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When I took the Bu Niu to play by the flower bed, I saw the wires of the floor lamp exposed. In order to prevent her from touching, I told her: "This is a wire. If there is electricity, we can't touch it, as it will cause electric shock."
Bu Niu asked, "Do you have to go to the hospital if you are electrocuted?"
I thought about it and replied very seriously: "If it is light, go to the hospital, and if it is severe, you will die."
Bu Niu didn't say anything at the time. On the way home, she suddenly asked me, Mom, will you die?
I was shocked. Maybe it was because the death just mentioned that she was touched, so she put it in peace. After hesitating for a while, I still told her that yes, my mother will die in a long, long time.
She lowered her head, looked sad, then hugged me tightly, and cried loudly, "I don't want you to die, I will never leave you!"
Children are children!
coaxed her for a while, and I thought, why don’t you talk to the child about death with your child openly.
1: Death Education is an indispensable lesson
Children will have a vague understanding of death when they are 2-3 years old. At the age of 5-6, they can already understand this concept and meaning and show a certain degree of fear.
However, in daily life, we try to avoid talking about this topic with our children because we think it is a bad thing.
For example, my little nephew once asked his grandfather unrestrainedly: "Grandpa, can you use your phone for me after you die?"
At that time, my sister was so embarrassed that she wanted to get into the cracks in the ground. She quickly drove away these words, and told her that her grandfather would live for a long time, so how could she die?
At that time, the little nephew was still angry and said that his grandfather had lost all his hair and he would die one day. Although
has not been explained, from his family's secret expression, he understood that death is something that cannot be easily discussed.
Another example is that a relative died and the child asked what was wrong. The adults also tended to make up a beautiful lie - the man just fell asleep.
These false hints may deepen the child's inner fear, or equate sleep and death, resulting in insecure.
Moreover, if a child cannot face the process of life from the beginning to the extinction, it will be difficult for him to respect life and respect life.
Therefore, death education is an indispensable lesson for children.
2: Let’s tell your children these two things
There was a very healing movie called " Dream Journey to the Travels ". It shows the cycle of life and death very warmly, and explains to us that the death of a loved one is not a terrible thing, but full of love and warmth.
So, when a child talks about death or asks topics like "Mom, will you die?", we can tell him openly that yes, every creature will go to death. Life is a process from germination to decline. This is a very normal natural law, so there is no need to be afraid.
The most important thing is that we also need to tell our children the following two things to cultivate their children’s sense of security throughout their lives.
The first thing is that life is short, cherishing is the most important thing.
picture book " Grandpa becomes a ghost ", tells a goodbye story.
The grandfather in the story passed away, but because he forgot some things, he turned into a ghost and returned to his grandson Abens. Albens didn't want to see his grandfather sighing like this all day, so he helped him find something, what did he forget?
Ebens accompanied his grandfather to find the happy times in his life: his brother gave him a bicycle when he was a child, met his wife for the first time when he grew up, the happy time with his child in his arms, and the cat he raised at home.
Finally, grandpa finally remembered what he had forgotten - saying goodbye to Albens.
Although she cried like tears, Albens still said goodbye to her grandfather. And he finally felt completely relieved from the death of his grandfather.
We can use picture books to tell children that death is not terrible. The most important thing is that so many beautiful things have happened in life.
If we remember and cherish these beauty, life will be meaningful. It would be terrible if we never discovered and forget these precious moments.
When a child knows that life is short and limited, he will know the importance of life, and will cherish the love and beauty in this limited time, respect life and fear life.
The second thing is that life is very fragile and you should not act rashly.
Since it is inevitable to reach the end, I think the meaning of death is probably to remind us: life is only once, and loss cannot be restored.
Once we open the Internet, we will find that many people do not know how to cherish life, hurt themselves with an impulse, and even end their lives hastily.
There are also some children who squander their lives, look down on themselves, and take unnecessary risks with an indifferent attitude.
But if a child can realize that people are dead, he may not rashly walk into the depths of the river while swimming; he may not rush forward recklessly when crossing the road, but first see the surrounding environment; he may also climb high buildings and buildings because of curiosity.
Life is only once, how can it make its process full of meaning?
He will gradually feel the weight of life, think meaningfully about the value of life, and be alert to life safety.
Take children to visit graves and pay tribute, all of which can make children realize the existence of death.
We can also take our children to observe the flowers and plants in nature and pay attention to the process from germination to withering. You can also let your child raise a pet. When the pet finally leaves, we will hold a farewell ceremony with him.
When a child can understand the shortness and fragility of life, he will not underestimate life and give up more beautiful life experiences.
teaches children to view life and death correctly and helps them understand the knowledge of life and death. Only then can children truly understand how to love life, live in the present, and cherish every beautiful moment with their family.
Have your child asked such a question?
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