School is actually a small society, where children come from different families, so children of different personalities may exist, and it is precisely because of this that the phenomenon of campus bullying occurs. As parents, they naturally don’t want school bullying to happen to their children.
However, sometimes things always go against your expectations. I was going to take my children to the playground on weekends, because this matter was something that my children had been looking forward to for a long time. Now that I finally have time left, I naturally have to satisfy my children's little wish immediately.
So, when I was out of school on Friday, I told the child about this, but the child did not feel the expected excitement. Seeing that the child was in a bad mood, I vaguely felt something might have happened to the child in school , so I asked the child.
At the beginning, the child was unwilling to say that After I asked again and again, the child told me that he was bullied at school .
There is a classmate who often deliberately says bad things about him, such as sometimes saying that the child’s clothes look like “rags”, sometimes saying that the child looks ugly, sometimes saying that the child is stingy, sometimes saying that the child is stupid, etc. I can hear that this is the child’s classmates deliberately targeting the child, and deliberately bullying the child.
Our children have always been Honest and have no temper, and treat everyone very friendly , but it is this kind of kindness that makes the children bullied in kindergarten, which makes me very angry.
However, you can’t take your child to the door and beat him like a man in Nanjing, right?
So I told the child’s teacher about this and communicated further with the teacher. The teacher also said that he would handle this matter well, interviewed the other party’s parents, and sincerely apologized to me. I am quite satisfied with the handling of
. After all, the other party’s parents also sincerely apologized and prepared some milk and other gifts for compensation. I naturally declined.
Actually, what I want is mainly an attitude. Since the other party’s parents are so sincere and the children have realized their mistakes, there is no need to ask for other people’s things anymore, right?
Although this matter has been solved "successfully", But what has happened will be buried in the heart of the child forever , and the harm suffered has become indelible memories. Although the child will not be bullied by that classmate again in the future, the child’s injured mind will need to be repaired for a long time.
Therefore, if we want our children to be essentially free from school bullying , we need to teach our children how to stop the continuation of bullying at the beginning of bullying.
Use these methods to cultivate children, making them "not easy to mess with". Children will not be bullied anywhere.
As the saying goes, "Pick up the persimmons and pinch them", we can find that children who are bullied on campus are generally "easy to mess with", so there are some "bad children" to bully their children.
But if the child becomes "not easy to mess with", there are rarely "bad children" to bully him. After all, "bad children" are bad, not stupid, and they will not be stupid enough to "an egg hits a stone".
●Exercise the child's body and make the child "looks hard to mess with"
Children with weak constitutions are more likely to be bullied. This is because if the child is thin and weak and weak , it will give people a very easy impression, so becomes "attracting bullying constitution" and is bullied by bad children.
But if the child exercises frequently and is very tall and strong, then there will be no idea of bullying. After all, who will feel uncomfortable?
is like the child from our neighbor's house downstairs. He is not old but looks very strong. He is a type that will not be bullied at all in school, because such children look "not easy to mess with".
●Cultivate children's communication skills and make children "win friends like clouds"
As the saying goes, "there are many people and many people", no one will bully a child with many friends, after all, the children's friends are not decorations. Therefore, parents should pay attention to guiding their children to make more friends and build their own circle of friends.
This is also the case when I strengthened the training of the child after after being bullied, so that the child could make more friends in the kindergarten. After that, no child would be willing to bully our child because there are too many friends in "it is not easy to mess with".
●Improve children's anti-bullying ability, pay attention to children's spiritual growth
In addition to making friends, I also pay great attention to improving children's own anti-bullying ability. I want to let children know from the bottom of their hearts how to distinguish bullying and stay away from bullying.
Of course, when talking to children in plain language, children may not understand, because for kindergarten children, listening to adults’ principles is like being in a "fog", and it is difficult to fully understand and understand. So, I prepared a set of picture books for the child in a way that he could understand and accept.
This set of books is "Children's Anti-Bullying Enlightenment Consciousness Picture Book", has a complete set of 8 books , which contains 8 different bullying themes, which are common bullying phenomena, such as hidden bullying, physical invasion, physical bullying, property bullying, language bullying, etc.
Each theme has a corresponding life story , giving children an immersive feeling, making it easier for children to understand and master.
Each topic shows the children what is bullying, what bullying will bring, and how to stay away from and get rid of bullying. Let children learn to refuse, learn to protect themselves, learn to face difficulties bravely, learn to have an optimistic and confident attitude towards life, etc.
After reading it, children can naturally substitute the method of staying away from bullying into themselves and form a strong anti-bullying consciousness.
For example, after reading "I Don't Like to Be Excluded", children should not give up on themselves when they are excluded, and should not show dissatisfaction. Instead, they should improve their abilities, make more friends, and protect themselves.
A set of 8 books is suitable for children over 2 years old to read. Parents No matter how many gifts they give to their children, it is better to give to their children this set of books . The book contains knowledge and can to keep children away from bullying and grow up healthily and happily.
Conclusion
School bullying should not be underestimated. Although the degree of bullying is sometimes very light, adults may think it is "insignificant", it will leave a deep psychological shadow on children. In the long run, it will seriously damage the growth and health of children and even personal safety.
Therefore, parents must pay attention to their children's anti-bullying education, so that their children can have the awareness and ability to anti-bullying from childhood and stay away from school bullying.
