Dear parents:
As the saying goes, "The ruler has its shortcomings, and the inch has its strengths." Whether it is "filial sons come from under the stick", children "praise" or "swear" big, there should be no simple way to make a child. Usually, they are a comprehensive use of various methods and techniques. But if you are used to using the "praise" method as the main method, then you can divide the levels, master the skills, seize the right opportunity, and make good use of them.
The languages we commonly use generally include written language, spoken language, body language, etc., and it is art if used well.
The ancient " classics, history, and text collections ", Han Fu , Tang poetry, and Song lyrics; modern letters, resumes, summary, composition... These are all written language, so there is no need to say much.
In stage art, there are dance drama , drama, opera, pantomime , etc. Among them, pantomime is an artistic form of expression in which actors can express the plot and rich emotions by just using body language.
In the "Spring Festival Gala" of a certain year, a famous pantomime performing artist performed "eating chickens" vividly, leaving a very deep impression on the audience.
However, people use the most verbal language, and of course they are also used on family education . Some people say that children are "praise", some people say that children are "screaming", and all they say are the role and power of oral language.
"praise" can make people happy and excited, but it can easily make children proud; "screaming" makes people frustrated, inferior, and annoyed, but it can immediately achieve results. In short, "praise" and "screaming" have their own advantages and disadvantages, which depends on the parents' habits and personality. The best way is to "treat leniency and strictness" and "praise and scold".
But in terms of mainly using "praise", if "praise" is divided into levels, it can play a role of "real praise" and "not praise" and "not praise".
But as far as "praise" is mainly used, if "praise" is divided into levels, it can play a role of "real praise" and "not praise" and "not praise".
But as for the main method of "praise" is used, if "praise" is divided into levels, it can play a role of "real praise" and "not praise" and "not praise".
But as for the main method of "praise" is used, if "praise" is divided into levels, it can play a role of "real praise" and "not praise" and "praise" , the effect of "criticism".
is okay, good, very good, great, great... etc., it is all "praise". If you add body language such as thumbs up, applaud, hug, smile, and laugh, "praise" is divided into many levels.
Parents have used the different forms of "praise" on their children for a long time, and children naturally know that some "praise" is really "praise", while some "praise" sounds like "praise", but in fact it is a potential criticism.
For example, the "praise" in this sounds like "praise", it sounds like "praise", and more like criticism.
If "praise" is used as a kind of In a positive way, then "silence" is a negative way. "silence" itself is also a language, which does not express any attitude, does not express any objection, and may be criticized.
1. Those things that develop in the direction of "people", the earlier the better things, when the child starts trying, he should "praise" and "really praise".
For example, the first time the child wears clothes and buttons; the first time he uses chopsticks; the first time he goes to the bathroom to wipe his butt...
For example, when a guest comes, the first time the child comes out to say hello to the guest, pours a glass of water and washes some fruits for the guest. This must be "praised". Even if it is done under the reminder of the parents, he should "praise" ". This is to encourage children to do what they want to do in the future and how to fulfill their "landlords' friendship".
However, when the guest comes, the child's behavior is more obedient than usual. This does not require "praise", it can only be said that his performance is OK, because there is a hidden factor of "two-faced" in children.
2. There is no need to "praise" about natural desires, nor does it need to criticize
Many things start from desires. Generally, there is no need to over-educate them from desires. Just master the fashion, rules, and basic morality.
The child just finished lunch and said I was hungry. Some parents said, "Didn't you just finished eating? Why are you hungry again? Are you a "starved ghost"? "
The child said that hunger, thirsty, and sleepy are natural needs. There is no need to "praise" or "reprimand". If you are willing to say it, just say calmly: "Wait for a while and everyone will eat together.""
As for the rules of eating and drinking water, that's another matter. Don't smack your lips when eating and drinking water. If you want to stop it, you can also turn criticism into "praise": you performed well today in your meal, without smacking your lips, without smacking your lips, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking your mouth, without sucking What are the things inside? Not being late, not leaving early, not absent from work, and working hard are all things inside. Does this require commendation and reward?
Only those who make outstanding contributions to the position, such as inventions, technological innovations, etc., create huge economic and social benefits, need to be praised, and also give honors and bonuses.
For children to complete homework at home, this is also the things inside of students. If you can sit there and do your homework well, you don’t need to “praise”, just say “okay”.
If you write all the homework today correctly, it is a sentence “very good! "; If you start reviewing and previewing after finishing your homework, it is "excellent". In addition to reviewing and previewing, the child will take the initiative to find some questions to do today, which is "great! "…
children must be able to distinguish clearly, "okay", "good", "great", "great", "too good", and these "praise".
"praise" is more about what parents want, allowing children to continue to develop; "swearing" is usually about what parents don't want, and preventing or prohibiting children from doing it. These are two aspects of things, but "praise" should be more conducive to being accepted by children.
"praise" should be as early as possible. The younger the child, the easier it is to educate, and the easier it is to form a habit for a lifetime. Those original intentions and preferences expressed when they were young are often accompanied by their lives. For example, the favorite food. Xi, the favorite game is determined by the initial preferences.
"Praise" must be sincere. In a child's words, select one or two words to "praise", with good structure, stable center of gravity, scientific strokes... This is sincerity. Because even a calligrapher's work cannot be so good throughout the whole article, and cannot be "praise" in general, but more specific.
"Praise" must seize the right opportunity, and what should be "praise" immediately and what should be "praise" afterwards, parents must master it. The first time the child helps parents wash dishes is this "labor" in "morality, intelligence, physical fitness, aesthetics and labor", and is one of the compulsory courses for children. It must continue to be carried forward, so parents must "praise" their children immediately and immediately.
