[Taishan Psychology Class 2] The shortcomings of children in school should be paid attention to. Why?

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The shortcomings that children show in school should be paid attention to. Why? Small case of

Some time ago, Mr. Li, the head teacher, told Xiaoyong’s parents about Xiaoyong’s performance at school, saying that he often made faces in class and disturbed the students around him, and he often bullied the small classmates after class. . This surprised Xiao Yong's parents who were sensible and well-behaved at home. Later, after observation, the parents also found that Xiaoyong was indeed not as behaving as before. He often knocked and scratched.

Big thinking:

Xiaoyong was originally a "good boy" at home, why has he become a "problem child" in the eyes of the teacher now? In fact, this phenomenon exists in many children. For example, some children are obedient and obedient at home and bully classmates at school; some children can talk at home but do not say a word at school. In school, teachers often notice the shortcomings of children that parents have never seen. This is very important to the development of children. Why?

First of all, after children enter elementary school, they spend most of their time in school. Teachers have more contact time with children and they have a better understanding of them. In many cases, parents are busy with work all day, seldom take time to communicate with their children, parent-child interaction is reduced, parents do not know enough about their children's thoughts and behaviors, and even less about the motives of their children's behaviors. Over time, the relationship between children and their parents is alienated and emotionally indifferent, and children seldom show their thoughts and exchange ideas to their parents. Some problems in children's growth may not be manifested in family life, but gradually revealed in school life.

Secondly, as the organizer and manager of school teaching activities, teachers can objectively and clearly reflect students' thought dynamics and behavior. The teacher has accumulated a wealth of life experience in the process of long-term communication with students, and has a high sensitivity and accuracy to the problematic psychology and behavior of the students. Moreover, children can play and interact with many peers in school. This equal communication status and way of communication also helps children to "express their opinions without fear".

In addition, the reason why the teacher can frankly explain to the parents the shortcomings of the children's performance in school is because the teacher hopes that the children can correct mistakes or reduce shortcomings as much as possible, and grow up healthy. In the eyes of the teacher, children are flowers in the garden, and they need not only watering and fertilization, but also pruning and support. At the same time, the shortcomings reflected by the children in school may indicate that their development has entered a special period-a sensitive period. Children in this period often need more attention and love from their parents. Sometimes, the shortcomings shown by the children can also reflect certain deficiencies in family education.

Heart Vision: The sensitive period of psychological development of

The sensitive period of

is an important period when children form a certain psychological structure or personality in the process of psychological development. Studies have shown that the sensitive period is a critical period for the development of a certain psychological feature, and once missed, it will have an adverse effect on the subsequent psychological development.

When children are in a sensitive period of psychological development, parents should pay attention to the following matters.

1) Have a deep understanding of the psychological activities behind children's behaviors, and grasp the specific objects in sensitive periods.

2) Parents should try their best to create conditions to meet the needs of children's psychological development.

3) Encourage children to communicate with their peers so that children can grow up healthily in an environment of equal sharing.

Clever method:

What should parents do when the teacher reports that the child’s performance in school is insufficient?

•Trust the teacher's feedback and analyze the root cause of the problem. Teachers’ feedback to parents not only helps parents understand their children’s performance in school, but also helps to reflect on problems in family education. Parents should be open-minded to accept the teacher's feedback and suggestions, analyze the children's problems with the teacher, and discuss solutions for improvement.

•Interact parent-child and listen to the voice of the child. Parents should pay attention to their children's speech performance and behavioral responses, and actively ask their children's learning, interpersonal communication, and social activities every day, and be the children's confidant and good partner. Frequent interaction between parents and children is a healthy parent-child relationship. Important indicators are also an important part of good family education.

•Encourage the expression of needs, actively satisfy legitimate wishes, maintain an open, equal and democratic atmosphere in family life, give children the opportunity to fully express their needs, and allow children to understandMy inner needs are revealed. After understanding the needs of the child, the parents try their best to meet the reasonable needs of the child according to the type of needs and the actual situation of the family. For the unsatisfied needs, the parent should give the child a detailed explanation to let him understand the inner The secret. For some needs that can be met in the future, parents should promise their children, let them be full of expectations, and strive to fulfill their promises.

•Teach children how to get along with their peers and encourage friendly interactions with peers. Parents and teachers can provide children with rules and examples of friendly interaction, so that children know how to get along with their peers. At the same time, children should be encouraged to communicate and share, tell their own stories, share stories of others, and gain happiness in sharing.

Quotes:

wants children to understand and comprehend from an early age: every step and every action he takes will cause repercussions in the spiritual life of the people around him—comrades, parents, teachers and "strangers". Only when he does not bring disasters to others, does not bully and disturb others, can he become a peaceful and happy person.

-Soviet educator Sukhomlinsky