, he only cares about the present and the future.
In love, his performance is fairly normal, except for daily dating expenses, which are basically covered by me, everything else is fine. I was also stupid. I thought he was saving money for my wedding. After all, he said that it was a pity that my previous marriage did not have a wedding. This time he made up for it. But who knows, he actually looks down on me from the bottom of his heart. He was with me purely because he couldn't find a better one.
His family background is not good, and his own conditions are average. Although I am married, I have a good income now and I am still a boss. In order to improve the living standards in the future, this "wrong" came to love and marry me.Chen Kai and I fell in love for more than a year and mentioned marriage. My parents have nothing to say. Anyway, don't stop living expenses and don't give dowry. As for who I marry, I don't care. He said that his family was very satisfied after meeting me. In this case, he can start preparing for the wedding.
Before this, the two of us naturally mentioned the bride price and dowry. Sometimes, some procedures still need to be established. I didn't plan to ask for many bridesmaids, but at least I have to give it a little meaning, but Chen Kai said: Let's save the bridesmaids. This is not the first time you get married. As soon as I said this, I was unhappy at the time, but it was not easy for us to get married and discuss marriage. My daughter liked him very much, so I decided to work harder.
I usually answer him jokingly: "If there is no dowry, I don't need to prepare a dowry." When I said this, Chen Kai became angry and said how can there be no dowry. The meeting broke up after an unhappy meeting. Just when I was frustrated and realized that I might meet someone again, Chen Kai came to me again. I thought he was here to apologize, but he came to make terms with me. He said: "Your house must add my name, and the restaurant will divide me half. This is considered your dowry."
You promise, we will get married right away, and I will give you a lively wedding. He finished speaking confidently, and I was smirked. Why does he think I must be him? Why do you think I have to post it upside down in order to get married? Is the house I bought and the restaurant I open to support myself and my daughter bad? Why do you have to give it to him? Why does he think that there is no bride price, so it is natural to ask for another dowry.
I thought and said so, Chen Kai faced my question and said disdainfully: "You are a second marriage and you have brought a child. I should not give you a gift, but you No dowry counts." I thoroughly understood his thoughts, and when he asked me to break up, he said it was unbelievable. He felt that he was willing to marry me to give me face. Facing his face, I felt extremely disgusting. I would never marry such a person anyway, even if I would die alone next time.
Finally, I really want to talk to myself and all the girls. It's normal to want to get married and have a home, but you must look carefully. Never get married for the sake of getting married, and do not pay a "price" that shouldn't be borne just because you can get married.This kind of marriage often has no good results. Once you are married, you can't maintain such a dedication, and your marriage will be a mess.
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