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There is a child in high school at home, what kind of feeling can it be as a parent? anxiety? worried? Still very happy? Under normal circumstances, if there is a high school student with good grades, who is obedient and considerate to his parents, and his grades are still far ahead, the parents are naturally very happy. If it is a poor grade and rebellious and not talking, the parents will also worry about it. Even a headache.
High school is a turning point for students. With more subjects, the content of learning will become complicated. In addition, children are in adolescence and start to have their own ideas, but their self-control is poor. , It is easy to be tempted by something other than learning, and it will also produce a "rebellious psychology", which will cause the child's academic performance to continue to decline, and even to the edge of being unable to save.
Case analysis 1
Zhang Zidong is a male classmate in the second and third class of high school. Zidong’s parents are both office workers and work very hard, so I also study Zidong Neglecting discipline, Zidong’s academic performance was moderate when he was in the second year of junior high, and his homework was very good. The teacher also expressed peace of mind when the parent meeting was held. As long as the child is willing to work hard, he will be admitted to the key high school. It is also very promising.
For Zidong’s mother is very happy and bought a computer as a reward. However, since buying a computer, Zidong often stays in the room alone for studying. Let mom and dad come in. Once in the middle of the night, the family rested. Mom looked at the room in Zidong, and when she went in, the child was playing games and wearing headphones, very excited.
Mom was very angry when she saw it, and she rushed in and turned off the computer. Unexpectedly, the child suddenly went uncharacteristically and yelled at her mother and said that if he lost the game, he would never again At that time, my mother thought that Zidong was only angry for a while, but since that time, Zidong’s academic performance has also plummeted. If he doesn’t communicate with his parents, as long as he doesn’t let him play games, he will be very excited and even rebellious. My mother regretted buying a computer for her child. Now that the child is so rebellious, she doesn't know what to do.
In fact, high school students at this stage are in the "adolescent rebellious stage". If the parents do not handle it properly, it will lead to the child's school waste, irritable personality, and other bad habits and customs. , So if you want your child to pass the "rebellious period" smoothly, parents may wish to try these 3 points, the effect is very obvious.
How to help high school students smoothly through the "rebellious period", smart parents do these 3 points, the effect is particularly obvious
1. Understanding the child's "friend circle"
The student party in the rebellious period of high school is most afraid of being ruined by people in society or school. Therefore, parents must first understand the child’s "friend circle" and see who the child usually contacts with. What kind of friends do you want to prevent your children from being addicted to games or being ruined by people who are unlearned? Once a child has the behavioral habits of such a friend and child, his character will be affected, so he will do something rebellious.
In addition, parents should also pay attention to their children's interactions with the opposite sex, because adolescent children will be curious about the opposite sex. Once they find that the child is too close to the opposite sex, it should be premature Control to avoid children's premature love, which can easily make children rebellious and even do many absurd things.
2. After communication, consider the problem more from the perspective of the child
Many parents will feel that once a child enters high school, he will have his own "little secret" and many children are unwilling to interact When parents talk about things about themselves at school, sometimes parents ask them and their children feel very disgusted. So in many cases, parents are afraid of affecting their children’s learning, so they will stop asking questions. In fact, the student party at the junior high school stage is very disgusting. Yearn for parental care, butDue to physical and psychological changes, I don’t know how to communicate with my parents.
So parents should communicate with their children more in daily life, consider problems from the perspective of the children, and pick topics that children are interested in starting to communicate with their children from the shallower to the deeper. On the one hand, children entering adolescence always like to think of themselves as adults. They hope their parents can respect and understand themselves. Therefore, as parents, we can also treat children as adults. We should discuss with our children more about the big things in the family. I am also willing to share my thoughts with my parents and master the children's thoughts, which can naturally help the children to smoothly pass the rebellious time of adolescence.
3. Don’t let children indulge in online games
Indulging in online games is a thing that is very harmful to the physical and mental health of middle school students, especially when they are about to take the college entrance examination in the third grade of senior high school. "Indulging in online games will cause a serious decline in student performance. Because high school students’ self-control is not particularly firm, once they become obsessed with online games, it will affect their children’s study and life, and will also cause children to have a rebellious mentality. . High school students who are addicted to games are everywhere in their lives, so parents must prevent such phenomena from happening.
To prevent children from indulging in online games, we must first start management with mobile phones and computers. When parents find that their children are sluggish, unwilling to study, and even stay up late, this shows that children have begun to play games. At that time, parents must communicate well with their children. Together with the teacher, they will love you to take care of their children’s Internet access, and use the mobile phone as a reward for playing when the grades are good, and resolutely not playing when the grades are bad. This can also improve Children's learning interests.
Message:
High school is very important to the student party. If a child enters the rebellious period in high school, it is likely that his academic performance will decline and he will not be admitted to the ideal university, and his future is also It will be ruined, so as parents of high school students, we must not take it lightly and learn these 3 points to help children pass the rebellious period easily.
Finally, have your children been "rebellious" in high school? Has it affected the child's study? Welcome to share the discussion in the comment area below.
I am Xiaoyu’s mother, and I would like to share with you those things about education, and the little by little on the way to the child’s growth, remember to pay attention!
