Before getting married, I heard a colleague say that when you give birth to a baby in the future, don’t carry it out to comfort the baby when you cry. When you get used to it, the baby will be very clingy and will hold it at any time. If you rely too much, the baby will not be confident and will not be good to the baby’s personality.
sounded quite reasonable at the time, and I thought to myself that it would be the same if I had a baby in the future.
But when I have a child, I find that I can't do that at all, because feels very distressed whenever the child cries, and I can't ignore it.
Should I pick it up and comfort my baby when crying?
I believe many people advocate picking up the baby and comforting it like lazy mothers.
Not to mention whether parents have the ability to bear to listen to their babies crying (I believe most parents cannot do it). Just saying that doing this will not develop well for the emotional and social abilities of the baby , especially in the first few months of the baby’s birth.
▶The development process of emotional and social abilities of 1-3 months of age:
The baby has more sleep time after birth, but whether he is awake or asleep, likes to be by his mother's side , because the mother can give him more sense of security , and the baby also likes to stare at his parents close up.
The baby will sleep less after the full moon, and he will spend more time on to observe people and things around him, listen to others' voices, read and other voices.
Baby will also have conscious responses to the language and actions everyone makes to him . When we are teasing the baby, the baby will also smile at us accordingly, even if he doesn't know what it means.
The baby is about two months old, and the baby also likes to communicate with others . What the baby likes most is the smiley face of his parents, and the baby will also show a smile to his parents.
Of course, crying is also one of the ways for babies to communicate with their parents, and it is also a way for babies to express their needs. When they get a response, the baby will stop crying.
When the baby is three months old, he will become the "smile communication master" . The baby may have learned to giggle and speak out to attract parents, and will also wait quietly. When is a mother and mother smiling at him, he will get a smile of more than N times of return.
In addition to laughing, the baby will also make various language movements to communicate with his parents, such as waving his hands and feet with a erotic personality, or imitating his parents' expressions and movements.
If you are someone other than your parents, the baby will not be so enthusiastic.
However, babies will be interested in other children . At 3 to 4 months, if there are children playing with the baby, they will be very happy.
and these can well establish a baby's sense of self-identity.
At the same time, the baby's needs and desires will also change, such as the baby's urgent needs will be reduced, because some problems have been solved by parents, and some problems will be handled by the baby's nervous system, , and the baby can handle them by himself.
The baby can entertain himself, and the baby will comfort himself. If he can play on his own, his parents will be much more relaxed.
" American Academy of Pediatrics Parenting Encyclopedia " clearly states: Don't worry about spoiling the child in the first few months. Reply to him immediately when he needs it, so that he knows how much you care about her. There will be no harm. Before the baby is 6 months old, the faster and patiently you will be to comfort the baby, the less you will have to worry about him when he grows up.
also says that children need to be constantly comforted to feel safe and help them lay a foundation for self-confidence and belief.
Therefore, when the baby needs comfort, parents should take action in time. Doing so will promote the development of the baby's emotional and social abilities. The baby will be better brought up and have a better personality in the future.
This is very important in the first 6 months of the baby’s birth, so parents must not miss it.
How to do it promote the development of your baby's emotional and social abilities?
① When the baby needs it, he will give the baby timely comfort
htmlBaby within 3 months of age is not well developed in the brain, has a weak sense of security, and will not comfort himself. Crying is because of physiological needs and is also part of the emotional communication between the baby and his parents.When the baby sends out a demand, parents should give the baby quick and patient comfort.
②Interact more with the baby
In addition to comforting the baby when crying, parents should also interact more with the baby, such as making the baby laugh, making various faces to the baby, chatting with the baby, reading picture books, playing with toys with the baby, and touching the baby.
"Pediatric Encyclopedia of the American Academy of Pediatrics" says: The more these interactions, the higher the level of his brain development, and the easier it is to divert attention from instincts (hunger, bloating, fatigue, etc.), which comprehensively weakens the strong influence of instinct needs on his behavior.
That is to say, when we interact with the baby, we can make the baby's brain develop better, and transfer some instinctive needs through these pleasant processes.
③ Let the baby come into contact with different people
As the baby grows up, he will become interested in different ages or people. Parents can take the baby to "get" these people together.
As the saying goes, only by knowing yourself and your enemy can you win every battle, and only by understanding your baby's development can you better cultivate your baby's abilities.
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