When faced with the education of their children, parents did not dare to relax their vigilance. As long as it is something that is helpful to their children, they are willing to help their children. Because they want their children to be successful and are afraid that their children will suffer too much in the process, they take this responsibility on themselves.
At a class gathering, all the students from high school were gathered, and this class reunion was held to welcome the class teacher. Xiao Li was particularly "working hard" at this class party, and kept asking the class teacher what method to use to educate his children.
What kind of child is losing his promise when he grows up? The teacher says what he wants to say, such families should pay attention to it!
Xiao Li's family has a daughter, and her academic performance has always been good, but Since entering junior high school, Xiao Li's daughter's emotions have changed. Not only can’t help but study every day, but also becomes sensitive. Many people say slogans that they don’t want to go to school and want to drop out of school every day. Seeing this, Xiao Li was extremely anxious. After asking, he learned that it was his daughter . He felt that the current junior high school pressure was too great. The students around him were all masters, and he was like being submerged in the sea of people.
How can a daughter with excellent grades have endured such grievances? Under this pressure, she began to think of giving up on herself. Xiao Li also felt very regretful because of this, thinking that he was too anxious to send his child to a key school, and asked the head teacher if he needed to help his daughter change to an ordinary middle school.
After hearing this, the class teacher said: "You are also my students. You know how important learning is. You also achieved today's development through learning.
But your parents at this stage have a common problem, that is, When children encounter difficulties, they do not help their children solve this difficulty, but help them avoid this difficulty. Today you help their children avoid it. So what about their children's future lives? Whenever they encounter setbacks, do they choose to escape?”
Xiao Li felt very ashamed after hearing the words of the head teacher. Yes, difficulties will arise in everyone's life. Meeting difficulties is both a challenge and an opportunity. Because through this difficulty, you can continuously improve yourself here, and you can also gain a lot from this difficulty, which also helps everyone keep moving forward.
and Most of the children who are not capable of growing up have a common family . Nowadays, parents not only attach great importance to their children's education, but also attach great importance to the development process of their children. Since they were born, everything about them was under the control of their parents. From the journey of going to kindergarten, elementary school, junior high school, high school and even college, parents in every aspect of their lives. This type of parents often have a situation where they are confused.
They When facing children's daily life, they take care of everything . On the one hand, they think that their children do not have the ability to do this, and on the other hand, they don't want their children to work so hard. During the learning process, as long as the child has learning problems, they can choose to ask a private tutor or enroll a cram school to solve the problem. Even if the grades are poor after tutoring, it doesn’t matter. Parents will find the most suitable school for their children.
students also have no pressure here because they know that everything is helped by their parents. After such children grow up in society, their status changes. They are no longer a student who ignores everything and only studies, but an adult who strives for their own future.But They are used to living under the protection of their parents and have no ability to live in the workplace at all.
This has nothing to do with education. Even if they have high academic qualifications, they do not have the will to work. Just like a new type of dependents, even if they have high education, they are unwilling to face work problems and do not want to face them. Instead, they deceive their parents into having more important things to do and want to take the postgraduate entrance examination to get a better future. so that they can stay at home and rely on their parents with peace of mind and continue to enjoy the life of asking for money from their parents.
When parents come back to their taste, they will find out how big the problem with their previous education was. They think this is a manifestation of loving children, but they don’t know that it is this behavior that makes children develop a behavior that is lazy and hates labor, and from then on, they will "waste" their children.
When you grow up, children who are truly capable are all with independent thinking and action ability. Their parents will not interfere too much in their children's affairs, but implements "wolf sex education". Although sounds a little cruel, this is also the best training for children and the only way for them to grow up.
What parents should do is to face problems with their children and help them overcome difficulties, rather than directly helping their children solve this difficulty so that they will not suffer any setbacks. Too much protection will change the child's mind, and parents should use appropriate methods to educate their children.
Topic today: What method do you use to educate your children? What impact do you think this kind of "accompanying" education will have on your children?
