Article by Fulin Mommy
"My child has to be coaxed every time he goes to bed. He is obviously asleep, but he wakes up as soon as he is put on the bed. He has to be put down many times before he can fall asleep peacefully." A colleague who had just returned from maternity leave confided to us with dark eyes.
Due to physical reasons, it was difficult for her to conceive the baby. After she became pregnant, she developed placenta previa . She could not lie flat on the bed to rest during the pregnancy. She slept semi-lying or sitting on the bed every night. Now that I see this condition in my baby, I suspect that it is due to the impact on my baby that I did not get enough rest during my pregnancy.
I told her that after giving birth to a baby, it is generally recommended to let the baby fall asleep on his own, otherwise the adult will be very tired. Did you always hold your baby to sleep after he was born?
For newborns, they are only awake for about 3 hours a day. It can be said that they spend every day sleeping. By ensuring sufficient sleep time, they can continue to develop their immature brain and nervous system.
Whether it is sleeping with a baby or sleeping with a breast, it is not a good sleeping habit. Waking up repeatedly cannot guarantee the quality of sleep and affects the baby's development. If you want your baby to be more regular and comfortable, and if you want your parents to have more peace of mind, you need to reorganize your child's sleep pattern.
Why do babies who fall asleep after being held or breastfed easily wake up when put down? Obviously we have been very careful in our actions.
To answer this question, we need to understand the physical and psychological characteristics of babies.
Research has proven that before 12 months of age, babies adapt to the environment through sensory actions and show different emotions in different environments. So the baby can quickly notice that he is being put on the bed.
The feeling of being held by the mother for breastfeeding is very similar to the feeling of being in the womb. When held, the baby's body curls up and is close to the mother's heart, which can make the baby feel familiar. Moreover, the smell of mother's body is very familiar to the baby, which can bring a sense of security to the baby.
After the baby falls asleep, there is a transition period from light sleep to deep sleep. Before entering deep sleep, the baby is easily disturbed by the external environment. The fear of leaving the mother's arms will wake the baby up. Each baby enters deep sleep at a different time and has different sensitivity levels. Therefore, if some mothers put the baby down after holding the baby to sleep for 30 minutes, the baby will still wake up.
Once the baby wakes up and realizes that his mother is leaving him, he will cry.
Because the only way for babies to express their needs at this stage is to cry. When the baby cries, the mother becomes anxious, and then starts a new round of coaxing her to sleep by feeding, holding and patting...
Children are everything in the eyes of parents. When they are hungry, cry, laugh, and sleep, everything is highly valued in the eyes of parents, especially novice mothers. They are afraid that they have not taken good care of them, and they cannot bear to let the baby suffer a little injustice.
In order to let the children sleep peacefully, parents hold them no matter how tired they are.
While being cautious, she shouted loudly, "When can my child sleep without being coaxed?"
This is a question that most mothers are anxious and concerned about.
"Crying" is an innate ability of babies. Babies express their needs through "crying".
When a mother or caregiver hears a baby crying, she usually thinks that she is hungry, feeds her baby first, and then changes her diaper. After being cared for in this way, most babies stretch their hands, kick their legs, and look around curiously with their eyes open...
Sometimes the baby's diaper does not need to be changed, and the baby is not hungry. If he refuses to feed, he will "cry" non-stop. At this time, the mother or caregiver becomes confused, holding the baby in circles around the room at a loss. Finally, the baby will fall asleep when he is tired of crying.
Gradually, the child will form a sleep pattern, forming conditioned reflexes and habits. Only after going through a lot of trouble can the child fall asleep peacefully. The child will form a habitual sleep pattern if it is repeated too often: cry when going to sleep - mother hugs - coaxes - to sleep.
This kind of attachment of the baby is very touching, but it also makes the mother very tired!
After a busy day, mothers urgently need to have a good sleep and restore their physical fitness! This requires us to adjust our parenting style.
First of all, mothers or caregivers at home should adjust their mentality and don't be nervous when they hear their children crying.
Crying only means that the child is in need. We just need to respond to the child in a timely manner and provide appropriate care.
Nowadays, many mothers of two children feel that the second child is easier to take care of than the eldest child because they feel more relaxed and can cope with their children's needs freely.
The warm embrace, body smell, voice, and gentle patting rhythm of the mother or family members can make the child emotionally stable, feel safe, and sleep peacefully.
Then, establish a new sleep mode and slowly replace the old sleep mode with the new sleep mode. The mode
and are the classic "EASY" mode.
Eat (Eat), activity (Activity), sleep (Sleep), arrange the activities in this order, complete once and then cycle. This is the baby's daily routine.
This is proposed by Ms. Tracey Hogg, the author of " Practical Program Parenting Method ". According to this model, babies will be physically and mentally comfortable and mentally happy every day, and adults will be less worried.
Why not eat, sleep, and play, but eat, play, and sleep?
Because you go to bed after eating, it is easy to cause physiological problems that interfere with sleep.
If you fall asleep while eating, the baby may not have eaten enough, and cannot burp. The baby's gastrointestinal discomfort may easily occur. Some babies have to poop after eating. If you clean up the baby after eating, the baby may miss the best time to fall asleep, making it difficult to fall asleep.
And if the amount of activity is increased between eating and sleeping, which consumes the baby's energy, it will be easier for the baby to fall asleep.
We can have more parent-child interaction and more intimate contact, especially skin-to-skin contact, when the baby is awake, to help the baby establish a sense of security, rather than necessarily by holding the baby to sleep.
Try to talk to him, hold him outside for a walk (except for newborns), and do exercises for the baby (except for newborns). In addition, the time for playing will increase as the baby's age increases. At this time, we can add early education to the baby, such as showing the baby black and white cards, talking to the baby, and touching the baby.
When your child is noisy and sleepy, you can sleep with your child in bed, dim the lights in the bedroom, play some pure music and soothing lullabies for him, or you can pat him gently with your hands and say to him: "Sleep well, baby, and mom will stay with you." A newborn child can sense the adult's tone and emotion, and the mother's gentle voice helps the child sleep.
Over time, the feeling of lying on the bed and sleeping with the body are connected. Unknowingly, the child gets used to the new environment and will fall asleep peacefully in the bed.
Older people often say that children should not be held in their arms to sleep. The experience passed down from generation to generation also has scientific basis. May the little naughty boys grow up healthy, happy and happy!
