does not make a big deal, but directly share my personal experience, first showing that I am a full-time mother. One thing is that I am a full-time mother with a career and income. He is a freelance writer with a child of six years old and has been a self-media for six years and has a full-time career of five and a half years. My child was a workplace mother from the age of half a year to one year old. I went back to work after I took maternity leave, and worked as a self-media full-time worker after resigning. Until now, I have been raised by myself.
I have felt many collapse moments, no one can understand. It is obvious that taking care of children to do housework, but others are sarcastic about you.
Being a young grandmother at home, doing nothing, enjoying the blessing of husband
When the child was over one year old, he vomited and had diarrhea and had nosebleeds. The fat boy suddenly became a thin man. It was difficult to take leave, so he could only wait until he got off work before he could take the child to see a doctor.
I resigned. I originally wanted to write articles to be a self-media with peace of mind. It was 2018 and the self-media was in the dividend stage (I worked part-time in 2017).
When the child saw me resigning, he didn't even have any discussion, so he went home and didn't help him with him. I said, "Don't you help me to be two or three years old?"
There was nothing to say, and I just wanted to go back to my hometown to farm.
says there is no resentment, that is fake.
So I started my career of taking care of my children, doing housework, and writing articles.
The child is over one year old and can walk. It is a stage where self-awareness is gradually formed. It is difficult to take care of when cats and dogs are old.
I am determined to start a career and make money. My children often come to disturb me, sometimes I have to hug me and sometimes I have to play with him. When my temper comes up, I cry, and I cry too.
Make four meals a day for your children to eat. You must eat at four or five in the afternoon, otherwise you will be hungry. The hardships of raising children are saved here, and every full-time mother can experience it, so there is no need to elaborate on it.
Every day, I waited until 11:30 to coax my child to bed before I started writing. At this time, it was late at night and only mosquitoes were accompanying me, and most people had already fallen asleep. For a mother who is engaged in a career, this time period really belongs to me.
Time to write a manuscript passes very quickly, and it takes one or two o'clock in the blink of an eye.
All years ago, I have made money by writing, but I am old and my hair is white. Staying up late and my liver and kidneys are damaged, and my hair is prematurely gray. How can ordinary full-time mothers eat these bitterness?
My relative, when I learned that I resigned and took care of my children at home, sarcasticted me: "Be a young grandmother at home, do nothing, enjoy the blessing of my husband."
In fact, I write articles in a low-key manner, unknown, no one except my family knows, and there is no need for the whole world to yell. The money you make may not be less than them.
But they just think that raising children is to enjoy happiness at home, just inferior to others, and do nothing.
I often say that in this world, women are the ones that really make things difficult for women. Old woman makes things difficult for young woman. Rich women look down on poor women.
After a few years, I grew up through writing, and my child also went to kindergarten. I have more time to take care of the students, most of whom are mothers. When the relatives found out, they had another look and their words were full of jealousy.
Lu Yao said it very well in "Ordinary World": When we were young, we often regarded "relatives" as beautiful and important. Once we grow up and start living independently, we quickly know that relatives are often vulgar; we try to benefit from each other, but roll our eyes if we don’t care about them; even the biggest difficulties in your life are often caused by relatives; life will also tell you that relatives are often not as sincere to you as friends.
I am leading the students, not everyone is asking me. If you want to be my apprentice, you can’t bear the hardship of writing, especially for full-time mothers. You would rather look at the man’s face, be a man who is bullied by his in-laws’ family and hurt by his language than change the status quo through his own abilities, and only complain and are not determined to get out of the predicament. Don’t come to me.
I don’t like being an emotional trash can or being a full-time mother. I know that I only like people who work hard, be positive and work hard to change their destiny.
There is only the housewife column in the table, and there is no freelancer option
I did not deny my identity as a housewife, but if I say it from someone else, it is somewhat ironic, I am not happy.
Once, a community staff came to register and needed to fill in the occupation. I looked around and couldn't find the option I wanted, so I asked the staff: "I work from home, don't have a freelancer option?"
The man said disdainfully: "There is only the housewife column in the form, and there is no freelancer option, so you can fill in the housewife."
At that moment, I was mixed. I am obviously a taxpayer and have contributed to society. Writers pay taxes for every 800 yuan more than 800 yuan. After all, self-media authors pay taxes according to the writer's standards. I am obviously a serious career, but because I am at home and not working in the company, I can only be a housewife, and I am somewhat contemptuous.
Full-time mothers, not only did they not see the hard work and efforts of raising children, but also did not recognize the society. After all, full-time mothers are not a profession. Because no one thinks that mothers need wages to raise children, and women need labor remuneration to do housework.
I don’t want them to be idle at home every day, so I spend a lot of time tutoring homework
Once, the kindergarten held a parent-teacher meeting. One parent’s original intention was to show that the kindergarten should not assign too many homework, and the parents were very busy and had no time to provide tutoring. She used her son and daughter-in-law as a case, saying that her son and daughter-in-law were so busy that she was not stuck in the ground, and she had a job for consultation and had to take care of her children's diet and daily life. She was already busy.
suddenly changed the subject and said: "It's not like they are idle at home every day, and they have plenty of time to tutor homework." When said it, he pointed to me, probably because he wanted to use me as a case, because there were three or four parents present, two of them were fathers. In her consciousness, her father has to work, and only full-time mothers don’t have a job and have plenty of time to spare at home.
Of course I know that this grandma just wanted to give an example and did not target me alone. But I was upset when I heard that. I replied unconsciously: "I have a job, and I don't have a lot of time to spend free time."
When she heard me refuting, she knew that she had made a mistake and quickly explained, "I know you have a job."
people are just very strange and can't stand it. This action is actually subconscious and cannot be pretended.
Later, as she had more time to contact, she would usually see her having sex with her children after school. It was obvious that her words were different when chatting. I will also say the previous sentence: "It's not easy for you. You have to take care of your children and work."
I am happy to accept it, and I also praise her for being able to do it. I take care of two grandchildren on one person, take care of all housework, and do consulting work. I am a strong woman.
Look, there is actually an invisible gap between people. Women who don’t make a penny, dress sloppy, and give their whole heart to their children and families can really only move themselves.
In the women's circle, there are some secrets in it, but you are moved by yourself and don't care.
Have you watched the TV series "Thirty Only"? Gu Jia is a middle class who has crossed the rich class. The rich wives are polite on the surface, but in fact they are digging a hole for her secretly and look down on her. Because these wives, in addition to having old money, also have their own careers. And Gu Jia, in their eyes, is just a poor woman and nothing.
There are rivers and lakes wherever there are people.
is not a woman looking down on the identity of a full-time mother. It is essentially: capable women look down on incompetent women, and rich people look down on incompetent people. The same goes for men. The strong prey on the weak and the survival of the fittest is the law of nature.
If you want to break through the circle and make people look up to you, you can only rely on your own efforts, especially for women who have nothing, and you must work harder.
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