I’m Martian 30. This is the [766] day of the daily plan
A few days ago, we introduced some specific methods to help parents guide their children in emotional management. However, there is an important prerequisite for implementing these methods, that is: parents must be able to deal with emotions when they themselves have emotions.
If the parents themselves are short-tempered and can hardly control their emotions, how can you expect to give your children a good education?
Some parents also want to improve, and also want to help their children guide their emotions, and have also learned a lot of skills. However, when faced with the reality, when seeing children making trouble or being disobedient, most people involuntarily become angry and completely forget about the guidance skills they have learned.
Many parents feel that the child is still young and doesn’t understand anything. We occasionally lose our temper to him, and it’s fine for him to cry and he will soon recover. However, the reality is that this kind of parental behavior is subtly affecting the child. It will not only cause the child's bad temper, but also force the child to develop superficial skills such as lying and flattering in order to cope with the parent. Sex is a great harm.
Don't lose your temper to your child easily. When you really can't stand it, stop calmly and readjust yourself. Emotions are not a trivial matter. Mastering your emotions is very important for you and your children.
can see that the improvement of parents themselves is very important before guiding children's emotional management.
has the following two more common steps:
1, remove the emotional mine; the so-called emotional mine of
means that when you touch something, your emotions will erupt like a mine.
Many times, we don't pay attention to what makes ourselves emotional, so we don't know where to start. Therefore, the best way is to find your own emotional mine, and then remove it. The easiest way for
is to record at any time. You can bring a small notebook with you, or use a mobile phone memo. When you encounter emotional fluctuations in something, you can record it. If you have accumulated more records, you can perform statistical replays, and you will easily find a certain emotional reaction node in yourself. After
find this mine, you have to face it bravely.
2. Help yourself find happiness;
According to research findings, there are about three levels of happiness that humans can experience. The first layer of
is the happiness of the senses, which is the easiest thing for everyone to get, such as eating delicious food, wearing beautiful clothes, etc.; the second layer of
is the happiness of happiness, which refers to doing one thing, for Achieving a goal, sacrificing the sense of happiness in front of you, in order to get better results, it is a bit like we often say delayed gratification. The third layer of
is the happiness of meaning, which refers to the completion of a thing that is meaningful to you, but basically without the element of enjoyment. For example, being a volunteer, going to the mountains to support education, etc., this is a higher level of happiness.
For parents, balance these levels of happiness and help them find happiness again. Only then can you have a good mood to raise your children and bring more love to them.
When your child is surrounded by your love, you will find that it is much easier to solve other problems and remove bad habits. Remember, only if you live better by yourself can you bring more love to your children and you will become a better parent at the same time.
Keywords: emotional management, happiness, love
