As Beibei grows up, he is already in the fourth grade. His academic pressure continued to increase, but his relationship with his mother gradually became distant. Beibei's mother is also very distressed. Why is the child even more reluctant to understand his parents when he grows up?
Just like last week's midterm exam, before the third grade, Beibei would calmly take the test paper back to show her mother to her mother. Now Beibei will only give the test papers to her mother when her exam results are good. Once he didn't do well in the exam, Beibei would hide the test paper. Even if his mother asked him, he was reluctant to tell his mother about the exam. Sometimes my mother asked tightly, and Beibei was even impatient and got angry, and blamed her for not respecting her. But the mother felt that she would squat down and look at her eyes when talking to her child, and sometimes she would ask her child for advice on her studies.
In fact, many parents respect their children only formal respect. They even treat talking about the big truths to their children as an equal communication with them. True respect requires care to make children feel it. Parents just give their children life and want to care for them, but children are actually an independent person. They have their own ideas and a life they want.
Some parents are very anxious when facing their children. When they encounter conflicts with their children, they cannot even find their own inner thoughts, and they cannot find a solution to the problem. They can only ask for help without a goal. Some parents also look for the reasons from their children as soon as possible when they have problems. They always think that their children are not excellent enough and are not obedient enough, and often complain about why their children don’t work hard.
When children encounter difficulties, parents must trust their children and guide their children to believe in themselves. Only in this way can children have more internal motivation and internal energy to promote their continuous progress. Parents are the people closest to their children. Only when parents have confidence in their children can they make their children more and more confident. The trust of parents in their children is the most important prerequisite for equality and respect with their children.
