"Yell if you want, I don't care."
When a child makes certain requests, parents can first understand the child's motivation for making these requests. If you just want to show yourself or compare with other classmates, parents can ask for their children. Perform a "cold treatment".
is actually very simple, that is: does not answer his request, give her a cooling-off period of a few days, and wait for him to determine whether the item is really needed, and then discuss with him whether he needs to buy it.
Even if the child cannot fully accept the views of the parents, he will not easily make excessive demands on the parents.
child: "Mom, you can buy me a new schoolbag."
mother: "Didn't you just buy a schoolbag? Why do you want to buy it again?"
child:
"My schoolbag is not good, now I have a new schoolbag, yes It plays a role in health care. Several students in our class bought them. A schoolbag with
has multiple functions, how great, you can buy one for me."
...
face the child’s nagging, mother doesn’t I pay attention and continue to work on my housework.
Seeing that his mother was not moved by his request, the child yelled: "I want a new schoolbag!"
However, the mother said: "If you want to shout, please don't buy it anyway!" The
child saw her mother ignored it I have to give up!
It is undeniable that the mother's approach in the case is correct!
Faced with the unreasonable requirements of the child, parents must not easily satisfy him, otherwise it will only encourage her vanity and reduce the child's resistance to temptation.
In the process of parenting, almost every child will make unreasonable demands, and almost every parent will encounter similar problems.
, but different parents use different methods, and the resulting educational effects are also different.
If parents give in to their children's requirements, if things go on like this, the children will develop the habit of "giving me something".
makes unreasonable requests. Once rejected, some children will cry and make a lot of noise. At this time, parents can use the "cold treatment" method.
So how to use "cold processing"?
First of all, simply state your reasons for rejecting him;
then continue to do your own thing and ignore his crying behavior.
In this way, the child will learn from the resolute attitude of the parents that crying is useless;
, on the contrary, if the child cries, you will compromise, which will only make the child make more unreasonable demands.
Children today are generally willful, self-centered, do whatever they want, domineering, and have no self-control ability at all.
They can’t tolerate any external constraints. They often hit nails and encounter setbacks in their lives. If parents use rude educational methods, such as "rewarding" her slap, closing her "confinement"
......
this will not only give children Hurts his mind.
Therefore, how to reject the unreasonable demands of girls has become a science.
"cold treatment" is indeed a good method!
However, there are also points that need attention.
principle problem, can't compromise
encounters small things in life, such as: children want to go to the amusement park when school is over, and when they see cute little toys on the side of the road, they want to buy one. Parents such as
can satisfy their children, and at the same time, they can provide corresponding conditions.
For example: ask children to eat obediently when they return home after playing; do their homework carefully after buying toys.
However, if you encounter a problem of principle, no matter how the child cries, parents must resolutely refuse.
If the child sees that classmates have valuable electronic products such as tablet computers, and he cries to buy one, the parents must rigorously educate them to prevent her from forming comparisons and conformity.
Nowadays, most of the children are the only children in the family. Many elders love their children, and can even be said to be "spoiling". As long as the children want, they will be unconditionally satisfied.
Parents must put an end to this practice and set a "bottom line" for their children. When children make excessive demands, parents must adhere to principles and cannot compromise.
Unreasonable demands for children to "cold treatment"
If the child is very stubborn and the persuasion and education are not effective, parents can use the cold treatment method, do what they should do, just as a girl who loses her temper does not exist.
waits until he feels boring and fails to achieve the effect, it will end on its own.
When a child makes a certain request, parents can first understand the child's motivation for buying the item.
If your child loses his temper and cries, you will satisfy the child's needs, and the child will have to take it seriously, thinking that as long as you take this method, you can get what you want, which will encourage their wrong behavior.
If the girl's request is more unreasonable, the parents just blindly agree, it will make the child more arrogant; but if the parents blindly suppress it, it will also make the child feel rebellious.
Therefore, if you don't want to agree to an unreasonable request made by your child, you must explain the reason to them clearly.
If the child keeps crying, wait until he finishes crying, then explain the reason and reason with the child.
At the same time, specific analysis of specific issues and flexible handling of children's unreasonable requirements can also play a role in guiding girls correctly.
For example, if a child wants to eat chocolate, but you say: "Don't eat anything before dinner", it will only make the child more angry.
If a parent says: "Yes, I will give you candy after a meal, let's eat an apple now", this will make the girl happy to accept it.
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