In recent years, some parents have always made some "jokes" to accompany their children to do their homework.
is not about being at home with the child, but he is red in his face because of the way to write Chinese characters or the solution to math problems. It is about the fact that after arguing with the child day after day, his body is in trouble.
and even became ill due to overwork because of "working homework with your child", and was diagnosed with cerebral infarction or myocardial infarction and was hospitalized.
In short, it is just one word: difficult.
This is very annoying, because unlike most ordinary families, some highly educated parents and families still attach great importance to the precious time they spend with their children to do their homework every night.
Out of their ardent expectations for their children, they are also able to provide children with homework in a synchronous and even advance in accordance with the requirements of textbooks and teaching aids. What can the result be?
Even master and doctoral graduates who graduate from prestigious universities will still feel overwhelmed and deeply troubled when educating their children.
, especially children in the lower grades of primary school, have no idea of time at all. When parents urge them to study after dinner every day, they either delay or delay. They are often homework that can be completed in one hour. Children can repeatedly irritate and get angry with their parents until two or three hours to complete.
When you meet such a child, parents with high education are actually helpless.
For yourself, it only takes half an hour for primary school students to explain the courses and questions from beginning to end. The problem is that if you tell your child a textbook knowledge, he can understand it. If you slightly change the apple in the question setting conditions to pears, and the teacher will change the teacher to parents, and the child will look at you with dumbfounded expressions and express his incomprehension. In such situations as
, even parents with high education and high IQ are helpless.
In fact, most children who are slow to do their homework and are listless when studying have their own difficulties that they cannot speak in front of their parents.
First, there are too many practices after class.
Most parents believe in the learning method of "diligence can make up for shortcomings". Therefore, after the children complete their established homework, they will also assign a large number of extracurricular exercises according to their own educational concepts, so that children can lead other students through reading, writing, and doing more questions, from problem-solving ability to test results.
The problem is that, but the children's feelings are not the case.
For children, when they go home every day, they will not only eat and sleep but also study. They also have to memorize words after finishing homework, and also practice exercises after memorizing words.
Then children have very little need and motivation to complete their homework as soon as possible, so they are naturally unwilling to spend more effort and energy to think in the process of doing their homework. Instead, they become more and more lazy, procrastinating and perfunctory, and naturally it becomes increasingly difficult to get the recognition and appreciation of their parents.
and even in the end, has many teachers and parents who find it difficult to discipline and persuade their children to study with peace of mind.
is mainly because if parents are too stingy in arranging time for rest and relaxation for their children, their children will lack motivation and goals in the process of memorizing and doing questions, and will gradually lose interest and desire for learning.
Second, the focus time is different.
children in the lower grades have not yet developed the habit of learning and doing questions. The specific manifestation of
is that when you are studying, you are always looking for trouble, either wanting to drink water, looking for something, or having a stomachache.
For such children, parents should focus on cultivating their children's "learning habits" when they are sure that they have not assigned too much extracurricular homework to their children.
Generally speaking, even adults can maintain their full concentration of study time, usually no more than 15 minutes.Therefore, when we accompany our children to do their homework, it is best to let the children eat and drink well, and after handling all the things, sit at the desk and study attentively.
We can even follow the " tomato working method " model to let children learn for 15 minutes, rest for 5 minutes, do questions for 15 minutes, and rest for 5 minutes. In this way, children will not be as tired as they study at home as they are in school, and they can also combine work and rest with , and maybe they can achieve better results.
Third, educational methods issue.
is a parent for the first time, but some adults are too extreme and irritable when dealing with their children, and there are also some highly educated parents among them.
is because children are young, of course they prefer to listen to good and soft words. Therefore, parents spend valuable rest time and extra energy to accompany their children to study. Although it is extremely hard, it is by no means a matter of time and for all.
In many cases, we should pay attention to time, methods and habits to our children, and we should pay attention to our words, deeds, tempers and attitudes in front of our children.
Even if you are a parent, your education and ability are insufficient and you cannot provide advanced tutoring for your children in courses and studies, but at least we can, in terms of words and behaviors, try to create a warm and comfortable learning environment for your children. At the same time, you remind your children to combine work and rest, read and study in a moderate manner, so as to avoid letting your children fall into a state of low efficiency, low interest and low desire.
In short, accompanying, understanding and disciplineing children has nothing to do with the parents' own educational level, but is closely related to the parents' emotional intelligence knowledge.
It is not easy to accompany your children to do homework. Parents and family need to give their children more respect, trust and care.
