I am a middle school teacher. Many parents have been asking me what kind of family education they should give their children and what kind of family atmosphere they should create. Many parents have trouble with their children's home education. A mother of one child told me that s

I am a middle school teacher. Many parents have been asking me what kind of family education should be given to their children and what kind of family atmosphere should be created.

Many parents have trouble with their children's home education. A mother of one child told me that she has a strong personality, while her husband is relatively introverted and belongs to a family of tiger mother and cat father. The mother was worried that this would affect her son and turn him into a mother's boy with no independent opinions as mentioned on the Internet.

I personally feel that parents’ personalities cannot be changed, but the family education atmosphere can be created independently. For example, I just read the childhood story of Zhou Hongyi, the founder of 360.

Zhou Hongyi, who was born in 1970, was in an era of both material and spiritual poverty. Zhou Hongyi was very thin when he was a child. When the children were fighting and struggling to grow, Zhou Hongyi had no chance of becoming the king of children. But this does not prevent Zhou Hongyi from finding the happiness of childhood.

In the Henan compound where Zhou Hongyi was born at that time, children had never seen such novel things as bubble gum . Zhou Hongyi laughed at himself and said that it was hard for modern children to imagine that children in that era would do it themselves when they saw a new thing that made people drool. At that time, a child invented a homemade version of bubble gum: take a piece of flour and knead it in a basin. When only gluten is left, just add some toothpaste to the gluten. Zhou Hongyi got the true story and went home to concoct it according to law. As expected, a wave of facial cleansing immediately appeared in the courtyard.

There are two other childhood stories of Zhou Hongyi: one is about watching popcorn when he was a child. The process of popping popcorn is what excites children, and eating popcorn is second. Whenever the popcorn man comes to the compound, asks his parents for five cents, and waits in line with a bowl of rice to pop, today's children should sneer at it. After all, looking at a black stove is not as interesting as playing King of Glory, but when we were young, For those who have never been exposed to the Internet, this is a real childhood memory.

The other one is a self-made movie by Zhou Hongyi and his friends. It's said to be a homemade movie, but it's actually the children drawing patterns with ink on glass pieces and using flashlights to project them onto the screen. Manually changing the glass pieces and turning the pages can be regarded as the early PPT of mankind, and the PPT commentator. This group of children also thought about buying tickets, but gave up because the conditions were too simple and no one came to support them.

Let’s talk about Zhou Hongyi himself. When he was a child, he developed good hands-on skills due to the lack of material world. For example, Zhou Hongyi can make his own toy cars, and when he grows up, he can repair some small household appliances. Zhou Hongyi's evaluation of himself is: "I have never had an interest in doing things like this. It has something to do with the fact that I often did handicrafts when I was a child.

In short, as Zhou Hongyi said, in childhood, his actions and imagination were not restricted. I think this is a democratic family education method that allows children to develop freely. Children raised in this way are often more confident, more generous, and better able to adapt to this society. Most of them have children whose families are too strict. They have all lost their self-confidence.

For a child, losing self-confidence and freedom is probably the most damaging thing to his future.