is estimated to be the happiest generation. Because society does not promote education of beating and scolding, parents' teaching methods are much more gentle. But more than a decade ago, almost every child had been beaten.
Especially in rural families, you can hear the sound of beating children in many houses at night.
is also ridiculed: 's childhood without a beating is incomplete. Although
does not promote education of beating and scolding now, some children bear up, and they can really be so angry that their parents are full of blood and go straight to their heads. They don't care about being their own babies, and they can't wait for them to eat fried pork with bamboo shoots!
Recently, there was a treasure dad who was so angry with his son that wanted to beat up the baby, but he was afraid that playing with the baby at night would affect the neighbors’ rest , so he posted a notice in the group. He wants to beat his son. The last sentence of
"I won't make him a meal tonight, I feel I am sorry to my ancestors" , it even shows his anger.
didn't expect that after the news was sent, the owners not only didn't blame him, but they agreed to beat the children together.
also made people laugh and cry, saying: "My daughter is okay today, but let's have a fight." Z6z presumably the little girl didn't expect the reason for being beaten, it turned out that other children made a mistake.
This is really a model of "I am idle anyway, let’s have a kid for fun." . The owners of
can be said to be relatives, but some people also questioned them. Z5z thinks that they should not beat their children, which will give him a psychological shadow.
However, sometimes children are really too bearish, and they don’t have a long memory without a fight.
If the child has the following two behaviors, the parents must fight if they should fight!
1. Acts that touch the bottom line of safety
Some children are really not afraid of death. The curious heart of never stops beating, and there are thousands of ways to die. Sometimes a parent doesn't watch it, and he secretly tries to put his hand in the jack. Z1z
either sees something similar to food, wants to put it in the mouth no matter whether it can be eaten or not, , from time to time, give parents a "scare leg soft" experience.
This is also not because parents’ safety education is not in place. On the contrary, the more parents are not allowed to do anything, the more he wants to do it. Obviously, can't make his memory long by blindly grinding the truth at this time. He can only use painful physical memory to let him know that he is afraid, and he will not dare next time!
2. Behaviors that touch the bottom line of morality
Some behaviors that touch the bottom line of morality, such as: insulting elders in public, lying into sex, cheating money, etc. Some of have even touched the law, such as bullying, stealing and so on. The problem of
is already quite serious. If he still talks to him without any urgency, he would never know the seriousness of the matter at . Their inner monologue is: Sorry, I know I was wrong, I will dare next time!
This is because the cost of making mistakes is so low that they dare to be so unscrupulous. At this time, it is necessary for to let him feel what it means to be loved by his parents.
After all, in the heart of the child, being beaten is quite serious. The cost of making mistakes increases, so naturally they know how to restrain themselves.
Concluding remarks:
can hit the child, but you need to pay attention, after all, it is your own baby. Who will pay if it is broken? There is another
, that is, can't be played too frequently , will hit the child with trivial matters, which will easily cause excessive psychological pressure on him. In the future, I will do things very carefully, and I will only make a mistake. After making a mistake, I may be unable to think about it because of fear of punishment by my parents.
Another possibility is that will reduce the severity of those selective errors by , thinking that it is the same as other minor errors. He might think: "Anyway, I have to be beaten for whatever I do, so what am I afraid of?" pushed him into a hurry, and he was not afraid to drive away.If the water is hot, even hitting it will not work.
So, hitting is not that simple. In addition, the education method is more extreme. When using this "weapon", parents must pay attention to grasp the degree!