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Somehow, there is a popular saying in parent circles these days: It is better to have a daughter for the first child, so that whether the second child is born or not, the second child can be happy whether it is a boy or a girl. If the second child is a boy, that's fine, and both children will be the winners in life. If the second child is still a daughter, it is not bad to have two small padded jackets, at least it is not too stressful. But if the first child is a son, the second child can only bet. Two brothers were born wrong, enough for parents to cry!
Therefore, in many areas, as long as the first-born is a daughter, it will be the sincere blessings of others . If it is a son, other people will look at you with a smirk, and sometimes add a sentence "Why, do you still have a second child?" It is good to have a daughter, and there will be less pressure in the future! But now I went back to my mother's house to chat with him, and found that he still regretted the judgment he made back then. Because raising a daughter is no less stressful than raising a son.
Before the children get married and start a family, the cost of raising a daughter is the same as raising a son.
It is said that raising a son is more stressful than raising a daughter, mainly referring to the time when the child is talking about marriage. After all, according to the general social environment, when a son marries a daughter-in-law, his parents have to prepare a dowry and a down payment for the house in advance, but it is not necessary for a daughter to marry. But from the moment the child is born, until the child grows up, goes to college or even graduates, as long as marriage is not involved, the cost difference will not be so obvious.
After all, boys and girls now have the same right to education, and education is the biggest investment for children before they reach adulthood. Can parents still favor boys and girls over the other?
How high is the education cost today, just look at the interest classes around you that often cost 10,000 or even tens of thousands a year.In other words, if you feel that raising your daughter is less stressful, when her daughter reaches the age of kindergarten, should she sign up for some piano and dance classes? Speaking of which, my younger brother, who lives in an 18th-tier town, is just because he pays nearly 30,000 to 40,000 to 40,000 extra-curricular classes for his daughter every year, so he gritted his teeth and felt that his remarks in the past few years were "really fragrant".
As the daughter grows up, the parents have another layer of heart disease. This is a rare breed of sons.
Before the child talks about marriage, whether it is a boy or a girl, the cost is almost the same. But there is a daughter at home. As the daughter grows up, the parents will have more heart problems than raising a boy, that is, worry about the daughter's personal safety. After all, there is too much negative news about girls' safety in today's society.
Like my brother, after my daughter went to kindergarten, every day I worry about whether the teacher is good to the child, and whether the daughter is "taken advantage of" by the little boys. Seeing my daughter go to her classmates to play, and hold a small hand with a boy, my brother would be nervous for a long time. I am afraid that if I say too much, it will make my daughter feel ashamed, and if I say it lightly, it will make my daughter "relax" and suffer a loss.
Look, this is what worries people who have a daughter. In terms of psychological pressure, raising a daughter is more stressful than raising a son.
Of course, judging the pressure of parenting from the gender of the child alone is a bit nonsense. For parents who never value boys over girls, boys and girls are their own hearts, and they are willing to do their best for their children, so that children can grow up in a loving and warm atmosphere. Therefore, those people who are always discussing whether it is better to have a boy or a girl should leave early.
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