A few days ago, Zhu Ma accidentally saw the follow-up report of the "Five-Dao Bar Boy" Huang Yibo , who became popular in 2011. She was very moved and shared it with you today.
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At the end of April 2011, a junior high school student named Huang Yibo became popular on the Internet because of a photo of five bars worn on his left arm that netizens had never seen before. It turned out that Wuhan City established the Young Pioneers Corps at the district and municipal levels at that time. The Young Pioneers Corps Chief must wear four and five bars that are higher than the school brigade leader. So, this is why Huang Yibo wore five bars at that time.
From elementary school to university, Huang Yibo has been smooth sailing. He has revealed his maturity that is not consistent with his peers since he was a child. For example, someone else's two-year-old child is watching cartoons at home, while he is watching "News Broadcast" at home; when other people's children are busy playing games and reading novels, he insists on reading "People's Daily" and " Reference News "... All these things make him live like the ideal child of his parents, get the opportunity to be admitted to key high schools, and win many honors such as outstanding cadres of the municipal student union, outstanding members of the provincial Communist Youth League, and so on.
Huang Yibo, who has so many halos, has a very beautiful resume. Wuhan University once said that if his college entrance examination score can exceed the first-tier 40 points, he will be welcome to study at the School of Marxism of Wuhan University. But unfortunately, due to the relatively difficult academic school education in high school, Huang Yibo distracted too much energy due to extracurricular activities. In the end, he only scored 477 points in the college entrance examination, and he did not reach the first-class line. In the end, I only went to an ordinary third-level school - Wuhan College , where I studied English. Now, it is gradually becoming lost to everyone.
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After reading Huang Yibo's general introduction, I wonder how you feel? As a parent, Zhu Ma couldn't help but feel a little regretful for Huang Yibo.
His life seemed to have been glamorous and proudly wore "5-bar ", actively participated in various social activities, and received countless flowers, applause, and praise, but he showed an incompetent age from beginning to end. His "meaning and proper" behavior lacked the vitality and vitality that young people should have, which was not really enviable. This is why, in one of his interview photos, a classmate entered the country because he curled his lips and looked disdainful, and was called " disdainful brother " by netizens.
We can also clearly perceive: parents have intervened too much in him, and their strength almost dominated the entire life. When Huang Yibo was still a primary school student, he was unlikely to have a strong sense of social responsibility. His parents gave him various packaging.
parents actively accepted media interviews and told the media: "Huang Yibo never plays games, cares about history and politics, and is worried about the fate of the nation. The ideal is to let everyone live a better life."
parents tailored a book for him - "The Growth Record of the Sunshine Boy Huang Yibo", leaving all the honors he received in detail in the book.
The parents actively helped him contact various social activities, so that Huang Yibo was unable to participate in the exchange activities on the day he signed up in junior high school. The tense high school life still has overwhelming activities.
Parents are operating, Huang Yibo cooperates, enjoying the shining of halos together. But is this really the growth trajectory that a child should have?
In Zhu Ma's opinion, Huang Yibo just lived in a normal way as his parents' ideal. He was forced to leave by his parents since he was a child, and he did not have much chance to think about "what the life he wanted is like", which is a pity.
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A wise man once said: Life is short, everyone is not easy, and the things they can do are limited. As long as you do what you should do at your age, your life will be perfect. At every age, children should fully feel the beauty and happiness of this age, rather than being arranged and planned by their parents too early, thus making some shortcomings.
Just like Huang Yibo in his childhood, his parents were busy arranging him to participate in charity activities, publish books, and be a host. Therefore, he lacked the happy childhood of "feeling cats and dogs with his friends, catching cicada catching dragonflies". His childhood was imperfect. And children of this age really understand the meaning of charity? I think most people may not. What parents need to pay more attention to is that such behavior of allowing children to grow up in advance ultimately ultimately restricts their children's growth, and the children gradually fall behind others. In the middle and high school years when children should study knowledge the most, their parents still kept him busy with various "social affairs". Although he made a very beautiful resume, he still did not study hard while studying and could not get into an ideal university, and his choices in the future became narrower and narrower.
We can imagine that if Huang Yibo's parents were not too eager for quick success and instant benefits, and they calmly let their children grow up slowly, then Huang Yibo might grow into another appearance, with both good character and learning, and success in learning. But there is no medicine for regret in the world. Huang Yibo's life can no longer turn back, so he hopes that similar events will never happen again.
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