1. Why are teenagers rebellious? Z2z
1. Why do young people be rebellious?
If you don’t know the reason, suppressing it ignorantly cannot solve the youth rebellion. Only by identifying the reason and prescribing the right medicine can the conflict be resolved.
(1) The inevitable physiological process
youth rebellion is a normal physiological phenomenon. Children who often argue and fight with their parents have different brain structures from ordinary children. Australian researchers have found that in children with rebellious brain development in stages, in early adolescence, the brain areas responsible for emotions develop faster than normal children. But this phenomenon will disappear with age, so parents don't have to worry too much.
(2) The normal law of development
The feeling of independence and maturity makes the relationship between adolescent peers extremely close, and the same feeling of independence and maturity makes them no longer satisfied with the obedience and dependence on their parents in the past. Their series of behaviors make parents and teachers feel their rebelliousness and the emergence of adolescent locked-in psychology. In the long river of human life, it is not only an inevitable process, but also has a progressive and developmental effect, pushing people from naive to maturity. .
(3) Problems in family education
Now children's life experience, cultural background and status in the family have all undergone essential changes. However, we always use the concepts formed in the past growth experience to educate children today, which is naturally difficult for children to accept. Affected by the educational environment of our country, parents are restricting the growth of their children from a utilitarian perspective and purpose, deepening the differences and contradictions between parents and children.
(4) my country's current education model
The reform of the current education model has made talent training more market-oriented, and education itself has a certain lag.
(5) Lack of guidance for family education
The lack of systematic guidance for family education under the market economy is also a cause of psychological rebellion among middle school students.
2. What should we do about youth rebellion?
(1) Respect for children
Parents should not always stare at their children's weaknesses, and compare their children's shortcomings with the advantages of other children. When in contact with children, parents should look for their children's advantages and encourage them as much as possible, so as to reduce the children's resistance to their parents.
(2) Thinking in empathy
Parents also come from the youth rebellion period, but no children are obvious, so to solve the problem of how to deal with youth rebellion, you might as well think about why children are like this, with emotion and After the emotional resonance, the child will be understood.
(3) Don’t talk about results
. Parents should not always learn to enter questions with their children. This will only make the children always stressed and doubt the motivation of parents to communicate. When communicating, parents can start with family affairs to solve the problem of how to deal with teenagers' rebellion, stabilize the children's emotions before discussing the topic.
(4) Stabilizing emotions
Parents who take their emotions to educate their children are definitely irrational and will cause their children to become more resistant. So parents should not educate their children when they are impatient, upset, and not calm. After calming down, go to communicate with the children, so as to solve the problem of how to deal with the rebellious teenagers.
(5) Allowing mistakes
This stage is the critical period for children to form their own opinions. Small mistakes are bound to be inevitable, so parents should allow their children to make some mistakes and suffer some losses, and not to restrict their children too much. At the same time, parents are the best role models for children. Children in the rebellious period have a strong ability to imitate. Parents' good words and deeds can have a subtle influence on their children. Only in this way can we solve the problem of how to deal with youth rebellion.
(6) Reduce children's burden
Parents all have the idea of "hoping for a child to become a dragon and a girl to become a phoenix", and some parents even impose their unfulfilled wishes on their children, and their children will reluctantly participate after school. All kinds of training can't get good mental relaxation, which causes a lot of mental pressure, which causes them to hate life and the rebellious period arrives early. I hope that parents will give their children appropriate time to use when they study. Children in the rebellious period live in harmony.
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