How can parents feel like "holding a parent-teacher meeting is like attending a memorial service"?
Original Kan Zhaocheng Tai'an Family and School Co-education 2022-11-17 15:43 Posted on Shandong
Yesterday, I occasionally found it while browsing the article, Hangzhou Quick Wake Up Learning Group, anne published an article "Holding a Parents Meeting is like attending a memorial service", and there are really many people who leave messages to agree.
The general idea of the article is that for poor parents, every time they attend a parent-teacher meeting, it is equivalent to attending a memorial service. At the parent-teacher meeting, the parents who were full of enthusiasm were the parents who were overwhelmed, and those who were sad and crying were the parents who were frowning and were called by the teachers were us parents who were poor students.
Parent meeting is equivalent to a large-scale training site, like a needle and needle. I have no energy to make progress, and I am unwilling to give up. As soon as the teacher starts speaking, it is like listening to an eulogy; it is the same every year, with a bad attitude towards learning, a poor adherence to learning discipline, and a poor understanding of learning methods. Every time you recite a sentence, it is like declaring the death penalty for your child. A two-hour parent meeting can make you sweat profusely and regain your mentality of chicken baby . After the parent-teacher meeting, you decide to put down your phone tomorrow and accompany your child well. Why do you feel if you have a month after the parent-teacher meeting? Children and grandchildren have their own blessings, so why bother for your son and yourself? Until the next parent-teacher meeting.
Every time you attend a memorial service, you will be enlightened. You are determined to live a good life tomorrow, exercise every day, and stay away from junk food. One month after the memorial service, you feel that life is not easy, so why bother yourself, eat, drink, stay up late. Until the next memorial service.
This article vividly reflects some of the current difficulties of parent-teacher meetings:
No wonder some students often "lost" the parent-teacher meeting notices sent by teachers and "forgot" to parents, "Dad is on a business trip, mother can't take a leave", and some students even spend money to ask people to pretend to be parents to hold parent-teacher meetings. The Middle School of Beijing Yuying School conducted a questionnaire survey on 328 students of different grades. The results showed that 36.3% of students were nervous when they heard about the parent-teacher meeting and felt stressed; 11.3% of students were unwilling to attend the parent-teacher meeting. Moreover, the answer sheet tells us that after the parent meeting, 11% of students have tense relationships with teachers, 20.1% of students have tense relationships with parents, and 30.5% of students will be severely criticized and restricted after the parent meeting. Some students expressed their hope to "should as little as possible" and "it's better never hold a parent-teacher meeting."
Parents complained that the parent meeting was held as a memorial service. Parents with top students were full of energy, parents with a loss of learning chat and laughter, parents with a poor student were frowning, and were called by the teacher to drink, and died early and live a good morning. Many parents are afraid of holding parent-teachers' meetings, fearing that their children will fall behind in others, and become the target of being trained in person, and the parent-teacher meetings have become a psychological burden for parents. Parent-teacher meetings often create a fuse for "fighting" between parents and children. The troubles that children encounter at school have become the topic of discussion for teachers to "complaint" at parent-teacher meetings; parents receive "education" and lose face at parent-teacher meetings, and they have accumulated a lot of anger and will definitely send it to their children.
Teachers are always the protagonists of the parent meeting, and parents are the audience: the class teacher cannot avoid asking for learning requirements, management requirements, grade requirements, and parent tutoring requirements. After the class teacher said that the teacher said. After all, in addition to requests, there are tasks and even complaints. The class teacher complains that parents do not actively participate in parent-teacher meetings, do not take the initiative in home-school cooperation, and educating your children well is the parents' greatest responsibility, etc.
The definition of a parent meeting is "a way for schools to contact parents". The purpose of holding a parent meeting is to encourage parents and teachers to understand and support each other, so that schools and families "propose the same requirements to children and always start from the same principles." The role of parent meetings can become a bridge between hearts. Parents can have the opportunity to understand their children's overall situation, change their attention to their children, listen to other parents' experiences and confusions in their children, communicate face to face, and participate in the evaluation of the class's education work. Every successful parent meeting should move parents, excite students, and make the class teacher feel infinitely beneficial.
The era is progressing, and the methods of parent-teacher meetings should also continue to evolve. China Youth Research Center recommends some parent-teacher meetings summarized from experiments:
Communication: conduct theoretical exploration on common problems in education, or conduct case analysis, or hold experience exchange meetings;
Dialogue discussion: Conversation and discussion on one or two prominent issues:
Display: Exhibition of children's homework and works on one or two prominent issues;
Display: Exhibition of children's homework and works , award certificates or live performances of students, etc., so that parents can understand their children in the class background;
Expert report: Ask experts to give reports and answer questions on the spot to improve parents' educational quality;
Friendship: Teachers, parents, and students get together and use cheerful forms such as performances to jointly create a harmonious atmosphere, enhance feelings and understanding;
Visiting and visiting: Students, parents and teachers go out to visit together, find problems during the activities, and promote communication.
The biggest beneficiary of the parent meeting is the students. Students should feel how the teacher sincerely appreciates every little progress of his progress and how he cleverly guides his parents to accept his shortcomings. Seeing that the teacher is indeed holding a parent meeting for their healthy growth, he feels that the parent meeting is a bridge of communication between hearts.
