As parents, we always hope that our children will succeed. There is an old saying, "Hope your son will become a dragon, hope your daughter will become a phoenix", which refers to the beautiful hope that parents have for their children.
But there is always a saying in daily life that affects many parents’ educational concepts. This statement sounds ridiculous, but many parents still believe it. Why is this? Because this statement touches the pain points of many parents and gives them a "sense of crisis."
The first time I heard this point of view was at a dinner party with friends. Several old friends at the dinner party are already parents. We occasionally go out to relax on weekdays, and the topic will inadvertently turn to children.
A friend sighed and said: "I heard a saying, Don't raise your children to be too good, otherwise no one will care for you in old age. I didn't believe it at first, but now I have begun to think that even if the children are not good, it is also a blessing for the parents. The old man and lady in our neighbor's house have an only child, and this only daughter was raised very well by them. She has a high degree of education and a good job To show dignity. When she went abroad to study, she found a foreign husband. Now the couple regrets that their only daughter cannot come back once a year, and the family is deserted all day long. "When hearing such things, fellow parents will inevitably feel sad. Most of my friends have only one child, and most of them only have two children. Everyone puts all their efforts into raising their children, hoping that they will be outstanding and promising.
But everyone seems not to have thought about taking care of themselves in old age, because outstanding children are often busy with work and have less time to go home. Children who are too outstanding mean that the situation of parents in their old age will be relatively bleak, and they may face the dilemma of no one to take care of them.
And those children who are not very good often do not "fly" very far, and many of them live in the same place with their parents.
They can also appear in time when their parents need them. From this point of view, it seems that there is some truth in the saying not to raise children to be too good.
But in fact, this statement only makes sense at first glance and cannot withstand scrutiny. Because when we evaluate a child in , we should not only look at the child's score and earning ability, but also whether the child is filial.
If a child cannot even be filial to his parents, then he is still far from being truly outstanding. Therefore, it is never wrong for parents to try their best to raise a good child.
An excellent child, even if she has to stay away from her parents due to work reasons, will still find various ways to fulfill her filial piety and let her parents feel her care.
If parents easily believe this absurd statement and fail to educate their children properly, this will not only be a tragedy for the parents, but also a tragedy for the children.
Parents’ awareness should not be affected by this absurd statement. Since "senior care" is mentioned here, a topic that is relevant to everyone, we might as well talk about how to improve the quality of our retirement life.
The child is so good that no one will take care of him in old age? If you want to live a happy life in old age, parents should keep 4 suggestions.
Suggestion 1: Let children learn to be grateful and filial
When raising children, parents should not only pay attention to their children's test scores, because good scores can only represent the child's ability in one aspect, and are not enough to prove that this is an outstanding child.
Excellent children must be children who know how to be grateful. If parents want their own happy old age, it is necessary for their children to learn to be grateful and filial.
A child who knows how to care about his parents will never forget his parents no matter how capable he is in the future or how high he flies.
Suggestion 2: Maintain physical and mental health
Happiness in old age has a great relationship with physical and mental health. Even if their children are no longer around, parents must learn to enrich their old life and not fall into worries and self-pity all day long. keeps yourself busy and enriched, and the happiness index of old age life will also increase accordingly.
In addition to their psychological state, the elderly also need to pay special attention to their physical state. Because a strong and healthy body is the greatest wealth for the elderly. If they are always troubled by diseases, even if their children can accompany them all the time, the life of the elderly will be unhappy.
Suggestion three: Have a certain amount of savings.
If you want to live a happy life in old age, you must have a certain awareness of saving when you are young. Old people with certain savings tend to have a happier life in old age.
Because parents do not need to rely entirely on their children to support themselves in old age and can support themselves. For children, the burden of old-age care will be less on their shoulders. The financial pressure of old age is reduced, and the parent-child relationship will be more harmonious.
Suggestion 4: Live closer to your children if possible
Even if you have a certain amount of savings and a healthy body in old age, if conditions permit, it is best for parents to live closer to their children.
If you can live in the same city as your children, then when parents encounter emergencies and need help, their children can arrive in time.
In my opinion, it is better for parents and children to live nearby than to live together, because there are big differences between the elderly and young people in various aspects such as work and rest, eating habits and so on. If the elderly live with their children, it is easy for them to have conflicts and frictions, which will actually affect the relationship between parents and children.
Living nearby, the elderly can not only see their children often and enjoy family happiness, but also have their own free living space, and the happiness index of life is high.
Conclusion
If you raise a truly outstanding child, your parents will be happy in their old age. Everyone must not be influenced by some ridiculous statements and credulously believe in statements such as "the children are too good and no one will take care of them in old age". These statements are often one-sided, narrow, and cannot withstand careful scrutiny. Being able to raise an excellent child can be said to be the greatest achievement of a parent's life.
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