Nowadays, the relationship between many young people and their parents is very tense, showing performance in all aspects. For example, there are many children who often caress about with the elderly, not only are they not filial but also behave a little too much. The reason is that these children are generally the favored children at home. In fact, these children are not good enough in many aspects, such as the following things, let us all take a look!
If children care about the elderly in these things, not only the children who are educated are not filial, but also the whole family is sad.
1. Supporting the elderly: while despising their parents, holding on to their pensions
. For most children, taking care of and serving elderly parents is something they deserve. However, encountering some incompetent children, wanting them to take care of their parents is just a fantasy. In the eyes of these people, if parents can continue to make money as long as they have the ability to work, they are reluctant to call their parents.
Once the parents lose the ability to make money, they sleep all day long and make awkward things. If there are many brothers and sisters, they hold the old man’s pension in their hands, while they dislike their parents and let other children take turns to provide for the elderly. If several children are like this, they are bound to shirk their duties and shirk their obligation to provide for the elderly. Thinking about these old people, they are also sad.
2. Taking care of sick parents: As long as you pay more, you will feel uncomfortable.
Nowadays, the elderly at home are unwell and often get sick. The next step is how the children take care of their parents, but it will follow many problems. If there are many children in the
family, some children will think that they have paid too much, and other brothers and sisters who have not paid will be resentful and unhappy, which will cause a series of conflicts. Even if the medical expenses are not reimbursed, they only need to pay a few hundred yuan, and they are not willing to spend money to serve sick parents. In my heart, I feel that the old man is a trouble and is dragging me down.
3. In terms of dividing up parents’ real estate: the baht must be better than
. Nowadays, many family conflicts come from dividing up real estate, especially when the elderly are lying in hospital beds, several children in the family are discussing how to divide up property. Very bleak. In fact, children who are capable and ambitious will not stare at their parents' pension funds all day long.
But those incompetent children always calculate the property of their parents, even at the mercy of tears, and the six relatives do not recognize it. It is also sad to raise such children at home.
In fact, for families with many children, the above-mentioned situations are easy to occur. Therefore, in order to avoid the emergence of such incompetent children, parents must do the following.
1. A bowl of water is fair and fair.
Parents need to be fair and fair to their children from an early age. For example, with the opening of the second-child policy, if you choose to have another child and say that you can take care of your younger sister by your brother, your sister can take care of your younger brother, and your two children can accompany each other, you will not be so lonely... Kind of thoughts to children. Don't always think that the big one must let the small one, as this has long been detrimental to the mental development of the small one.
2, understand each other's modesty
Since childhood, I have listened to my parents about Kong Rong let Li. If there are two children in the family, parents told them to take care of each other when they were young. It is not that the elder brother has always let the younger brother, nor the younger brother has always let the elder brother.
Do not instill this kind of thinking and correct thinking in children, and believe that they will help each other when they grow up, and will not go to brothers and sisters.
Parents must set a good example for their children if they are really good for their children in their daily lives. Start with the parents themselves and teach them in the right way. I believe that children will become better. In addition, Mr. Jia Pingwa once said that when parents are there, there is a place in life; when parents go, there is only a way back in life. As children, we must take advantage of their parents' time and treat them kindly!
