Huang Xiang said: "I'll be warm."
What a typical Versailles scene. Just ask, how hard is it for a person to be famous? Now that China has a population of more than one billion people, I close my eyes and think desperately, I am afraid that the number of names that can appear in front of me may not reach 100. There will be no more than one hundred thousand people in all dynasties that can be named in one era. Among these 100,000 people, there are less than a thousand names that can be household names.
has a long history and a long history. There are very few that can occupy a little weight in every Chinese family.
Ke Huang Xiang is one of them.
So who is Huang Xiang? The first thing that emerged in our minds must be "Xiang Jiuling, can warm the seats" in the "San Zi Jing". Just such a small matter of Wen Xi, was written in the well-known "San Zi Jing", or in the first few sentences. . In the "San Zi Jing", even the three emperors and five emperors are listed at the back, but the story of Huang Xiang Wen Xi is written in the first few sentences. Bring out this allusion.
Check the history. Huang Xiang, whose name is Wenqiang, was from Jiangxia Anlu, an official in the Eastern Han Dynasty. He was an official in the Eastern Han Dynasty. He was dedicated to public affairs and had a good command of military and political affairs. He was favored by the Han and Emperors. Later he became the prefect of Weijun and was soon dismissed. His life may be glorious for the average person, but in terms of history, it is really too ordinary. However, his fame has moved the world because of his filial piety, and he has been known through the ages only because he was his father Wen Xi.
does not need too many tedious details, no need for exaggerated pearls, to show one's filial piety, only Wen Xi is enough. This is the gift of the ancients. Shouldn't this be the most precious spirit of the Chinese nation?
Looking back at China now, the parent-child relationship is becoming increasingly tense.
A few days ago, seeing a message made me feel very heavy. It was a training camp for problem teenagers, which was full of so-called "problem teenagers" in reality. During the interview, the teenagers said: "I feel that my living environment is very depressive, and my parents are in control everywhere. Even the clothes on my body are bought from head to toe. They have no choice." But parents, do they realize that they are over-controlling? Otherwise, the parents said: "We blame him too little for letting him become like this. If we knew it, we would take care of it."
This is where the contradictions are irreconcilable. Parents practice their own control under the guise of being good for their children; children shouting the slogan of the need for freedom are really destructive of their future. Both want to change each other, but they don't want to be changed.
is like the kind of warm scene of Huangxiang Wenxi, which sounds simple, but in fact it is even more difficult.
Huangxiang Wenxi, the most difficult part is that he is willing to warm up this cold bed for his father.
Father is kind and filial, really difficult. The "Father and Son Shun" in "San Zi Jing" is worthy of people's yearning.
The parent-child relationship is actually a problem between both parties. Among them, parents are the ultimate controllers.
The poor parent-child relationship in modern society is about the following three types:
The first type is that the child is not with his parents since he was a child, and he follows his parents when he grows up. This is actually a very helpless state. If it is not for reality, which parent is willing to separate from the child? In this case, when the child needs his parents the most, his parents are not around. When the child is older, he has a certain ability to move, and his parents are around to restrict him. The relationship between the child and the parents will not get better. In this case, parents should be more patient, no matter what the child looks like, they must first show an attitude of acceptance, and then talk about discipline after they have feelings.
In the second type, children follow their parents since childhood, but their parents are free to do so. When parents ask for what they want, the increasingly sensible children will feel that their parents are not independent and that they are the real masters of the family. Once the child has this kind of thinking, it is very troublesome, and the parents can no longer do any restraint on the child. At this time, it was too late to start many things. Unless there is another person who makes the child very admired and admired, to lead the child to the right path.
In the third type, children follow their parents since childhood, but their parents control everything. this kindType is also the mainstream of the family of problem teenagers today. The strict control of parents should start when the child is very young. After a long time, I don't feel that this is in control. On the contrary, I feel that I haven't managed the child properly. In fact, to judge whether it is in this state or not, carefully observe the child's usual habits. How long has the child dared not watch TV openly after finishing homework? Does the child hide from his parents even when he reads a Chinese and foreign masterpiece? Does the child have the right to freely arrange holiday time, whether it is traveling or reading a book, or to spend an afternoon at a cafe? Do children need to avoid their parents when doing these things?
In a family, both parents and children should be the masters, and no one is affiliated. As a parent, you only need to chop off the thorns on your child, send him to the sun, and let him grow naturally, instead of cutting off all his normally growing branches and leaves and forcing him to grow into what he expects. Only when both parties have the right to be independent can they have the ability to love others and take care of the family together.
