Einstein once said: "If people have forgotten everything they learned in school, then what is left is education."
And many educators including the principals and professors of famous schools such as Harvard and Yale All agree with this statement. Richard Levine, the 22nd President of Yale University, once said: "True education does not impart any knowledge or skills, but can make people competent in any discipline and profession. This is true education."
Stanford University Professor Carol Dweck believes that education should allow children to learn growth thinking. The true purpose of
education is to cultivate "growth thinking"
growth thinking is a concept proposed by Professor Carol Dweck in the book "Lifelong Growth".
Professor Carol Dweck believes that human thinking can be roughly divided into two types: fixed thinking and growth thinking. The so-called growth mindset of
means that the child's thinking mode is positive and upward, and he believes that "man is sure to conquer the sky" and he can win anything through hard work.
It is conceivable that, facing an opportunity, children with a growth mindset will seize it without hesitation and participate with all their strength. Even if they encounter the worst result-failure, the child can still be in the process. Accumulate harvest.
, rather than growing children, will hesitate, doubt themselves when encountering setbacks, and may miss opportunities because of not doing their best.
Therefore, children with a growth mindset tend to have stronger competitiveness and learning ability! How does
cultivate a growth mindset?
1. Parents lead by example
Dr. Carol Dweck believes that children’s thinking patterns will be affected by parents and teachers, especially the early parents of children’s influence on him is critical.
give a simple example:
A parents went home and said: My company’s new project has a problem. Fortunately, we have found an alternative. With this experience, I won’t be afraid of such things again in the future.
B The parents went home and said: There is a problem with the company's new project, it almost happened! Alas, next time I encounter this kind of new project, I have to find a way to get rid of it. In case it messes up, it will be thankless! The result of
is obvious. Under the subtle influence of parents, it is of course that the children of parent A are more likely to have a growth mindset.
Therefore, parents should pay attention to what they say and do every day, and set a good example for their children.
2. Cultivate children's frustration ability
Frustration ability is the core ability in growth thinking.
cultivates children’s ability to resist frustration, and parents need to teach their children how to deal with frustrations.
First of all, parents should guide their children to look at failure in a more positive manner. For example:
I just can’t do well now; I should try other methods; I may need to spend more time practicing; I should learn methods from XX …Z1z
Secondly, parents should not just watch their children experience setbacks, and properly help them improve their children’s ability to resist frustration.
Of course, the help here is not to help the child clear the obstacles directly, but to help the child find a way, such as: teaching the child to solve the problem, reminding the child where improvement is needed...
3, praise the child correctly
Finally, when the child is done For one thing, parents should use praise to make their children realize that success is because they have worked hard, tried, and did not give up...
share a parenting book list for fostering children’s frustration ability and communicating with children:
"How to train children "Key Social Competences" (6 volumes)
Topic: Children’s psychology, communication skills, self-esteem, self-discipline, emotional ability, proactiveness and pro-social behaviors
Reasons for selection: Most of the parenting books written by
to parents are pure In terms of text, many mothers responded "too boring!" and "I can't go in", so I specially found this set of comic parenting books. The book
uses pictures and texts to explain the psychological development of children, and provides parents with 360 “flexible use” suggestions for parenting, which are short in length, high in practicality, and moderate in interest.
"Cultivation through Play"
Theme: EducationChildren’s methods, learning ability, good personality, self-control, good habits
Reasons for selection:
is a set of books by Dr. Fu Xiaoping based on his own parenting experience combined with professional and scientific parenting concepts, with the theme of "how to play with children" to help Parents solve common parenting problems and give practical suggestions (specific to parent-child reading, parent-child games' parent-child games, parent-child movie watching and other activities).
"The Fairy Tale of Crooked Rabbit's Independent Growth" (10 volumes)
Theme: Encountering difficulties is like giving up, sloppy, careless, procrastinating, shirking responsibility, indecision, inferiority, inability to express and other emotional intelligence issues.
Reason for listing:
It is also in the "Crooked Rabbit" series, this set of books is more readable.
It is another fairy tale masterpiece by children's literature writer Chen Mengmin following several "Dangdang Five-Star Children's Books for Life". The language is beautiful, the story is wonderful, and the imagination is peculiar. It can not only help children improve their school adaptability, but also be good for basic reading and literary enlightenment. select.
One of the book "Xiao Nuan is like a flower fairy", through the difficulties, setbacks and choices that Xiao Nuan encountered in the process of realizing his dreams, guide children to learn to face setbacks and work hard.
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