The world of the baby is a very magical world, and many babies will do some behaviors that adults can't understand.
Princess' mother found that she didn't know when it started. Whenever the princess went to bed, she would "discourageously". She didn't go to bed well and would sleep as soon as she went to bed, but would hold her mother. Sometimes she would scratch her face with her fingers, and sometimes she would pat her mother "pia~pia~". When the child makes a fuss for a while, he will slowly go to bed.
The mother obviously doesn't like this situation of the princess, because sometimes she is very tired and she faints when she lies in bed. However, the princess just doesn't sleep, and the princess' behavior makes the mother unable to fall asleep. The princess is too young. If she educates the princess, the princess will not understand it, so Princess' mother is very distressed, why is her baby so unbearable?
Once, Princess' mother talked about this with her best friend. After listening, her best friend told Princess' mother that in fact, this behavior of the baby is not a manifestation of being unbeliever, but a manifestation of being very close to the mother. In the baby's heart, the more important the mother's status is, the more intense the baby's performance will be. Generally speaking, there are two types of typical baby's performance.
These two manifestations of babies before going to bed are actually expressing love to their mothers. Mom, don’t blame the baby
Performance 1: The baby likes to "beat and harass" mother
Why does the baby keep "beating and harassing" mothers when going to bed before going to bed? What about it when the mother takes care of the baby during the day, or other times? This is because the baby feels that he is going to sleep, and only with sufficient sense of security can the baby sleep better.
So, the baby improves his sense of security through frequent contact with his mother. This frequent contact with mothers actually means that the mother's status is very important in the baby's heart. The higher the frequency and frequency of contact between the baby and the more times it is, the more important the mother is in the baby's heart.
Of course, sometimes the baby is too sleepy and may sleep faster. This does not mean that the baby doesn’t love his mother anymore.
Expression 2: Babies like to "occupy" their mother's items
Sometimes, when the baby is sleeping, he will hold a mother's item in his hand, or hold his mother's clothes, etc. You can't even grab it. This is actually because the mother may often be unable to sleep with the baby.
And the baby chooses a replacement in order to gain a sense of security and experience the breath of mother. In essence, the baby actually loves his mother the most, but the mother is not here, so he can only replace it with his mother's items.
However, if this situation takes longer, the baby may develop item dependence, and his enthusiasm for a certain item seems to be more than that of the mother.
But the fact is that the baby knows that the mother cannot always be with her, and puts this luxury on the item. In normal times, the mother may feel that there is no item important in the baby's heart, but in fact, the mother is still the first in the baby's heart. However, the baby chose a substitute in order to give her mother "freedom".
After listening to the words of my best friend, Princess' mother suddenly felt that she had narrow-minded thoughts. The baby's passion for herself made her think she was ignorant, which was really ashamed.
However, some of the confusion caused by the baby's behavior to him also exists, so Princess' mother asked her best friend how to deal with this situation.
Best friend did encounter this situation before. His baby often interfered with him before going to bed, which consumed a lot of energy to "coax him to sleep". Sometimes he was so sleepy, but the baby was still "inciting evil" and couldn't fall asleep. However, later she successfully got rid of these confusions through a series of adjustments. I will share them with you here, hoping to help you.
Babies are hard to fall asleep. Parents do this and the baby sleeps until dawn.
● Actively touch the baby, making the baby feel safe
We know that many mothers will make the baby pat their baby when they coax the baby to fall asleep, but many people have never thought about what the effect of such an action will be.
In fact, this is a classic active touching behavior, which will make the baby passively feel the love and security from the mother, so the baby will naturally not be proactively disturbed by the mother.
Of course, the behavior that allows the baby to gain a sense of security is not only slap, but also other touching behaviors, as well as making the baby close to the mother and listening to the mother's heartbeat, are all good behaviors that give the baby a sense of security.
●Increase interaction with the baby during the day
If the baby consumes a lot of energy, then the baby will not have the energy to interfere with the mother for a long time before going to bed.
So, if you want to solve your confusion, your mother can increase interaction with your baby during the day, consume your baby's energy, and make your baby feel tired, so that the baby will not have the energy to interfere with your mother before going to bed.
● Establishing a bedtime ceremony
Bedtime ceremony is actually a habit . For example, when the mother tells a story to the baby before going to bed, then every time she goes to bed to tell a story, the baby may passively think that she is going to sleep, and then slowly fall asleep while listening to the story, so that it will naturally not disturb the mother's sleep anymore.
●Create a high-quality sleeping environment
If you want your baby to fall asleep quickly, a high-quality sleeping environment is indispensable. A high-quality sleeping environment includes high-quality air quality (fresh air, suitable temperature and humidity, no odor, suitable air flow speed, etc.), high-quality sound and light environment (try to have no light and try to silent sound, but it is suitable for white noise , such as the sound of home appliances running, the sound of TV without signals, etc., white noise has the effect of helping the baby fall asleep), high-quality somatosensory (bedding should be skin-friendly and soft, small bedding should be breathable, and the bed should be soft, etc.), etc., the better the environment, the faster the baby falls asleep.
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The baby's interference with the mother before going to bed is a manifestation of love for the baby and a affirmation of the mother. Mom should not blame the baby for being ignorant indiscriminately, but should recognize the truth of the matter and make appropriate responses.
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