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It is not an easy task to raise a child. A child is a person, with thoughts and emotions, not a kitten or a dog, just give him a bite of food. The responsibility of raising children is very great. If you cannot bear this responsibility, don’t take care of the children.
To take care of a child, not only should he give him food, clothing, housing, etc., be responsible for his daily life, but also for his education. Education is a major subject, and the future of a child is directly related to education, so the responsibility of raising a child is very great.
If you want to help someone else take care of your children, you should help you with a little, or take care of them for a few days, and that’s fine. Even if there are difficulties, overcome them. Everyone has temporary difficulties. But if you want to help take care of your children for a long time, you must make careful choices and think twice before acting.
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After the daughter-in-law gave birth to a child, the mother-in-law went to take care of her during confinement and took the child from her elder sister-in-law's family. The daughter-in-law was very angry and asked her mother-in-law to send her grandson back to her aunt's house, but her mother-in-law disagreed and said that bringing one is just a way to bring two is just a way to bring them.
This happened at Yu Fengzhen's house. On the day Yu Fengzhen's full moon, his grandson fell and his nose was bleeding. The eldest sister-in-law and his wife were furious, and the mother-in-law cried in grievance. Let’s listen to their family’s stories.
Self-reporter: Yu Fengzhen
Age: 29 years old
Occupation: clerk
City: Xinghua
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After my husband and I got married, we lived separately from our in-laws. We lived in the city and our in-laws lived in the countryside. Every weekend, my husband and I would go to my parents-in-law's house and my parents' house, and we would take turns going on both sides. Because my mother-in-law and I rarely meet, there is no conflict and we are polite.
I became pregnant after half a year of marriage. My husband and I were naturally very happy, and both parents were also very happy. Because I have a severe pregnancy reaction, I feel disgusted as soon as I smell the food, so I can’t even cook the rice.
My husband is very busy at work and very tired. Every day after going home from get off work, he still has to eat takeout or cook by himself. I feel very sorry. My husband wants my mother-in-law to take care of us and will talk about it after my morning sickness is over.
But when he called his mother-in-law, the mother-in-law said she had no time to come because her elder sister sent the child to her place and asked her to help take care of the child. My eldest sister-in-law’s son is 6 years old and is in kindergarten. He was originally the eldest sister-in-law’s mother-in-law who took care of the children.
But my aunt and sister-in-law had a fight with her mother-in-law, so she didn't want her mother-in-law to take care of the children. My aunt and her husband were going to work and couldn't take care of the child, so they sent the child to my mother-in-law. After hearing my mother-in-law say she wants to take her grandson, she didn't force her mother-in-law to come. At that time, we thought her mother-in-law was temporarily helping to take her grandson.
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Later, until I gave birth to a child, my mother-in-law helped my aunt and sister-in-law take care of the children. My elder sister-in-law and his wife didn’t pay a penny. The child’s expenses were all borne by my parents-in-law, and even the money for going to kindergarten was paid by my parents-in-law.
When my mother-in-law complained to my husband that she had no money, her husband was very angry and said that she shouldn't have borne all the expenses of her grandson. The mother-in-law said it was very difficult, and the elder sister-in-law and her husband threw the child to her, and she couldn't ignore it.
After I gave birth to my child, my husband asked my mother-in-law to send my grandson back to my aunt's house and then came to take care of me during confinement. The mother-in-law agreed with a "yes, yes, yes," but did not send the child back in the action, but took the child to our house with her.
My mother-in-law brought her grandson to take care of me during confinement. It was summer vacation at that time, and her grandson was at home every day, and he was at the age of naughty. My mother-in-law was busy taking care of my grandson. I still had a lot of energy to take care of me. I was very unhappy, so I asked my mother-in-law to send my grandson back to my aunt's house.
But my mother-in-law said that bringing one is also a carry, and bringing two is also a carry. Once you have to endure it, it will be over. We had no choice but to make a decision on our mother-in-law, so we had to make a promise, and our grandson lived in our house. I was in confinement and should have a good rest, but my grandson was making noise every day and I couldn't have a good rest.
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Sometimes, I finally coaxed my son to sleep, and my grandson's noise woke him up again, and I felt very angry. My grandson also likes to paint and paint the originally clean walls of the house.
I naturally need to nourish my body during confinement, but my grandson always rushes to eat everything. In fact, he couldn't eat much, but he just liked to take advantage of the delicious food. On the table, , sometimes he would stir the dishes everywhere, and he would cry and make a fuss if he wanted to talk about him.
The husband told his mother-in-law that this would not work, and the child should be taken care of. He asked the mother-in-law to take good care of his grandson. But the mother-in-law said she couldn't care. If she was aggressive to the child, the child would complain to her parents, and the son-in-law would think that her mother-in-law would no longer care about her grandson.
My husband was very angry. Sometimes he would take care of his children as his uncle, but my mother-in-law always protected the children and scolded my husband. Because my mother-in-law spoiled her grandson so much, her grandson was very willful and always did whatever she wanted and was lawless.
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Later, my husband called my aunt and asked her to take the child back and take care of her. My aunt and sister-in-law quarreled with my husband on the phone and said that her mother-in-law is her and my husband's common mother. Why can mother help us take care of the children but not her?
My husband didn't give in and said, "My child has my surname. Whose child has the surname? Whose child has the surname, will be responsible for the family."
After the eldest sister-in-law hung up the phone, she called her mother-in-law and then quarreled with her mother-in-law on the phone. My mother-in-law was in a dilemma and could only comfort my aunt and sister-in-law on the phone and blame my husband for something wrong.
During the month of my confinement, my family was uneasy because of my grandson. Later, I finally got through the confinement period. On the day of confinement, my husband invited my parents and brother’s family. My elder sister-in-law and his wife, and my father-in-law, naturally, came and we all had a meal together.
While eating, my mother-in-law was busy serving the food. She didn't care about her grandson, and her grandson fell and her nose was bleeding. When the elder sister-in-law and his wife saw it, they felt very distressed and immediately scolded their mother-in-law. The couple said one by one, and they blamed their mother-in-law for not taking care of the children well, as if they owe them what they were.
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My mother-in-law felt wronged and paid and worked hard to take care of her grandson. Her grandson accidentally fell down, and her elder sister-in-law and her husband were going to scold her like this. However, my mother-in-law was there at that time, and she didn't say anything, just hid in the kitchen.
After dinner, my mother's family went back first. When the elder sister-in-law and his wife were about to leave, the elder sister-in-law said to her mother-in-law in a very unceremonious to ask her to take care of her grandson, and not just take care of her grandson, and not take care of her grandson.
Now my mother-in-law finally couldn't bear it anymore and started arguing with her elder sister-in-law, the more she quarreled, the more fierce she became. Finally, my father-in-law spoke, asking my elder sister-in-law and his wife to take their grandson back. From then on, my mother-in-law didn't help them with me because my mother-in-law was going to take care of her grandson.
The elder sister-in-law and his wife were naturally very unhappy and left with their children. After the elder sister-in-law and her family left, her husband and father-in-law scolded her mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law cried with grievance. I thought she was very pitiful, so I comforted her and apologized to me, saying that I had not taken good care of me in the past month.
Later, the elder sister-in-law rarely came back to her parents' home, and we rarely went to her elder sister-in-law's home. My mother-in-law has been staying at our house to take care of the children. My father-in-law comes to see her every now and then. Sometimes she lives in our house. The whole family lives a good life.
Conclusion:
Mother-in-law helps her aunt and sister-in-law take care of her children, so you should also pay attention to your proper care. Since the son's family has given birth, the mother-in-law cannot just care about her grandson and ignore her grandson, otherwise it will inevitably lead to family conflicts.
Yu Fengzhen’s elder sister-in-law’s family cannot throw the child to her mother-in-law, and she neither pays or works. Parents have the obligation to raise their children, and grandparents and grandparents do not have this obligation. Every couple must bear their own responsibilities.
Yu Fengzhen's mother-in-law kindly helped her daughter's family take care of the children. She took care of her daughter's family well, but she didn't have any words of gratitude to her family. But when the child fell and injured, her daughter and son-in-law immediately blamed her. Of course, she felt wronged.Sometimes the more you do, the more you make mistakes and complain. This is also due to human nature.
Family members should help each other, but they should not take help from others for granted. Everyone should be grateful. In families with many children, since the daughter is married, the daughter should put the in-laws first. Do not transfer the troubles encountered in the in-laws’ family to the mother’s family and cannot create family conflicts.
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