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Yesterday, someone in the mother group mentioned this question: My child is almost two years old now, and he can only call him mom and dad, grandparents.
understands everything else, and you usually understand what it means when talking to him, and you can remember what you teach him, but you just don’t say it, just use your fingers.
Every time I see someone else's child not only can say complete sentences, but also sing children's songs, memorize ancient poems, and even chase after his parents to ask why.
I was both anxious and worried. Why are other people's children so smart, but my children can't even speak. Is they a fool?
However, the old man at home calmly said that the boy was stupider than the girl, and even comforted me that "the noble man spoke later". Maybe our children were more blessed than others.
I want to know if children are smarter to speak earlier or are smarter to speak later? If a child speaks too late, is it a blessing or an abnormal manifestation?
Since a friend happened to ask a similar question recently, let’s talk about it briefly today.
Is the earlier the child speaks, the smarter he is?
If the child speaks at six or seven months, many people's first reaction is to be surprised and happy, and then they think that the child is too smart.
However, although speaking early is related to intellectual development, children who speak early are not necessarily smarter than children who speak later.
This is because children learn language first, not through thinking.
If the family rarely talks and ignores language communication and communication with the child, then even if the child speaks early, there is no chance to exercise and develop in terms of thinking and concept. So much so that children cannot express their ideas clearly in words. Research by psychologists at
MIT also indirectly verified this. They found that children who chat and interact with their parents more often have more active brains. And he performed better in abilities such as language, language and reasoning.
In other words, children who speak early may not be smarter. But at least parents don’t have to worry about why their children can’t speak. However, if you pay attention to cultivating the development of children's language ability, it can promote intellectual development.
Is "Negotiable people's words slow" trustworthy?
The so-called "noble people speak late" does not mean that smart and wise people speak later. Instead, it refers to people with a valuable identity, who are generally cautious in their words and actions, and are meticulous in their hearts, and do not speak or speak loudly.
So, don’t over believe what noble people say.
Generally speaking, 2-3 years old is a critical period for children's language development, and it is also a period of high incidence of language development disorders. If the child is over 3 years old and still has not spoken for a long time and cannot clearly pronounce and understand what others say, it is best to go to the hospital for a check-up in time. There are many reasons for language delay, such as: genetics (one couple spoke late when they were young, or spoke fluently), tongue lace over short , hearing impairment, backward intellectual development, congenital skull development disorder, autism, and lack of a good language learning environment.
What aspects should we guide and train children to speak in normal times?
1. Unify the language of the family
If someone speaks hometown dialect, some people speak Mandarin , and the surrounding environment also comes into contact with more languages, it may cause some children to have language confusion and don’t know how to speak.
2. Encourage children to open their mouths and speak
When children use actions and other means to send us help signals, they can try to encourage children to express their ideas in words and provide them with more opportunities to speak.
If the child is unwilling to say it for the time being, we can help him say what he wants, such as: you want to drink milk, instead of just satisfying him.
3. Communicate with your children more
You should always talk to your children patiently and pay attention to speaking skills, such as repeating keywords many times during the process of playing and interacting with your children.
4. Pay attention to parent-child reading
Take time every day to accompany your children to read picture books of "language enlightenment" type.However, the premise is that the child must be interested in the content and be able to understand the pictures.
When reading with children, our tone and expression can be exaggerated, and actions and voices can be added appropriately. At the same time, ask questions in a timely manner and guide children to think.
Finally, I want to say that there are individual differences in speaking sooner or later, and every child has his own rhythm of language ability development. So, don't be too anxious. But don't ignore it and let it go.
Senior nanny, psychological counselor, author of original parenting comics articles,
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