Parents always have more expectations for boys because they will have to bear more responsibilities in the future. In addition to achieving success at work, they must also be orderly in life and shoulder the burden of supporting their families.
Therefore, in order to let boys have a better future, parents will be particularly strict. From a young age, a series of rules will be established and they are expected to abide by them. Moreover, the requirements for boys are particularly high, and they are expected to be excellent in all aspects.
"You are a boy, you must know how to be humble to girls"
"You are a boy, you must be strong and courageous, don't cry when things happen"
"You are a boy, you cannot retreat when encountering difficulties, you must work hard to overcome"
"You are a boy" , became the shackles that bound them. It is no exaggeration to say: These demands of parents deprive boys of their right to grow up freely. They are not even qualified to make mistakes. They are forced to move on and complete everything seriously according to the way set by their parents.
I really want to ask these parents: Have you ever thought about how old they are? Are such stringent requirements really fair to them? Everyone grows up only once. Do parents want boys to have an unhappy childhood? Do you want their lives to be mediocre?
Only boys who are allowed will have unlimited possibilities.
. Crying is allowed.
Even adults have the right to cry, not to mention how old a child is? Crying has nothing to do with gender or age, but is caused by emotion. Although men are reluctant to shed tears, they should also cry when they encounter a hurdle that they cannot overcome or something particularly sad.
In childhood, crying is the way for children to express their emotions, and it is also an important way for them to learn empathy . Allowing boys to cry will not only vent their bad emotions, but also prevent many psychological problems.
. It is allowed to retreat from the obstacles that
cannot overcome, then retreat temporarily, recharge your batteries, and set sail again. It is certainly a good thing to face difficulties and move forward, but if you think carefully before moving forward, wouldn't it be more likely to win? Allowing children to retreat can temper their impatient personalities, which is really a good thing.
Withdrawal and escape are two completely different concepts. The focus is on the guidance and evaluation of parents. Temporary retreat is okay, but escape is not, because retreating still has the possibility of moving on.
. Allowing naughtiness
In the growth process of boys, there are always a few things that make their parents dumbfounded. It is their nature to be playful, naughty and troublemaking. It is a good thing for boys to be naughty at heart, which shows that they have strong hands-on ability, thinking ability and adaptability.
Naughty and mischievous children are born with a competitive mentality, especially when getting along with boys, they always want to defeat others. Therefore, allowing boys to be naughty will stimulate more of their potential.
. Allowing challenges
Excessive protection will only limit the development of children and make them become flowers in a greenhouse. Since being strong and brave is a label for boys, why not let them start exercising from an early age? Allowing boys to do dangerous things and challenge themselves will make them more manly.
understands what parents think. They are just worried about their children getting hurt, whether it is physical or psychological, for fear of causing a blow to them. But parents should have heard the phrase "the more frustrated you are, the more courage you get", right? The more children dare to challenge, the less afraid they are of failure.
. It is allowed to be "stupid"
In terms of physical and mental development characteristics, boys seem to wake up later than girls. At the same age, girls are already brave enough to express themselves, but boys are still awkward in speaking. Especially in primary school, girls are obviously smarter, but this is normal.
Allow children to learn slowly and respect their growth characteristics. This is what smart parents should do. In life, as long as parents are willing to spend time and continue to encourage boys, they will grow very quickly, and they will definitely be able to catch up.
On the way to raising boys, parents must learn to set correct rules
. Don’t lie.
At any time, no matter what wrong thing you have done, you must not lie. This is the most basic principle. The foundation of being a human being is to maintain the most basic integrity, which is also the most important point of being a human being.
. Be brave and take responsibility
No matter whether it is right or wrong, you must be brave enough to take responsibility for what you have done, and cultivate a sense of responsibility in boys from an early age. Only children who are good at taking responsibility can have the ability to take charge of themselves when they grow up.
. Learn to be polite
Upbringing is a habit engraved in the bones. Teach children politeness from an early age and let them respect everyone around them. Boys who are polite will get more praise in their future life and work.
. Learn to be independent
The most important point is to teach children to be independent from an early age and let them develop the habit of doing things on their own. True independence, including both behavior and thought, is naturally inseparable from the cooperation of parents.
is written at the end: As adults, boys need to face more complicated things, and the pressure and difficulties can be imagined. Therefore, in their early years, scientific educational concepts should be promoted and children should be allowed to be themselves as they wish.
