Many children don’t know what learning is for. They all think that their parents are asking them to study, otherwise they will not be able to get into college or find a job, etc. They always think that learning is for their parents.
This is because children lose their internal motivation to learn. How did this cause?
1. Parents pay too much attention to their children's grades. If you do well in the exam, you will be happy, and if you do poorly in the exam, you will be disappointed and angry. Parents’ joys, angers, sorrows and happiness are all influenced by their children’s grades. Children will regard the meaning of learning as learning to please their parents.
2. Link your child’s grades to material things. Children are like parents’ employees. If they do well, they will reward them, which will make them think that learning has nothing to do with their goals, but with their parents’ expectations of them.
3. Take care of everything in your children's studies. Arrange study plans, tutoring homework, supervising learning, etc. for your children, and do everything by yourself, which kills the child's initiative, and the child will have no independent awareness of learning. If someone is worried about him, he will naturally become dependent or slack, push and move.
How to cultivate children's internal motivation for learning?
1. Respect children's interests and personality
Now the whole society is gradually aware of the harm that grades as the only criterion of judgment brings to children. As parents, you should always remind yourself that every child has his own talent and interests, and grades are definitely not the most important thing, so there is no need to overreact the quality of children. The more you care, the less you can relax yourself and study happily and efficiently.
2. Learn to let go, worry less and intervene less
Leave the child to take the initiative to take the initiative to take the initiative to provide appropriate assistance, such as formulating large frameworks, suggesting learning methods, etc., let the child control everything else by himself, and he will unconsciously develop the willingness and motivation to learn. Giving freedom and trust is the beginning of responsibility.
3. Connect learning with life
Learning is useful, so that children can truly understand the meaning of learning and give birth to motivation for learning. For example, if you encounter problems or difficulties in life, try to guide him how to read and review materials, or use the knowledge in the textbook to solve them. For example, mathematics is linked to daily consumption, and teaches children financial management thinking; when you go to the suburbs to observe animals and plants, it is the best time to apply biology; travel to various places to let children learn and apply geography knowledge.
In the process of connecting learning to reality, he will also feel accomplished and love life more, which in turn can better protect and stimulate children's interest in learning.
4. Help children gradually clarify long-term goals
The entire study career is to prepare for what career to engage in and what kind of person to become in the future society. Accompany your child to slowly explore his own path. After clarifying his goals, he will be more motivated, especially the goals he is interested in and decides by himself.
believes that as long as you take the right method to inspire the power in your child's heart, the child will definitely grow into a person full of motivation.
