As the saying goes, filial piety is first. It means to tell us that we must pay attention to filial piety. Although many people know this sentence and its specific meaning very clearly, judging from their daily performance, it seems that they are not doing well in this aspect. Some people even do not show filial piety to their parents, and lick their faces to declare that they are a filial son.
Actually, whether you are filial or filial, it doesn’t matter if you say it yourself. You know, there are certain standards for filial piety. Only by meeting these standards can you prove that you are indeed a person who knows how to obey your parents. In order to make it easier for everyone to understand, we will organize these standards into the following six things. If you can do three of them, you can prove that you are really filial to your parents. If you have time, come and check it!
1. Take time out to stay with your parents.
Under normal circumstances, in terms of material aspects, parents' requirements for their children can basically be regarded as wantless. But having no desire or desire in this respect does not mean that they can also be spiritually devoid of desire and desire for their children. Especially for those parents who are already older, they hope that their children can take the time to accompany themselves.
Because they know that the time they can spend with their children is running out, if they don't put some pressure on the children, so that they can often take time out to accompany them. When they are dead one day, they worry that the people who really feel sorry and regret it will be their children. Therefore, if you can always take time out to be with your parents, at least it can show that you are very filial.
2. Do what you can for your parents.
For many adults, their parents are already very old. Many things that seem to be easy for them to do, may have been impossible for their parents or they may have struggled to do them. For example, in the matter of washing feet and soaking feet, young people think it is extremely simple to wash their feet with a basin of water. However, in the eyes of their parents who may have suffered from diseases such as lumbar muscle strain, it is as difficult to get a basin of water as it can kill them.
If young people whose parents have this condition can often wash their parents' feet, even if they don't take this seriously, they can be regarded as filial piety in their parents' hearts. Of course, in addition to this, they can obviously clean the home for their parents, or cook several meals for their parents.
Third, pay attention to parents’ ideas and help them achieve their wishes.
Many parents of young people, the older they are, the more embarrassed they are to tell their children some of their ideas. Especially some thoughts about their wishes, even more dare not let their children know easily. There is no other reason, just because they are worried that their children will cause trouble to their children after they know their thoughts or wishes.
For example, some parents especially want to be with their grandchildren from time to time, even if they don't do anything, just stand quietly and watch them laugh and make trouble. But even so, some people who are children can easily ignore this idea of their parents, or show resistance to this idea of their parents. If you can pay attention to your parents' ideas and help them achieve their wishes, at least your parents will think you are very filial.
Fourth, take good care of yourself and do not let your parents worry about yourself.
Many people may have a big misunderstanding about filial piety to their parents. That is, I always feel that only after I have done certain things for my parents can I be considered filial to my parents. But in fact,Being able to take good care of yourself and not let your parents worry about yourself can also be regarded as filial piety for your parents.
Everyone can imagine, if we grow up so big and can't even take care of our own body, can our parents rest assured? Parents are not at ease with us, how can we not think about our safety all the time? In this way, how could their later life be better?
5. Run your own small home well and do not cause trouble to your parents.
After leaving their parents and setting up their own small family, many people's attention will gradually shift from their parents' home to their own small family. Logically speaking, this is not a bad thing. But if in this situation, I still can't manage my own small family well, even if I leave my parents smoothly, it will eventually make my parents feel unfinished.
In other words, this is actually equivalent to adding more trouble to parents. After all, you can’t even take care of your own small family. Where can you still have time and energy to take care of your parents? And how can parents sit idly by after seeing their children in a predicament? But as long as they extended a helping hand to their children, it would be tantamount to causing them trouble again. In this way, who would dare to say that he was filial?
6. Communicate with parents calmly
In addition to the above five things, there is one more thing to prove you Whether you really be filial to your parents plays a crucial role, that is, whether you can communicate with your parents calmly.
may seem to many people, this is not a difficult task at all. But in fact, most people really have no way to do this often.
If you have read the above content carefully, you can check it according to your specific situation. If you can do three of the six things mentioned in the above content, then you can prove that you are really filial to your parents.
