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Do moms have such confusion?
Children answer questions in class. Others’ children’s language is neat and clear, but their own children can’t tell, and the thief struggles.
The child usually speaks normally, but when he arrives in a public place or when there are many people, he becomes nervous and can't say a word;
knows what is going on in his heart, but he can't tell it. , Make the listener impatient, or just hold back for a long time, the preface does not follow the language, and the speech is messy...
We usually describe this kind of children who have poor expression skills, poor words, and unclear descriptions "mouth stupid "Z4z.
When a child is young, the parents think that it’s okay for the child to be "stupid", and he will grow up slowly.
However, as the child grows up, we find that "stupid mouth" will not improve, but will also have a series of chain reactions: has poor expression skills and others have no patience to listen, which will cause the child to easily lose the opportunity to express , And even be isolated and ignored ; once a misunderstanding occurs, the child cannot explain clearly, can easily be wronged and misunderstood ...
can be said to be a "stupid" child, which suffers.
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Are children born with stupid mouths?
In fact, after a child is born, 's expressive ability is always standing on the same starting line. Especially when the child starts to learn language, he has a strong desire to express.
The reason why children’s expressive ability becomes so different when they grow up is because encounters many factors that hinder the development of children’s expressive skills:
1. The child’s right to speak is deprived of
when the child is young, expressing ability When weak, parents like to do it for their children and become the "mouth" of their children.
For example, the child will say "this", and the parents will give him what the child wants without waiting for the child to finish. Other parents of
think that their children are slow to speak, so they will say "Are you going to..."
. In this way, the children lose a complete opportunity to express themselves. If things go on like this, children are used to being satisfied in advance, and children whose voice is deprived of will lose their desire to express, and 's expressive ability will naturally deteriorate.
2. The environment in which children grow up lacks language communication.
We found an interesting phenomenon. Most of the children with the elderly have dexterous mouths, and they are especially able to speak. The reason is that elderly people like to tease their children.
Young parents are impatient and busy at work. In order to save trouble, they like to throw their children into electronic products such as early education machines, TVs, and tablets. In this way, children lose a language interaction environment.
If a child grows up in an environment where can only input by ear and cannot output by mouth, how can the child's communication skills be good?
3. Excessive harshness to children
Some children are very fluent in recitation. As long as they talk to others, they become hesitant. Why?
is afraid of communicating with people, and 's fear comes from his parents.
When a child speaks unclearly, speaks verbosely, or expresses stubbornly, parents become impatient, interrupt the child, and criticize it, causing the child to be afraid of speaking and communicating with others. There are other parents who like to imitate their children to speak, and treat their children's "wrong words" as jokes, which hurt their children's self-esteem, so they begin to actively close the language channel, leading to the failure to develop their language ability.
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How to help a baby become a "smart mouth"
Language development is an important basis for the intellectual development of children , and is an important symbol of intellectual level. Language ability, has a great influence on children's future cognitive ability, emotional communication, personal social interaction, etc.!
If parents want to develop their children’s intelligence and improve their ability, they must use to deliberately train to help their children change the "stupid mouth" problem.
Child Language Development Expert Patricia KUhl research shows that 0 to 3 years old is the language preparation period for children, and 3 to 7 years old is the golden period of language development . Therefore, parents should seize this golden period to help their children with language enlightenment.
1. Talk to the child more, let the child speak more
Learn to speak from the child, the parent and the mother should talk to the child more , and use vivid language for everything the child sees, hears, and does Say it to your child, and you can also use body language to help your child understand.
For example, when eating, say, “We’re going to start eating! We’re eating delicious braised pork ribs and green greens today.” When doing housework,
said, “Mom is going to start cleaning the room. First, we will clean up the sofa in the living room. Take away the toy."
said when building the blocks, "Let’s put the red rectangular block at the bottom, and then put a yellow square block..."
must use rich language and adjectives. Nouns, improve children's vocabulary. helps children build a rich language environment and teach them.
2. Skilled questions, guide the child to talk
When talking to the child, we do not guess what the child means at once, or tell the child the answer directly, should guide the child to say more and express more.
For example, if you take your child downstairs to play, you can ask him where he wants to play, what toys he brings, and what items he needs to bring.
Guide children to think, guide children to describe, express more, and encourage children to use as many words as possible to express their thoughts.
3. Don't blame, encourage more, stimulate the desire of children to express
Each child's physical and mental development and language ability development level are different, we need to respect the characteristics of children , do not overly criticize children.
When the child is unable to speak clearly, cannot express, or dare not say hello to strangers, do not reprimand the child and cause a psychological burden to the child, but smile, give the child more expectations and applause, cheer up the child .
When the child finishes speaking, he must give him a big encouragement. encourages and praises the child to increase his self-confidence.
4. Improve vocabulary through reading and enrich children’s expression
Scientists have discovered that if two children have a very different vocabulary at the age of 3, for example, one is 1,000 words and the other is 500 words, then after 6 years, the former will It is much better than the latter in all aspects. means that language directly affects children's understanding and perception of external things. The
picture book is a very good way to improve children's vocabulary. At the same time, you can use picture books with your child to improve their expression ability.
Do more parent-child reading with your children. After reading, you can discuss the content of the book with your children and encourage them to output. The language expression ability of
is one of the core competitiveness of children in the future. Parents should pay attention to guiding to use the right method, help children become "smart mouth" .
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