Mother loves her children, but the child wants to cut off relations with her mother
The movie "0,000 arrows pierce the heart " has such a heart-wrenching story, that is, Li Baoli loves her son very much. She takes care of her son meticulously, and also works hard to earn money to support her son's study, eat and drink, etc., and her hard work pays off. Her son was admitted to university as he wished, but what she never expected was that after her son got into college, she wanted to break off the mother-son relationship with the mother who loved him the most. It was really incredible.
thinks that only saying useful things to children is actually a trap
In fact, from the relationship between Li Baoli and her son, it can be seen that Li Baoli loves her children and is willing to give everything for her children. No matter how hard life is, she grits her teeth and perseveres in order to raise her son well. However, there is a lack of communication between Li Baoli and her son. Li Baoli rarely tells her all kinds of things happening in life. The most common thing she said to her son is: "Have you finished your homework?"
Over time, his son became more and more disgusted with his mother's greetings. He even shouted: "Besides asking if you have finished your homework, will you say anything else?"
Li Baoli was puzzled about her son's question. She obviously cared about her son, but why didn't her son appreciate it? She still had this attitude...
In fact, there are many similar parents and children in our lives. They think that there is no need to say too much "nonsense" with their children, and that everything they say should be useful, which is actually a trap of parent-child communication.
chatting with children is the password to increase parent-child relationship
However, if you really want to enter the heart of your child, you actually want to chat with your child more nonsense. These seemingly useless nonsense often hide passwords to alleviate parent-child relationship.
I remember that my cousin had a good relationship with her son. Even though her son graduated and worked, he still liked to go home and chat with her. We always asked her what secrets can get along with her so well.
cousin said: "I have no education either, but every time my son talks about what is happening around him, I will listen carefully and communicate with him from his perspective. I often share some things happening around me with him. Every time we can have a happy chat, so our relationship has always been so good."
Yes, we often cannot listen carefully to children saying things that are not related to learning. And when the child says it, we always think that it is nonsense and should not waste time on these nonsense. Over time, the relationship becomes distant.
In fact, if you really care for your children, parents need to listen carefully to their children and analyze the problems carefully from the perspective of their children, so that their children can truly feel the care of their parents.
Remember Yang Jiang In the essay collection " Three of Us ", Mr. Yang Jiang mentioned that his daughter's relationship with them is like a friend who can talk about everything. Their family goes out to have dinner. When they wait for the food, they will sit there while observing others, discussing the dress and dialogues of others, discussing the relationship between the few people at the next table, etc. These seemingly useless nonsense brings their relationship closer. The family is very harmonious together.
In fact, if a child is willing to share what is happening around you, it means that he likes being with you, he trusts you very much, and he is willing to let you enter his heart. At this time, you cannot attack him or eliminate his desire to express. Moreover, after he has expressed it, you should empathize with him from his perspective and empathize with him , so that he can further enhance the parent-child relationship.
Conclusion
"Parents' Language" mentions that a family language environment with rich corpus is crucial to children.
It can be seen that if you want your child to express rich language and improve your composition level, if parents can guide their children to explain in detail when they communicate with their children, when their children's expression is not comprehensive, parents can further break it and say it to them in their children's language. These seemingly useless nonsense will further increase the child's language expression ability, and the child's composition level will also improve as a result.
Therefore, it is wise for parents who are willing to chat with their children "nonsense". They can not only enhance parent-child relationships, but also make their children smarter.
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