School bullying cases among minors have shown a high incidence in recent years. A survey in 2017 showed that the number of school bullying cases in 2017 increased by 50% compared to the previous year. Behind these data are very A distressing case.
Miao Miao is a relatively introverted and quiet girl, and her grades in school are not bad. Miao Miao’s mother always thinks that her daughter is better at and has a good temper, so nothing happens at school, that’s it. Until Miao Miao was in the fifth grade, Miao Miao’s mother discovered something was wrong when she was taking a bath with her daughter. There were several bruises on ’s legs and on his arms. When my mother saw this , I felt distressed immediately, and I asked her how these bruises were caused, but Miaomiao was vague, her eyes kept avoiding, hesitating, and finally said that she fell over . Miaomiao’s mother felt something. It was definitely not the case, so he kept a mindful eye.
Miaomiao used to walk home by herself after school. Since she discovered that the child was injured, Miaomiao’s mother would secretly look at her daughter at the school gate after school, , there was nothing unusual for a few days , Miaomiao’s mother Thinking that she might really fall down by herself, but just when she was about to give up, after school, Miaomiao’s mother saw her daughter coming out of school, and there were several boys of the same age behind her. Z2z kept pushing her. Miaomiao didn’t fight back with her. As a result, she couldn’t stand and was pushed to the ground by one of the boys. Miaomiao’s mother suddenly became angry and went up to push the boy in the same way, and the boy was also pushed down. On the ground. Miao Miao’s mother helped her daughter up, and after asking the question clearly, she realized that her daughter had been bullied by these boys all the time. The injuries on were also knocked out when they pushed her. Miao Miao’s mother was very angry. I called one of the boys, called the child’s head teacher, and finally called the boy’s parents. Z2z took turns to apologize to his daughter and told them not to bully her again. After returning home, Miaomiao's mother also taught Miaomiao a lesson, telling her that if is bullied at school, don't swallow your anger and must come back and tell her parents.
As parents, from the first day their children enter school, parents are particularly concerned about their school life. After all, children get along with their parents, teachers and classmates. Many parents fear that their children will not say anything when they are bullied at school. will be particularly concerned about their school life and other aspects, but rarely go to parents to teach children, what should be done if they are bullied at school.
On November 2, 2017, , the People’s Court of Xicheng District, Beijing heard a case of underage bullying in accordance with the law. A girl was stripped naked by five classmates and filmed a humiliating video, and then sent to the WeChat group, was sentenced The imprisonment of 1 year and 11 months varies from . If the child knows to tell the teacher when he is bullied for the first time, and fight back directly, I believe these girls will not be so rampant. I don’t know how much the girl’s parents are. Distressed.
Memories of being bullied will be like a shadow, shrouded in children’s minds, not only causing great harm to their mental health, but also may cause children to suffer from mental illness. campus bullying for children, Li Meijin Professor once gave an answer: I support my child to fight back! In the
show together, Li Meijin mentioned that when her granddaughter was in kindergarten, she was bullied by other children. The child was picked up by others and then deliberately dropped. In the end, her head was swollen. Later, Professor Li Meijin learned about this. After the incident, after considering that your granddaughter and the other party's physical strength are very different, then teach her that next time he treats you like this, you should pull its ears. If he hurts, he will put you down.
Professor Li Meijin’s suggestion is to learn to fight back when you are bullied by others, because fighting back represents one of your own attitudes, and telling the teacher after being bullied is actually not a good way. On the contrary, tell After the teacher, he will be bullied more times.
here to call back does not mean that parents want their childrenThe child uses violence to solve problems, but tells the child to learn to protect himself, especially when his personal safety is violated, he must learn to resist.
Parents can use the following methods, which are more useful than telling the teacher
to help children recognize their own bottom line
When some children are bullied, 's immediate response is to give in. In fact, the reason for doing so Part of the reason is that children fail to recognize their own bottom line and allow others to bully . Parents must tell their children where their bottom line is. If others violate their bottom line, they must resist, so that children can better protect themselves. .
promptly fight back
. This is what is mentioned above. If others bullied yourself, you should pay it back, but you should also tell your children that before fighting back, must first protect the fragile parts of your body. Place . Also tell them that if the opponent is much stronger than yourself, has no ability to fight back and escape is the best way.
Inform parents
Many cases of bullying often take a long time before parents know, because children are not told to parents immediately after being bullied. Therefore, if you are bullied at school, you should educate your children to tell their parents that if is a child Parents don’t need to come forward to solve the small fights between us, but if the problem is more serious, the parents will come forward.
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has the first bullying, there will be a second time. At this time, children should learn verbal warnings to deter bad children. is very useful for younger children. They After hearing it, there is often a fear of withdrawal, and thus give up bullying others.
