Raising a boy is more "feeding mother", such as talking back, playing, laziness, impulsiveness, losing all the money, and procrastination... and so on, each one is more "lethal".
As the mother of two boys, I have a deep understanding. When my voice was a little louder, the boss said I was a "female man"; when they were acting evil, I turned a blind eye and closed my eyes, the second brother instigated my brother to "shush-don't tell my mother!"
In addition, there are endless dirty and messy things and childcare knowledge that is not enough.
I have imagined countless times that it would be great if someone trained them for me... The quietness everywhere, the harmonious coexistence of everything is something I can't reach! ☔️
In short, one sentence is summarized: It’s too difficult for me!
Needless to say, when I see a parenting book with the word "boy", my eyes will shine. Not to mention that opening the book is beneficial, the inequality on the cover of "Boy's Self-Driving Learning" is enough to hurt:
Parents try their best ≠ children are motivated
OK, that's right! I am in this inequality relationship with my child, and I am almost burning out the last bit of luck... Then, what do you think can make the child motivated? !
It is not difficult to find that the book is divided into 12 chapters. Except for the second chapter, the rest are written for children! Parenting book for children? I've read it carefully many times and it's true!
Since school life is not interesting, why do you still have to go to school? What kind of person do you want to be when you grow up? Fight or escape, you choose...
is also a big reason, but compared to the old nagging of parents, the "provocation" communication method in the book makes the children feel like spring breeze.
From the perspective of the child, the author talks about various problems and expresses understanding and support to the child everywhere, which can quickly open the door to communication.
This book is one of the rare parenting books that can be read directly for children. It contains questionnaires, lists, forms and communication techniques that are close to daily life.
"An important goal of this book is to reduce conflicts between parents and children"; "The ultimate goal of this book is to help you get rid of trouble"; "This book encourages you to pursue true independence from beginning to end"... These words in the book are very touching to children. It is also the tacit understanding established by the author that helps boys change their attitude towards learning and find the goal and motivation to "learn for themselves".
Don’t be naive and Buddhist. Letting go without preparation will only worsen the conflict and truly reduce the internal consumption of parent-children and the feasible "male nurturing package" in the book.
