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Parents always like to compare "other people's children", but they think that their children always have small problems, which is not worry-free!
The excellent places of " other people's children " that parents envy are always the same.
The famous educator Tao Xingzhi once taught the teachers a lesson: he brought a big rooster and put it on the podium, then sprinkled a few grains of rice, pressed the rooster's head and let the rooster eat rice.
Result, the rooster dodged and said nothing to eat. Later, he let go of the rooster, sprinkled a few grains of rice on the ground, and walked to the side by himself. The rooster ran over and pecked at the rice himself.
Tao Xingzhi said to the teachers: "Our education is like feeding this rooster. Pressing the child, letting the child passive learning will not have good results. We must mobilize the child's enthusiasm and let the child actively learn."
Of course, the success of excellent children is achieved by their parents with real efforts and companionship.
In the early stages of children's growth, when some parents were afraid of trouble and tried to save trouble, other people's parents had already done a lot of "trouble" work.
Although learning this matter is honestly not an interesting and happy thing. If you want to cultivate children who are conscious and proactive in learning, you cannot simply rely on schools and teachers.
good habits, correct mentality, strong interests, etc. that have a deeper impact on children's learning, and a strong interest, rely on parents and families.
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In fact, children do not like to learn and do not like to learn. This is caused by many factors, not just a problem of learning mentality.
Children do not like to study, which may be due to some adverse factors in the educational environment. One of them is that the child failed the exam for a certain subject during the learning process, and was criticized by parents and teachers, and psychological setbacks lead to hating a certain subject.
or the more you can’t learn, the more you don’t want to learn; the more you don’t learn, the more you can’t learn. In the end, I simply stopped learning this vicious cycle.
Today Xiaojing will share with you a little story:
The student Ranran has been a little different from other children since he was a child. Before he came to the Tongzilin Training Center, he never finished reading a book quietly.
Ranran's mother said that the best school for her children is. When she was in school, she loved chatting with other children. She almost walked to each child's table and looked around to see what others were doing, but she couldn't finish her own work.
As the grade improves, the child's situation becomes more and more wrong. The homework cannot be completed on time, and the grades are the last in the class. Even if he is with him to do his homework, he is indifferent, and sometimes even beating and scolding is useless. The same is true for class
. When you encounter a course that you are not interested in or a teacher you don’t like, you will just show it and not learn it.
Whenever Ranran is asked, the most things the child says in his mouth is not knowing and forgetting.
Of course, when I came to Jingsi Tong Zilin Training Center, Teacher Zhang discovered that Ranran was not a really stupid child. He was actually very smart and was very serious about training. As long as he did it carefully, he would complete it very well.
But Ranran's thoughts are very floating, and he will float away after concentration for a while. He often talks to the children next to him during EEG training.
Whenever you are distracted, Teacher Zhang stands beside you and increases his strength to keep an eye on Ranran.
Under the supervision of the teacher, Ranran could only concentrate for a few more minutes.
Under the long-term pressure, Ranran finally couldn't hold back and covered her face and cried, "I have worked very seriously and hard, but I just can't concentrate."
Ranran's words Teacher Zhang was very worried when she heard it. She also understood that the child's heart was also tormented.
When facing Ranran's emotional collapse, the first solution is to adjust his mentality. Even if Ranran is impatient, he must treat him calmly, spend more patience, respect him, and then give him space.
Every time I want to give up, Teacher Zhang will accompany Ranran to do training and patiently encourage him. Even if there are slight progress, he will immediately praise him and help him get better little by little. Although he still needs to continue to urge him, Ranran will be willing to persevere again and again.
Not only that, Teacher Zhang also set small family goals for Ranran based on Ranran's characteristics, so that Ranran can also clock in and practice at home to improve Ranran's initiative and consciousness.
During the training process, Teacher Zhang continued to develop Ranran's hobbies. Seeing that Ranran likes to chat, he asked Ranran to try writing.
In a later junior high school unified examination, Ranran's grades were the most improved in the class, and even the composition was praised by the teacher alone.
Children go from being lazy to being ambitious and conscious, from being free and casual to doing things in a planned and organized manner, from not knowing how to learn to find out their own methods.
These changes require parents to continuously and correctly guide and constantly encourage and confidently give their children.
Especially since children are young, don’t let learning confine children’s comprehensive development, cultivate children’s interests and hobbies, and find their advantages. Perhaps children can take a different approach from this direction, avoid their weaknesses and promote their strengths
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Anyone's growth has a process from involuntary to self-reliance. It is not that you forced him to be "autonomy" since childhood, and he can really be independent. The result of you making him "autonomy" in advance is likely to make him unable to be autonomous.
To solve the problem, it cannot be too straightforward and simplified. It is necessary to understand the learning characteristics of children at different stages, respect and adapt to it, and not to be reversed.
Xiaojing will share with you 4 ways to cultivate children's self-consciousness. Parents can get it.
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Interest is to inspire the biggest teacher to learn
Let children combine the content they have learned with their actual life to learn. When talking about autumn content, you can take your children to see the changes outside on a certain day in autumn. Regarding math issues, you can let your children participate in family shopping more.
does not have to force the child to learn, but let him understand naturally.
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Parents and their children make progress together
Parents can also review their children's texts more, calm down and accompany their children to do their homework, don't find out the faults of their children, but guide them more.
You can occasionally ask your child to help him gain the initiative in learning, buy more concise and interesting learning books for his children, and buy less complex exam materials for his questions. Those questions that are too difficult will only make the child less and less confident.
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Instant feedback on children's learning results
The reason why games attract children is because it has an instant feedback mechanism. If you win, there will be rewards. Parents can use this method to use reward methods to make their children "addiction" to learning and not stingy in complimenting their children.
The more positive information is transmitted and timely, the more happy the child can develop and he is full of expectations for learning.
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allows children to waste their time on "useless work"
does not overly utilitarianly distinguish what children do. Many children have some small interests and hobbies. Parents think it is a waste of time, which will deprive children of their right to choose, making their children lose their sense of autonomy, and it is even more impossible to have self-efficacy , which will make it difficult for children to have the motivation to do other things.
allows children to do what they like. Even if it seems to be "useless", during the implementation process, the initiative and enthusiasm are all building a solid bridge for children to fall in love with learning.
It is a wise move to follow the rules of children's growth.
gives children a warm, inclusive, supportive, understanding and encouragement environment to meet their underlying needs.
In this way, children can do their favorite things freely, confidently and consciously, and complete their own life topics
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