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If you are very young now and have a cute baby, the most important person in your heart must be the baby at this time, which is a normal situation for everyone.
After having children, children are of course the most important part of our lives, and it is no surprise that they rank first. This is a reflection of a sense of responsibility of parents, and it is a reflection of great and silent fatherly love and maternal love. This kind of love is commendable.
But as your child grows up, becomes an adult, and starts a family and a career, your ranking in life should change. If you still think that your child is the most important, it means you are not a wise enough person.
Tell me about the important characters in life rank
In fact, for children, parents may not be the most important thing from the beginning, but when children are young, we don’t care. Sometimes when children grow up, parents start to feel sad.
After the child is born, the child is the first in the hearts of parents, and most people do this. I wonder if you have ever asked the child what is the most important thing to him (her).
I have asked my three-year-old baby a few questions: Who do you think your parents love the most?
She will answer: loves the baby the most.
I asked again: Then who do you love the most?
She would also answer without hesitation: loves Little Dirty Clouds the most (this is her favorite mutte).
Since children were born, they had many things to choose from, the love of their parents, the love of other parents, their beloved toys, etc., all occupy a very important position in their hearts.
As children grow up, they will have their own friends, their own lovers, and their own partners in the future. and then have their own children .
At this time, the children become parents, and the relationship between the most important characters in their hearts is constantly changing quietly. Maybe at some point in the past, parents were their most important people, But when they got married and had their own children, They will also love their children like their parents. The order of the relationship between the characters in their life changes significantly, and the children became their first .
In fact, parents have always been in a bystander position during the growth of children. The degree of participation of parents decreases as their children grows older. After the children get married and start a career, parents almost become outsiders.
There is nothing wrong with accepting this. Just think about yourself and you can easily accept such a process and result.
I only realized the importance of my wife after I got sick
I had already realized this ten years ago because of an experience from my mother.
At that time, I had just graduated and had a stable job. My sisters also had their own families and careers, and were busy with their own lives.
My mother had an accident at work and was hospitalized in Beijing for two months. We had no time to take care of her. Before we could speak, my father first asked: "No one of you needs to worry. With my mother who is with you, you can just work with peace of mind."
He didn't even let us visit Beijing, but we still went there and said everything was fine. With him to take care of my mother, we didn't have to worry.
After experiencing this illness, the mother and father quarreled significantly less because she knew that for her, the most important person was the old man who quarreled all day long.
. For us, if the relationship between is better, we will feel more at ease.
The most important person in life should be his partner and himself
Before watching a variety show, there was such a topic of life sorting. Yuan Shanshan 's father said that his daughter was his most important person, and he ranked his wife at the end.
After laughing, I felt a little sad. In fact, there are too many parents like Yuan Shanshan’s father in our country. They have always regarded their children as the most important people, but often ignore the partner who has always accompanied them to grow old.
This will easily cause the partner and the child to fall into a dilemma at the same time.
When children have their own family, parents will definitely become less important because they have more important people, wives, children, and small families.
Parents have invested more in their children. If they don’t want anything, it will not cause too many family conflicts. Once parents have something to ask for and start to feel sad because of their children’s neglect, family conflicts will become more and more .
Parents think they are innocent, but for small families, parents are "invaders" .
The status of people is changing, the concept is changing, and everything is changing. When children grow up, parents should adjust their status in time and adjust their family relationships in time. For the elderly, , partner and themselves are the most important. Adjusting to this position is a wise .
This adjustment is also a good thing for children. They will no longer feel guilty about being unable to separate. Parents have their own life and they can also be more relaxed and happier.
Family relationship is invisible and perceived. The family atmosphere exists in the hearts of every family member. Parents and children are well, make psychological adjustments, and do not cause trouble for each other. This is a warm big family. This atmosphere will definitely affect the children. Children who grow up in such a family atmosphere are undoubtedly the happiest children.
